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I looked on my bf phone and seen that he called his ex at 2:00am and I got his phone and I threw it against the wall and said what is that about get out of my place and its over he said it was a stupid act and his so sorry for doing this. He has cheated on me in the past but forgave him and I just don't trust him, its just so hard to get over this I feel hurt and he wants to come back what should I do? this is my daughter's father we are 25. I'm just tired but its hard. Thanks everyone answering appriciate it very much.

2007-01-15 08:14:56 · 36 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

36 answers

If he cheated once, he'll do it again. Don't let him come back. There are better men out there that won't cheat on you. There is nothing worse than a cheater and a liar. If you have one, you have the other. They both go hand in hand.

I had a b/f that cheated on me. I left him and he moved in with the women he was fooling around with. they got married a yr later and 2 yrs after that, he was cheating on her too. I know this because we have a mutual friend and she is always telling me what he's up to.

There are good men out there, they're just hard to find! It took me almost 20 yrs to finally find a man that I could trust. We dated for 3 yrs, lived together for a yr and have now been married for 8 yrs and I have never once suspected that he has cheated on me or was made to feel jealous or suspicious of him.

Just stay single, enjoy your daughters growing up years and when you least expect it, Mr right will fall into your lap without you even trying.

2007-01-15 08:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by suzyq 3 · 0 0

Here's the deal being cheated on is very hard to get over and deal with. But just because he's cheated once doesnt mean he's going to cheat again. But if he's cheated twice well then you need to just realize he's not going to change anytime soon. I understand this is your childs father and for that very reason alone you would want this relationship to work but if you arent happy the child will soon sense that and will end up hurt anyways from having to see all this between you and her daddy. If you can't forgive and forget, if you can't trust him then there is no reason for yall to be together. A relationship is based on trust, it's a must have thing. If you cant then try the 2 of yall just being friends and slowly work on being a couple again after you feel you can trust him and that he's there because he wants to be with you and only you.

2007-01-15 08:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, kick him to the curb and really mean it....don't settle for all the whining and games that will no doubt be played considering you have a child together.

Take care of your child's business together and that's it. I know it's easier said than done....but this guy has cheated in the past and is now calling his ex in the middle of the night. What a jerk. Things aren't going to get better, trust me! Take care of your daughter, focus on that, and let him know you are not going to tolerate his crap any more! You have to be firm NOW otherwise he is always going to think he can come back.

2007-01-15 08:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 3 · 0 0

i would want to kick him to the curb but i know how hard it could be. U need to think of your daughter everytime cause he doesn't. It seems like he only want to come back because he knows that u will let him and that after a while he will be able to do the same thing. U don't want him to keep doing that to u right? And think about it u don't want your daughter to think its ok for a man to treat her like that and also just because he is your baby daddy doesnt mean u have to be with him. There are guys who are ok with women who already have children and will treat them like their own...better than how your bd is treating u and your child. i would let him go. tell him to move w/ that ex or whoever he cheated with

2007-01-15 08:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by JAY 3 · 0 0

Yeah, i might want to have an issue with this. at the same time as he spends time such as his son, he must be coming over on your position and spending time such as his father there with you coated. The ex-spouse ought to bow out of the picture. you should set some barriers in this problem, otherwise not something is going to regulate. Your boyfriend isn't respecting your thoughts right here in any respect. do not flow decrease back basically yet till both of you could arise with some barriers on the problem. If he would not favor to regulate something, then your better off without him. solid success!

2016-12-02 08:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0 0

well for one he has no business talking to her at all or much less at 2 in the morning i understand why this could be hard becasue of your daughter but do whats best for her she doesnt need to be around a negative relationship and seeing all the fights and stuff you know.... he cheated the first time and u forgave him so he thinks he can do it again.. i think if u take him back your telling him yeah its ok go out and do it again ill b here when u get home... good luck hon

2007-01-15 08:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by steph 2 · 0 0

You already know the answer to this, you should have thrown the cheating asshole through the wall, men like him give good men bad reputations, we all arent that way women do it too, my wife of 11 years cheated on me for 2 of them, i say that we throw both of them through the wall, i know id feel better, and yes i divorced her, hes trash throw the bastard out, and find a man not a boy that cant keep his pants up

2007-01-15 08:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by waterboy 4 · 2 0

Yes you should its obvious that she is a constant thing that is on his mind and he is not yet over her. So if he has to think and talk with her on a regular then i would move out of both of their way and let them both have at each other. As far as the child, that would be the only relation that me and him would have. I would allow him rights as long as he is there for her and is willing to take on his fatherly duties. Honey you can do bad by yourself. And the co motion and stress is not worth it.........trust me

2007-01-15 08:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by LOVELYLADYLEO69 6 1 · 0 0

Sweetie if he cheated once he'll do it again. Especially if you found he called his ex so late at night. Cheaters can always apologize, but they usually don't learn. Baby-girl you deserve better than that and I'm sure you could find better. Hang in there and be strong for you and your daughter.

2007-01-15 08:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 2 · 0 0

if he's cheated once he'll most likely do it again and if you don't trust him then why stay with him. i myself live by why be miserable with someone else when i'm much happier by myself at this time of my life. just because he's your daughter's father doesn't make him the sole man in your life, you may hurt for awhile but you could find someone better.

2007-01-15 08:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by simplegirlfeb1972 1 · 0 0

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