He said he loved me first...and i gave him a lot of attention b4 i fell!
Im in a relationship with this guy, he says he loves me, but he keeps having affairs on me all the time; fantasy cyber and with real women...it does not bother me that he does the whole porn thing, but it does with real women,(he lies all the time) but he gets so involved he totally cuts me off from sex, talking, etc...then once its over for him he buys me a guilt gift. I love him so much and it took me a little time to fall, but now that i have he is playing with my heart...and it hurts really bad...ive devoted so much to him and ive never felt this way about anyone b4... But i know if i were to have an affair on him of any kind i would loose him....i know your saying hes not worth it,,,why did he play with my heart... Ive been so loyal to him but i need love too!
2007-01-15 06:31:21 · 5 answers · asked by Iwantyou247 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The outlook your facing with this man looks very bleak , prepare yourself and leave the relationship rather than be continually tortured mentally by his bad behavior . It's not healthy for you and you deserve a better man and I'm sure you can find one.
He's obviously not worthy of you , end the relationship and move on is my advice . Sorry to hear you've had to endure this kind of mental anguish and abuse . You deserve real love and this man doesn't possess it to give you . Good luck you can find happiness dear !
2007-01-15 06:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women usually do not want to hear this answer but it is indeed that men are not genetically programmed for monogamy. Monogamy is merely a relatively recent value of modern societies, which has developed as women have strived for sociopolitical equality. It's really only over the last century that it has not been commonplace for those men with the wealth to sustain more than one mate and family to do this quite openly (church notwithstanding!).
In other words, to men sex is generally not an intimate act of reaching out to a lover, forming a deep, strong and fulfilling emotional bond. In fact it's really just a particularly stimulating and compelling form of recreation. Most men would have little problem having a one-night stand with another woman whilst still loving his normal girlfriend but for the guilt of knowing that she wouldn't like it and the fear of how she may react should she discover this act she has been programmed to perceive as unfaithfulness.
If he loves you, protects you from this and other things, treats you and your future right, forgive him.
---------------- but in your case''he does not love you'' please for your sake - DROP HIM -- ur a star,act like one,your beautiful and talented too.. LEAVE HIM,you'll get better -
2007-01-15 06:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him. you teach people how to treat you and you have taught him that it is ok to do such things to you. If you don't get out now you will end up with a lot more that a broken heart. Wait and see how bad an STD or HIV/AIDS hurts
2007-01-15 06:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by tall_slimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's okay for anyone to cheat no matter what the reasoning is. If he keeps hurting you, then why do you stay with him? Dump his sorry @$$ and get a real man. Real men don't mess with your heart, they mend it. Good luck.
2007-01-15 06:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Love_Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that.. but he shouldnt cheat on you.
2007-01-15 06:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋