ugly never date??????

Question

I am quite ugly, and short 5'5, it is very difficult for me to start conversation with girl, as you know look is first impression then personality, so if a girl not every respond to you’re hi, how you going to show her personality... I go to the bar, only way they talk to me if I buy them drink, and then they disappeared, like this weekend I brought drink for about ten girls and spend more then 300 dollars, not even one girl spend more then five minute talking with me .If I give a smile to girl at bar/sport club/shop/restaurant/work, no body smile back to me.. So how I start conversation and if I say hi, they look me with bad face. I am new to the area, so not many friends... B/c of my look, even my coworkers don’t let me come with them when they go out for drinks/party etc...

So where I go, it means I will remain single for the rest of my life...I try online service, things go well till they see my picture... I am professional and financially stable…but very lonelyyyyyyyyyy..

Answer 1

That's pretty mean and shallow of your coworkers to not allow you to come out with them. Looks shouldn't matter to them, not like you are trying to date any of them. As for the girls not talking to you unless you buy them a drink, try and use maybe a cheesy pickup line to make the girl laugh. Be funny. Girls like guys that are funny. Be more confident. If you have an attitude that you are not going to get anyone then you probably won't. You have to have some confidence that you will find someone who is going to be interested in you. Next time you go out have an attitude that you can get any girl you want to be interested in you and that you're the best looking man in the place. Good luck!

Answer 2

So even if you're NOT the world's hottest person, you have to have something going for you other than physical attributes. Maybe you shouldn't try and find that special person in a bar/club atmosphere. Try your local gym or church. You can't be one of those people that sit back and wait to be invited places. Go out on your own and do things. Speak up when someones having a conversation or better yet, y don't u b the one to start a conversation? U can't really believe that your appearance is keeping you from enjoying your life. Send me a pic and I'll see exactly what you're workin' with...

Answer 3

Dude....STOP!!! You've got the wrong idea. Stop trying so damn hard! First of all, have some respect for yourself. Calling yourself ugly and going out to bars kissing every girls *** and spending $300 on drinks for random chicks is not the way to go. You need to relax. I'm sure you come off as a desperate loser, and guess what...its not because of the way you look!!! It's because of the way you act.

I'm not saying that looks don't matter, but women aren't the same as men...they aren't AS concerned with looks as we are. Think about it. How many times do you see hot chicks with ugly guys compared to good looking men dating ugly girls? The former happens WAY more that the latter. It sounds to me like you just need to gain some self-confidence, and quit focusing on all the negative.

I don't know what "ugly" means, either, but there are things you can do about that, too. If you're not happy with the way you look, then do something about it (so long as you don't get obsessed). Then, instead of focusing SO much on trying to hook up with somebody when you go out, why don't you focus on just having a good time and being happy. This is far more attractive than the "loser" buying drinks for every skirt within 30 feet of him.

Answer 4

Bars are not the best place to meet the girl of your dreams. Bars tend to be meat markets in which the patrons often judge each other via external criteria.

It seems to me that you are trying too hard. There is no sure way to get a date. I suggest letting things come natural. And accept when they don't always go your way.

I'm a decent looking guy and dates are not easy for me to come by either, so your not in the dateless game alone.

What I have found in my many years of experience is when I was young and dumb I did have more relationships. But looking back upon it now I realize would not have dated the vast majority of them again.

As you mature the possibilities of finding a date diminishes because there are less mature people in this world than mature ones. However, and this is a BIG HOWEVER, when you do find someone to date it is much more likely to be lasting.

I suggest working on yourself. Educate yourself with good books. Get into shape by exercising. Work on yourself spiritually by seeking, praying, meditating, etc. I personally like yoga as it incorporates both the spiritual and physical elements.

There are a host of other things you can do to better yourself like improving your dietary habits, travel, and just as importantly choosing who you hang around with. It sounds like your associates are not very nice people. With friends like those who needs enemies? It is better to have a few good friends than a host of false faces.

Don't worry, just be genuine and the people you need to be around will naturally be attracted to you.

Loneliness is a universal problem. It comes and goes in cycles so don't be distraught.

Have faith things will work out. If you don't have faith there is no chance at all. But if you believe the probability things will work out greatly increases.

I Sincerely wish you the best.

Answer 5

Dude your looking for the wrong girls! let them come to you. Stop letting them abuse you. STOP spending your money on things that won't happen with those girls. And not everyone looks at looks first. I don't. I think it's the inside of a person that makes or breaks someone. Besides what good are looks when they like to abuse people. You should quit trying so hard and be yourself. That's charming.

Answer 6

Awww....I am sorry to hear that you feel that way about yourself!! Next time....don't buy ten drinks for ten girls.....the third drink should have told you something. You need more confidence. Believe me that will get you some attention. I don't know what you look like, but maybe get a makeover...like new outfit and hair do. If its really that bad....try plastic surgery!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 7

Maybe you ought to stop looking for girls in bars/nightclubs/sports clubs/etc. Find an activity that you enjoy doing, and girls enjoy doing as well. I met my husband at church.
It seems to me that the girls who hang out in bars/clubs/etc., are rather shallow girls, and are the types that would put physical attractiveness ahead of everything else. You don't want a girl like that. There is a girl out there that will enjoy being with you for who you are. You have to find her, and she's not in a bar.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Hey,

If the normal night life isnt working out, try internet dating.

Also dont waste your money on buying girls drinks, i dont buy girls drinks unless they have already shown an interest. If they cant afford drinks they shouldnt go out.

Answer 10

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