my mom wants me to see a psychiatrist....?

Question

ok so my mom thinks i hate her more than a average child my age should which is probably true and i feel really bad about it but i mean everything she does is just so annoying and i dont why i think that....but i went to this guy who sopposed to tell me if im going through depression or not and well i am and he says it might be because of my past because of my dad he was an achoholic and my parents divorced when i was 7 but i dont htink thats it. i mean honestly i dont really care about what my dad does i mean i dont even know him...and the reason for me being mad at my mom all the time i think is because i dont really know her either she was never there for me when i was little so my sister was sorta my "mom" soo what do you think?

Answer 1

If you can't tell your mother this, you might need to see a therapist since you're having problems with speaking your mind to your mother.

Just think about this:

If you tell your mom what you wrote here, you might not have to see a therapist after all!!! She'll know the truth about you!

Also...
Your mother wasn't there for you because she had to handle your dad over you guys. For her to be a parent her first concern was the environment you guys as kids had to live in. Now that he's out of the picture she has done her job as a mother. You should respect her for being strong enough to get rid of that guy that would have made you even worse than you already are.
Don't you think it's was hard for her to get rid of the guy she fell in love with? Give your mom a break.

Talk to your mom if you don't want to see a therapist and tell her you hate her for abandoning you when you were a child and you needed her the most then.

If you honestly thought that that point in your life when your parents were divorce is not important...why do you still remember it and mention it here as background for your question? It's significant.

Answer 2

From my experience with those guys, they will do what the person who is paying wants them to do. When I went in for being an avid crossdresser and really wanting to be a girl, the guy tried to fix me. Of course. My parents hated it and wanted me fixed, and they were the ones paying the guy $200 a visit. Makes all the sense. But after a while the guy actually helped me towards a sex change as best he could (which ended up being a success). If you talk to the psychiatrist straight up and tell it like it is, I am sure he/she will help your mom understand it. Generally speaking that's what they do. I've heard similar stories from many people who went through the same thing with their parents. But it's really up to your parents. After all, the guy's making a ton of money off them and he will do what he can to continue it. All I can suggest is that you keep your head high, stay stubborn, tell it like it is, and resist all encouragement to be ungayified. That will get you to where you want to be.

Answer 3

Hi
I agree that you wont remember your father, you were too young. But you aren't sure what happened during your childhood- as you can't remember it... can you? My folks also split when I was 7/8, I cant remember much of my childhood, but some memories have come back in floods some times- some not good. I've been through s*** but I have come out unscathed, pretty decent. If you goin through your teens, its normal to get annoyed. Your mom wasn't there for you in childhood, so why don't you try give her a chance to get to know you, play some of the music that you like for her, even if you know she might not like it, it will at least show her you are wanting her to be a part of your life. Ask her advice about something, try to be patient and not get annoyed with her, speak to her in a civilized way. Ask her what she used to do at your age, what movies she likes, and if you can bear it, take her to the movies or go window shopping. All the best with forming a relationship with your mom! Cheers sweetie.

Answer 4

There's a program called Alateen. It is a part of another organization called Al-Anon. Your school counselor may be able to help you find local information on it for you.

This program is for young people who grow up around alcoholism. There is an adult "sponsor" that offers some guidance, but the kids usually are responsibe for the meeting itself. The kids in the group have similar experiences to the ones you are describing and they offer their experience and solutions to the problems in their lives. When we are around this disease, even those who don't drink (like moms) can be affected by it - and we don't know that anything is wrong.

The worst thing that will happen to you, if you decide to try Alateen, is that you will know a little more about who you are as a person - and who wouldn't benefit from that?

Answer 5

I think that it should be up to you. It will help you to get to the root of the problem, and you can get on with living a normal life.(if their really is a problem) But, I also think you should go by yourself, because parents tend to blow things out of proportion allot, and make a big deal out of nothing.

My mom thinks my 7 year old hates her because she doesn't run to give her a hug every time she comes over and she does my dad. I tell her that's she is only 7 years old and dad spoils her, what do you think she's gonna do.
If you are depressed it is because of something, but you would feel depressed as well. So, do you feel like you are?

They may make you take pills too, so you have to think about that.

Why isn't your mom around enough to know who you are, etc.?
My mom doesn't really know me, but that's because she picked favorites, and a few other things.

Answer 6

Talk to your mum about how your feeling, try and bond with her and try and get to know her your feelings may change. It sounds as your a teenages, most teenagers go through this were they feel like they hate there mum but most of them dont. If it doesnt work bonding with your mum and getting to know her then maybe you should go to a psychiatrist, they really do help you. If your mum passes you may end up feeling abit guilty that you didnt get the chance to get to know her. You may have had a hard time about your mum and dad divorcing alot of people go through that. Im close with my mum and im glad because i go to her for alot of things and shes a good help, maybe if you give her a chance then you will grow a good relationship with her.

Answer 7

Look at the experience in a positive way. Your mom obviously wants what is best for you and she doesn't know how to help. Therapy certainly doesn't hurt anyone and it sounds like you could use someone to talk to and maybe give you some ideas about how to deal with things. Just go, relax and be positive.

Answer 8

really today the doctors just want to put everyone on drugs and tell them there depressed. i think its retarted! people need to tuffen up and stop being a baby about problems.

look your a teen. you dont like your parents. what you need to do is TALK TO YOUR MOM! NOT SOMEONE ELSE!

this is a huge problem in my eyesm parents are so quick to get you "help" but i see it as them being lazy and wanting someone else to take care of THEIR problem!

i never liked my mom either, but no matter what she did she IS and always will be my mom. i cant not love her as she made me.

if your having problems you should talk to you mom about it first and if that dosent help you mabye it is best to talk to a doctor.

good luck

Answer 9

The best thing to do is swallow a little bit of your pride and just talk things out with your mom. Tell her that you feel like you don't know her and explain how you feel your sister has been motherly towards you. If she doesn't know what the problem is, there will be no way to fix it.

Answer 10

Get over the past and move on. Your mother did the best she knew how in bringing you up. She had experience the alcoholic world, too, and probably suffered a lot more than her children.

Time for a day time talk show.

Good luck and get help for yourself and hopefully you will enjoy life as it comes to you and not dwell on the past.