My boyfriend got really pissed off on Saturday night. I called on his entry phone at 4am while I was out with a GIRLfriend. I just missed him... the club we were heading to is down his flat, my frien and I were a bit drunk and my boyfriend was sick at home and hand't seen him since the day before, when I was at his looking after him. But he got so mad at me and hung up. I tried to call him at home because he lost his cellular at Christmas when we were in Barcelona... Today haven't phoned, but this morning I wrote him an email saying I'm so sorry and I miss him. My friends have told me to be patient, now he's angry and he's really stubborn... but i'm so worried now. Should I try and call him for example tomorrow evening... or should I wait? Please, I need advice.
2007-01-15 08:33:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey I already answered this one, look, he is just ticked for the moment, leave him alone for a day or two, he is mad cause you were drunk and out with your mates....give him some time and don't do it again....good luck.
2007-01-15 08:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... do you want to do the right thing? Or manipulate him?
If the latter, then wait. Play a game. Do the girly thing. Be a be-atch. Maybe he'll get sick of you and dump you.
If the former, start off by apologizing for your rudeness in calling at 4 am - when you knew he was sick. Tell him you realize it was cruel to call him to say what a good time you were having - when you knew he was sick. Beg his forgiveness for getting drunk and - come on now, be honest - flirting with the guys at the club.
Promise it will never happen again. Then stick to your promise.
Oh yeah. One more thing.
No emails. No phone calls. No notes. Do it IN PERSON.
2007-01-15 16:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by A_Patriot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get Pissed off too if my drunk girlfriend called at 4am, especially if I were sick. It's not my imagination, but there is nothing worse than a drunk girlfriend. You are slithering down the slippery path to being an ex-girlfriend. Let this blow over. Don't call him. If he is still interested in you , he will call you. Maybe in the future, you should not go out trolling with your girlfriends, but you should stay with your boyfriend and take care of him when he is sick.
2007-01-15 16:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by paulbritmolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm
That story, and your spelling and grammar, are a bit hard to follow. Is he mad because you were out clubbing and getting drunk with your friend while he was sick at home? Maybe he has a valid point--- Maybe you don't actually care for him all that much.
Or maybe he is trying to control you when you are not wanting to be tied down. His refusal to speak to you is just another method of control. (Passive agressive, to be technical)
It seems to me you need to calmly sit down and think about what you really DO want--- where you want this relationship to go, and what you must do to make that happen. Then you need to get together with him and hear what he wants, and what he is willing to do to make that happen. Both people must be ready to work on the relationship if it matters enough to them. Otherwise, MOVE ON.
2007-01-15 16:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made every attempt you can to let him know that you are sorry about upsetting him and know it's up to him to accept it or not. Some people take time to get over things so just give him a little breathing room. Wait about a week and try to contact him again. If he loves you he'll probably contact you before this, if not then he may just need a little time.
2007-01-15 16:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends said be patience, so u have to be patience. Just one more time, email him and tell him that you will wait for him to reply you as soon he has to. Also tell him that if you havent hear from him, you will feel hurt badly. I am sure that he already know that you been tryin to contact him. IF he refused to contact him, its very rude of him do like this. Sometimes something happened, it happened and no one can blame abt that. Its ok that you were drunk and happened to call him, its normal, its part of drunk, he should understand that and he should forgive you BUT he won't accept your excuse.
2007-01-15 16:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is the key here unless you dont really like the guy in which case its the ideal situation to get rid of him.Im sure he has a very good reason for being such a prick.,but give him the benefit of the doubt until you find out the real reason behind his attitude.
Best of luck.
2007-01-15 16:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by ytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call an apologize, saying that you just need a little breeder that is why you went out with your friend instead of attending more to his need, your boyfriend might be thinking that your self fish even though you spend the previous day taking care of him you should be doing more......if he treats you good and is there for you too you should do the same for him, one good love deserve another
2007-01-15 16:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him get over his PO, I am sure he didn't appreciate the 4am visit and has a right to be put off, he will come around when he is over it, if you have apologized there is nothing else you can do, besides he is probably trying to teach you a lesson, , so you might tell him message received and understood
2007-01-15 16:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't add fuel to the fire. I would leave it alone for right now and maybe have one of your friends call him and tell him how upset you are and that you really miss him.Then let him make the next move
2007-01-15 16:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋