Recently there has been a guy that i met while he is workin behind a bar, and we get on really well. but he has a girlfriend. He has told me he is tempted by me, but would never cheat on his girlfirend, plus i wouldnt let this happen as i have been the girl that has been cheated ON.
Last night we were talking and having a laugh, and he told me that people are now ''talking'' about whats going on. i was upset, and i told him i would stay away for a while but he said he would be so angry !
i think he likes me, as he has made this clear, and i do like him, but we both respect our current positions.
Im just wondering, should i wipe this from my head as hard as it is. i cant stop thinkin about him.
what do i do???
2007-01-15 08:20:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered your own question: He has told me he is tempted by me, but would never cheat on his girlfirend, plus i wouldnt let this happen as i have been the girl that has been cheated ON.
2007-01-15 08:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Red C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you could do is wait. Like you said, you know how it feels to be cheated on. The only thing he could do is, if he is not happy with his girlfriend is break up with her. Then he will be fair game.
Otherwise, I would try to stay away. If temptation is not to strong, then maybe talking every once in a while would not hurt, but as friends only. Even so if you do that, it might block the chance for somebody else to come along and sweep you off of your feet.
Kinda tough! Good luck.
2007-01-15 16:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that he won't cheat on you once he finds some other woman at his bar that piques his interest? Do you really think that you are the first woman to be in this situation with him? The man works in a bar and always has women throwing themselves at him. What do you suppose the ratio is for the number he actually takes home with him? Move on! Try to meet a guy somewhere besides a bar...or you will constantly be disappointed!
2007-01-15 16:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by stacey24bluegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately move right along. Maybe stop back in 6 months down the line and see if he is still attached. I respect you for respecting that he is involved. Unfortunately, there are too many people out there that don't respect their partners and will cheat on them, and others that don't respect themselves enough to get involved with someone they know has a partner.
Definately stay away- if he gets "angry" because you stay away, then maybe he isn't in right for you- because angry men are best to stay away from.
-EA
2007-01-15 16:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. Men and women just can't be friends like that. Once you have feelings (like him) its just going to complicate your life because then you're going to do as I did and think about him all the time. He's going to be going on with his life, his gf, happily and you'll end up with the short end of the stick. Just leave it alone. Evidently its truly not meant to be because if it were, he wouldn't have had a gf at all. Both of you would have been single and it would be just that easy. Good luck.
2007-01-15 16:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can politely tell him that you don't want to come between him and his girlfriend, that the two of you will remain strictly friends until a time when you are both single. Then stick to your guns and if he continues to hit on you while he's got a girlfriend, mark him in the "cheater" column in your head and deal with him appropriately.
2007-01-15 16:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the right thing to do - forget about him, he's not available. So, since you posted this, you must be seeking "approval" to "go for it", sorry.
Remember what it felt like to be "cheated on", do you really want to inflict that hurt on someone else? Sounds to me like he wants to "have his cake and eat it too", he's being "selfish" and putting his own interest above your well being. He has nothing to offer you, move on.
I'm sure there are lots of "available" guys you could be hooking up with who are able to offer you what you are looking for.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-15 16:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in the same place with this guy until he breaks up with his girl friend and you are certain of it.
Stop ignoring your own smarter self. Get real. Should not be any question about what you should do. You are just fooling your self or you would not be asking this question. You know the answer.
2007-01-15 16:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your fellow woman. Don't do it. Respect yourself too. Besides would you want to go out with someone that is a cheat? If he breaks up with her that's a different story.
2007-01-15 16:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's keeping you around as his "just in case girl". He's taken, don't even think about getting emotionally attached to him cause it'll be nothing but hurt for you. When he does break up with his g/f, you'll be the one he calls to get a rebound. Move on!
My Rule #5: NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER date a bartender!
2007-01-15 16:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by albion53151 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋