My parents are really unfair. They never let me go anywhere with my friends or anything. They won't even let me babysit so I don't have to ask them for money everytime i need it. I hate this so much I haev tried EVERYTHING. they are absolutely crazy. I dont know what to do. I have tried talking to them, I have tried bargaining with them. But they dont listen to anything I say and they insist on giving me hour-long lectures everytime I want to do something fun.
2007-01-15 08:05:35 · 16 answers · asked by snapdragon812 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok i dont want to tell my age or where i live, but i can tell u i am almost legally able to drive in my state and the city that I live in was named safest city in my state for the last two years. My brother is 25. He still lives at our house and does not pay rent and he gets to do w.e he wants. Rite now, he is angry at my parents are is dealing with it by not talking to any member of the family except for my sister, who lives in England. My parents refuse to do anything but kiss up to him and its driving me INSANE!!!!! they only do this because he is the oldest child and only male child in our family. he is 25 but acts like he's 12. I have tried being obedient, the only thing that comes out of it is my parents walk all over me and make do things that my brother doesn't want to do or is too busy to do. My school counseler tells me I am naive, but i dont think I am. What do i do!!?!?!!
2007-01-16 13:22:07 · update #1
It seems that there is a break down in communication. More than likely it is a butting of heads you being set in what you want and them being set in what they want, no compromise. I would suggest sitting down with them and figuring out why they feel the way they do and just listen, don't get defensive. Then explain your view as calm and clear as possible. Maybe if you suggest babysitting at your house and they can see how responsible you can be this may help the situation. Everyone needs to work together and give a little so everyone is ultimately happy. It's not always the easiest thing but if you all understand where each other is coming from a compromise should be able to be met.
2007-01-15 08:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I don't know your age, but your parents are trying to act in your best interests. (Believe it or not) They may be a little too cautious, as some are, but one day you will understand why they do the things they do when it comes to their children/child.
Being an only girl in a family of 7 kids, I can totally relate to your frustration at not being allowed to stay out late, go places with friends, etc. It seemed my brothers had no boundaries but I, like you, wasn't afforded the same freedom as my brothers were, and it caused me on going frustration. I thought I hated my mother (she was the law maker) and I really resented my brothers for it.
Your parents are afraid for you...They've been out there in the world as youths and they know the dangers that lurk behind every tree, they know about the availability of drugs and alcohol, and the damage that can be caused from their use. They know that females, especially young, unsuspecting females, can be easily persuaded to do just about anything if they have an interest in some young man. They know because they've been there themselves.
Good luck to you and don't try to grow up too fast. You'll miss out on your youth and that's something you can never get back. Once it's gone...It's gone for good.
2007-01-15 08:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And where are your friends going and what are they doing? If you tell them that you'd like to earn your own money rather than taking theirs I'm sure they wouldn't complain. ;)
If they think you're too young to babysit, why not offer to help around the house for an allowance?
2007-01-15 08:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anne-Arky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without your age it's hard to say...
are you responsible enough to babysit? what examples do you give them for your trust. what geographic area are you from? I'd never let a daughter of mine run the streets of LosAngeles. maybe they are overly protective for a reason. all you can do is earn their trust, do the best you know how to do and keep at them about going out, you never know, at some point they just may say yes!
2007-01-15 08:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should show them you can be responsible to go on your on to do these fun things like doing something that you know should be done with out them asking you to do it also quite telling them why you feel that you should be able to do something because in there eyes all they see is they have to protect there baby I hope this will help you
2007-01-15 08:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by Selah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to back off, your a big girl, and that you need to have some normal time to your self without your parents around. It worked with my grandparents maybe they'll relize hey she's not so little any more and give you some freedom.
2007-01-15 08:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by lill_angel_07_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should look into family counseling- if you really are a responsible kid, there's no reason why you shouldn't be trusted to do things on your own or with friends. Hopefully your parents will respond to another adult if they won't listen to you.
2007-01-15 08:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by jazzygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sneak out with your fiends give them a taste of there own medican if this continues i suggest seeeing a school counsler or just really sit down and talk to your parents make them feel your pain..
2007-01-15 08:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that sice you can't have a job they should get you the stuff you want/need an stat to tell them or give them a list. once they see how much it all adds up to maybe they will let you get a jod. tell them that since it will be expensive to get it all you thought you should be responsible and get a job to pay for it.
2007-01-15 08:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should go for family counseling if you feel this way. talking will be hard, but to get your parents to become fair people, that seems the only way left
2007-01-15 08:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋