how do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you?and what do you do about it?

Answer 1

If you're naked and he calls you by another name he is probably cheating. If he says I know this girl named "Diamond" and she likes to do like this, He is probably cheating. If you get gonorrhea or chlamydia and he said it came from a toilet seat, he is cheating on you.

Once you decide that he is a lying scumbag (there are honorable caring men out there) and you break up with him make sure you tell him you are leaving him for a woman. Not only will he be so upset that you dumped him but the fact that he didn't get to participate in a three-some will eternally drive him nuts. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Sometimes its impossible to tell, but I know that when my ex was messing around on me he did the shadiest things. We go to a small college, so you see people you know everywhere you go. And I would go over to his apartment and say "Why don't we go for a walk?" or "Lets go get something to eat" and he would refuse to leave....but then had no problem going out with his friends that night. Or if I saw him and he was around another girl he would just act really fishy, and not want to talk (and I dont mean serious conversation) or be around. And the other weird thing was his cell phone. Anytime we were hanging around in his room, as that became our damn date spot, I would silence the ringer if it were any of my friends. And he would silence his if it was his guy friends...but anytime it was a girl he'd answer it, "What am I doing right now? Nothing important. Just hanging out with a friend."

Chances are if you suspect it, he's probably doing it and there are probably some really obvious giveaways that you're choosing not to see. I don't know if you could trust his answer by asking him up front, but you can either wait around and find out or go with your gut. Snooping I guess could work but I refuse to do it on personal grounds...if he's not cheating it could get you in a lot of trouble.

Answer 3

If you suspect it ... and I think you do, then you need to pull back from him if you can until you trust him again. You do not trust him, and you need to figure out why. Sometimes people do not trust others because of their life experience, it is hard to trust people when you have not had trustworthy people in your life. So, when you are in deep unknown waters, do not just go forth full speed, you can get hurt.

If he is cheating on you, he is lying to you, so if you ask him about it do not be surprised if he keeps lying. That will drive you crazy.

I would trust my instinct and back off for a while, and try to understand why you like this person and feel he is lying to you at the same time ... use your head, don't lose your head.

Answer 4

There are many books on why men cheat. Men believe it or not and I am a guy; Are more complicated than most women think. For men unlike most commonly thought "Cheating" is NOT about the sexual act. It's about companionship,connection to the mind on a sexual level, and his real inability to have mature relationships and separate a monogamous relationship from friendships with women. Men hurt themselves deeply when they cheat and often have depression issues due to cheating. For the man who cheats his real issue is his emotional inability to commit which leads to a mental action to have sex with another woman.So when the woman who was cheated on asks "Why did you do it?" she is wasting her time.It's a deep emotional thing and if he really loved the woman and was truly committed to her the cognitive choice to cheat would never even come up, and you could surround him with dozens of naked women and he wouldn't break a sweat or cheat.

Answer 5

If you are getting that feeling you are probably right do some investigating before you make a decision to confront or leave him! Set him up get a friend of your's that he hasn't met to show up where he chills, see if he makes a move! I got my friends cheating ex I set up a page on myspace where we suspected he was talking to someone and we proved him to be a liar and a cheater! We got him good he thought he was meeting up w/some girl and what he got in return was his girlfriend in return! There are lots of ways to get a cheater you have to figure out if you're suspicious for a reason or if it's nothing!

Answer 6

Hire a P.I. If my girlfriend cheated on me I'd find some public way to humilitate her. A few years back a radio show would call suspected cheaters (with the approval of their girlfriend/boyfriend that suspected them) and said they won roses. They then asked who they would like to send them to. Long story short, the radio program would try and bait the person into saying they had another fling.

It's extreme, but it is a good way to find out.

Answer 7

Some of the clues are; that he totally avoids you;has plans on going out with his friends too darn much; when the phone rings it's all secret there.. find any condoms on him? Smiles when you ask if he's cheating...Just break up with the fool that's what I'll be doing!!@!

Answer 8

By not answering his cell phone when u call (usually happening more than 3 times), when u do talk to him on the phone he is not saying your name (like the song), He doesn't want to have sex with u like he use to, You argue more than u use to,you find phone #'s of other girls stored in his phone or on pieces of paper in his pocket or other places, he doesn't want to take u out like he use to , when u are looking for him, u cant find him. In my opinion, that's some signs of a cheating man. Hopefully your man isn't cheating but if he is,you shouldn't be with him. Find someone better.

Also if your intuition is saying something to u, listen to it.

Good Luck!!

Answer 9

some of us can tell when he is lying. men just cannot keep secrets and most women have a second sense about their silly lies. we have had to deal with it for centuries. if you lack this natie ability and cannot tell maybe you have a sister or mother who can tell. if not i guess you will just have to pretend nothing is going on. if you can afford it you can hire a detective film and follow and tap fone lines. it is just money. this partnership thing must be seen as a business arrangement as well as the hanky panky romace thing. in a few years the business end is the most immportant end by far. use you noggin. good luck to you. god bless.

Answer 10

You know if...
You ask him and he answers "affirmative".
You find him with the other person (in whatever situation).
Someone gives you pics of him in the act.

When you find out, kick him to the curb and head for greener pastures.
Why be in a relationship where you don't trust the person?
You're gut will usually give you clues as to whether something is going on or not.