would it me wrong for me to ask him to marry me?

Question

he tells me he wants to marry me. but he doesn't get that an engagment isn't marraig. i want a long engadgment but he think once your engagded then you get marraid right after. and of course he is afraid of marraig like all guys. but he says we will always be together. we have been for 3 years already. i want a two year engagdement. what to do. plus he says all the time what kind of ring he want. and he already has my diamond just not the band yet. what to do?

Answer 1

I don't think it's wrong for the girl to propose to the guy at all. You really need to discuss this with him though. Tell him what you've said here, that you'd rather have a longer engagement. Also, maybe he doesn't have the money yet for a setting for the diamond, and is waiting until he does. Whatever, you guys need to talk this one over yourselves.

Answer 2

Don't ask, it is something that can cause a relationship to fall apart. If he says yes and isn't ready, he may find another way to sabotage. If he's already got the diamond, things are in the works just be patient. If it takes more than a year to get the engagement ring then you need to sit down and talk with him about whats going on. If he waits a year to give you the ring then you'll have a one year engagement. You both get what you want only the one year of waiting was kind of a secret you kept to yourself. End result, you'll be married in two years. BE PATIENT!

Answer 3

You should wait for him to ask you. Haven't you always dreamed of how special it would be to see the man of your dreams get down on one knee and ask you to be his wife? Trust me, it's better to wait. In the meantime, talk to your boyfriend about engagement and what it implies. An engagement is a promise to marry but the time frame for marriage is up to both of you to decide. Have you discussed the fact that you want a long engagement or does he think you want to get married right after he pops the question? Be clear with him because men don't always catch our signals, sometimes you have to tell them exactly how you feel in order for them to completely understand. I wish you the best of luck, just remember to be patient, he'll ask when he's ready.

Answer 4

Wait and be patient! He already has your diamond and hes working on getting the band. He will ask you soon why are you trying to rush marriage? Why do you want a two year engagement anyways? Does it matter how long you are engaged?

Answer 5

By all means, ask him!!! I asked my boyfriend to marry me almost four months ago, and he said yes! We both agreed to wait a year and a half, but as a compromise, we also agreed to set a date. We couldn't be happier, and I am so glad I don't have to wonder when he's going to propose! The only thing any of our friends have said is that it took a lot of guts for me to ask him!

Answer 6

if your not comfortable marrying him yet because you want a longer engagement then don't. but you need to discuss this with the man that you are likely to spend the rest of your life with. and if you can't discuss this with him then i don't think that you're ready to make a life long commitment with him. hope it helps! best wishes!

Answer 7

theres nothing wrong with a girl asking for some guys it turns them on so yes if i was you i would ask and tell him that you want to be engaged for 2 years before you start planning your wedding
good luck

Answer 8

Don't invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage.
You need to move the schedule up....

Answer 9

Of course not!!! Whatever happened to women's lib? Go for it. The worst thing that can happen is that he doesn't really mean what he says. That way you'll know what to expect and can stop wasting your time hoping.

Answer 10

no one said you couldnt, beside, there is no rule that says the guy has to ask, if you want to ask him, then go ahead, you might start something new that could change the way marrage is done.