The topic of the golden rule came into my mind recently, and one of my friends said there should be another rule, that says "Love others the way they want to be loved." This got me thinking... and then I was thought "I'll never fully be able to know how someone else wants to be loved, because they'll never fully tell me how they want to be loved." Any thoughts?
2007-01-15 06:28:59 · 17 answers · asked by The Lonely Skywolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love someone who doesn't want to be loved by you then you have to back off gently, no matter how much it hurts. And it hurts a lot. :(
2007-01-15 06:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you love yourself, there is no need to ask the question. Love is an energy that negates the base emotions. There is no cruelty, no pain, no jealousy in love. It is the balm that heals the wrongs of mankind.
You aren't talking about love in your question when you write "how can I know how someone else wants to be loved". You are writing about control. Love asks nothing in return. It cannot.
Read this book: "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. Do the exercises and meditate until your mind becomes higher thinking. You will reach a point where you will know how it feels to extend love to all humankind. This is the answer to your question. There are no complications in love. We make confusion and tell ourselves this confusion is love. It is not.
All the Buddhists and Hindus will know what I'm talking about.
Good luck and remember give of yourself and don't expect a reward in return. That is your first lesson in love.
2007-01-15 06:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all begining to sound vaguely sick. You can only love in the way you can. There is no script for it..no plan.
I would suggest that do not take that 'Groundhog Day' approach because you will scare the living daylights out of any right minded girl.
Be yourself...or perhaps not...be Hugh Grant!
2007-01-15 06:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what YOU feel in your heart. That other person clearly can't see what love is. Being a good influence that you are, they will learn from you. If you feel you are being used, don't waste you life on that person because you don't want to be taken for granted. Maybe that other person has issues they need to figure out first before they can move forward.
2007-01-15 06:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by rspheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force someone to love you just cause you love them. Your friend was right in the rule in a way, "You should treat people how you expect to get treated back" for example if you nasty to someone, you cant expect them to be nice back to you. etc etc. All i would say is love someone and do nice things for them how you would expect someone to be for you. I hope that makes sense. Good Luck
2007-01-15 06:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by Westley K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't want your love, you need to move on and continue searching for someone who does. Though it hurts, it's important for your growth and development as a human being to understand that you cannot impose you will, or your sentiments, regardless of their strength on others. If someone is rejecting you, that means they want to be loved by someone else, and the wisest thing is to move right along.
2007-01-15 06:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont...you live with the heartache because you know they don't love you and you just can't be with them...if you love them and they dont return the feelings, then you'll try not to show it because if you do they'll feel bad about not loving you in return,and nobody should be forced to love someone.
2007-01-15 07:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will tell you how they want to be loved....actually in theory your right because they really wont say anything...they will just show you. Basically just give them the love they give you. Thats how they tell you how they want to be loved.
2007-01-15 06:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to them that love u...
Or just let it go...u will get hurt when your demand is repelled...
Find a new one dont waste time love someone whose neglect ur presence...
2007-01-15 06:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm....if they don't feel the same way about you; you can't then. Don't force any ideas or issues. You can't force emotions that aren't there; that will make it much worse.
2007-01-15 06:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋