okay my "real parents" put me up for adoption when I was 11 because I got hit by a car and it caused me to have some disablitiys does this mean they don't love me??? I think it does, I mean it wasn't my fault, why didn't they want what am I suppost to do when I have children and they ask me where their grandparents are??? I mean was i a bad kid did i not do my chores everyday??? Is this something i should continue to dwell on or should i let it go? someone please give me some insite...
2007-01-15 07:12:10 · 8 answers · asked by Stacy ` B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok - wow!! I'm sorry that you have gone through this. Unfortunelty you may never know why your parents did what they did. Trying to guess will only cause you more emotional pain. Be thankful that you survived the car accident and do what you can to be the best person possible. Don't worry about what you will say to your children, you will know when the time comes. Good Luck!
2007-01-15 07:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, ask yourself, Do you want to dwell on your problems? Or do you just want a listening ear? Perhaps you just hope you get an explanation from your parents?
It is very torturing to be stuck in between your questions. You will never get a definite answer. Don't confuse yourself by thinking too much. I think you just need some time to start unloading yourself with all those problems.
Take your time, take it easy & go with the flow. Understand how to control your feelings instead of being control by them. Try to utilize your time by creating more happiness for others. Also make your life substantially fulfilling. Or even talk to a friend whom you feel you can trust. It will help to relieve your stress.
Just divert your attention to other things you prefer to do rather than mulling over some unsolvable questions. If you think you need to vent your anger on something, do it! but NEVER hurt any1.
You should really take care & learn to love yourself! Build more confident in yourself! Good luck to you!
2007-01-15 15:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by wind_liao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your parents put you up for adoption. That's so sad. Sounds like they don't love you if they could just put you up for adoption even though you got hit by a car and got serouisly hurt. Parents are suppose to be there for us when we get hurt like that and yours weren't. I can understand why you are upset about this. Don't let this get you down. Just love your adopted parents as if they were your real ones and when you have kids tell them that they are their grandparents because they took you in and are taking care of you so they are your real parents and they should be the grandparents.
2007-01-15 15:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your parents truely didn't care about you they wouldn't of put you up for adoption, I know that sounds weird. But they're stories of people throwing there kids away or keeping them and abusing them. For some reason they felt that a different family would provide you with a better life. Maybe they couldn't pay for all the surgies. Move on, your life is good.
2007-01-15 15:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg i feel so bad for you. that sucks so much.
yeah it might mean that they didn't love you that much, or maybe they couldn't pay for it and they didn't care enough about you to keep you. i guess when you have kids, just have them visit your spouse's parents. when they get old enough you can tell them the truth. not doing chores doesn't mean you were bad. dont dwell on it because it wasn't your fault
2007-01-15 15:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by hcogirl14 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened, but if you want me to be honest it is proballly because they did not care for you . They are your parents, but that does not mean they love and care for you as they should . Some people are just like that, I know it's hard for you to cope thinking about it, but just try to let go of the pain .
2007-01-15 15:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by riddlemethis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that something like this you can never 'let it go' totally... they were your parents... What I guess you can learn to do is to live with it, coping with the pain and not being 'stuck' in it, being mad at them forever. When you are a parent yourself, probably you'll be a better one because of this experience.
2007-01-15 15:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
? some parents cant handle to see there kids hurt or in pane thay just cant handle it. my friend was adoped and it was because her parents couldint afford to make that house safe for her (she was born w/ 1 leg) so thay send her to the us (shes from china).
2007-01-15 15:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋