I can't stand quite a few of my boyfriend's friends. They're self-centered and unfriendly. I try to initiate conversation with them and they basically ignore me and focus on my boyfriend. One of them is his former boss, who pretty much has a man-crush on him. He's fascinated by him.The other is a girl who dated his former boss' brother-in-law. She is obsessed with my boyfriend along with this other girl who used to "date" (she said they went out a couple of times) my boyfriend. None of them have reciprocated my efforts to be friendly to them or even polite. His closest girl friend invites him out with her all the time without inviting me. It's really annoying and it really bothers me.
I've told my boyfriend that I don't particularly care for some of his former boss' mannerisms and attitudes on certain things and it came as sort of a surprise to my boyfriend.
How do I cope with this other than just talk to him and is there any way to do it tactfully to not drag him into the middle?
2007-01-15 08:36:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely have put effort in on trying to like these people. I wished his best gal pal a happy birthday on her myspace. The former boss, however, thinks women are inferior (you should hear what he says to his wife). So he won't even look at me.
So don't tell me that I need to put the extra effort in.
And also, I do agree that separate friends is ok, but when the girl blatantly has more-than-friend feelings for my boyfriend and wants to spend time with him along with another girl he used to date, that naturally will make me uncomfortable.
2007-01-15 08:48:50 · update #1
He spends more time turning that girl down than he does actually with her and I know that to be true.
Still, it's just the fact that he even talks to her...
2007-01-15 08:51:14 · update #2
I would say just let him hang out with them when he wants to . Then make sure yall have friends yall can hang out with together but then also friends you can go to separate from that. It isn't a bad thing to have different people to hang out with .
2007-01-15 08:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by teacuptiff86042002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because those are his friends does not mean that they have to be your friends also. I say quit trying to be nice to them if they don't want to have anything to do with you. Eventually they'll ask him why you don't hang with them, but until then, get you some friends or hang with your friends and leave his alone. I also think that you should let him know that it is rude and disrespectful for him to keep going out with that girl without you. If he doesn't get the hint, then maybe he doesn't care.
2007-01-15 16:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to try harder to be friends with these people and quit putting so much pressure on your boyfriend. Quite frankly, I'm appalled that you told him about this, as if its his fault. How about a little effort here? Quit whining and fix the problem. Perhaps you should call these people up on your own and make plans. Go out with his former boss and maybe even try sleeping with him. This should do wonders for your relationships.
2007-01-15 16:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Thais N 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my boyfriend on the other hand never takes me out to meet his friends, i could not stand to go out with someone who had a girl as a friend who invited him out, ur being take for a MUG!!! if he thought anything of you he would see how they are not very nice people and not put you in that situation, what i mean is put you 1st.
what you need to do now is tell him his behaviour is not acceptable, ur not going to continue this relationship if he does not accept that there should only be 1 woman in his life that he goes out with alone!
tell him that its either all or nothing, what i mean by that is, you should say, you either make me apart of everything you do and no go off with girls alone, you either make me apart of what you do or it ends!
i cant believe what im reading, and i thought my boyfriend was bad, how the hell do you put yourself through this.
come on man...he has a woman that fancies him and gay man and a friend he goes off with and not to mention his friends are stuck up arseholes, out ur foot down now and take control or walk. theres no way any woman who would put up with this.
2007-01-15 16:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they know something you don't know.
You said they all basically "worship" him. Maybe they will never think anyone is good enough for him.
fukkem.
2007-01-15 16:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Bros before Hos...
2007-01-15 16:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, just be sincere. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't act differently, then dump him.
2007-01-15 16:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋