I'm 24. she is 29. I have known her for 3 years. I have never gone out with any other woman. For 3 years my family thinks she is just a GOOD friend of mine, because they expect me not to marry her. She is very nice and even my family says she is, but I think it's because we have different backgrounds. Her parents/family love me and want me to marry her.
My family would basically REALLY hate me if I did it and more.
what do I do?
2007-01-15 06:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by jon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also the age difference may be factor as well. Is it ok that she is 5 years older than me?
2007-01-15 06:47:10 · update #1
You're old enough to make up your own mind. Sense when is it up to your family to choose the woman you want to spend time with?
Don't listen to others when it comes to your heart. They aren't living in your body. If they are a true family, they can forgive mistakes made if it shouldn't work out but if you let them decide for you on this, you could be losing the one who is the right one and you'll miss out on the love of your life.
You decide and be happy.
2007-01-15 08:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what other think? You love who you love and that is not going to change because others have issues on differences in backgrounds. IF it is an ethnic thing, you family needs a real wake up call. Love her marry her and be happy. You family will come around after a little while they all do. Do not run off and get married. Be adults and have the wedding of your dreams and invite all your families. Whoever does not show are the ones you know have issues, but together if there is love, you can do whatever it is that makes you two happy.
Best regards,
Tracylyn S
2007-01-15 14:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do what young people have done for centuries. You follow your heart.
But to be on the safe side, I would not make a leap just to show my parents who is boss.
And I would ask my family specifically why they feel it is any of their business.
24 and 29 is a non-issue. Maybe she's divorced or has children? The issue of age should not be relevant in your situation.
2007-01-15 14:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since you've never gone with any other woman, perhaps you need to. She may be your 'first love'. And I dont believe this would be fair to you or to her. + She's about to hit her 30's which can really throw a wrench is your relationship. That's known as a period when a woman looks at her life and asks, "Is this all there is?"
2007-01-15 14:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are marrying her not them
i would talk to my family and explain your feelings for her
if they love you they will want you to be happy
if they do not accept this you have to decide which to choose her or them
time for your family to break the old stereotypes and move into the 21st century
i do not think they would hate you but over time they may just get over it
2007-01-15 14:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be you should look around and be able to find a compatible partner ( age wise). Although there are lots of examples of people with big difference in age.
2007-01-15 14:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since you are sure of your feelings, find out why your family isn't sure of theirs. WHY would they hate you if you did? Maybe they're seeing something you don't. When you're IN the situation you can't see what others see. Ask your friends too;see what's on their minds; you'd be suprised. When I broke off an engagement last year; I found out from all of my friends they cldn't stand him!
2007-01-15 14:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to have your family choose who you will marry? I wouldnt sacrifice love and happiness for someones approval. If you really love and care about her, then you wouldn't worry about what your family thinks about YOUR decision about YOUR love life.
2007-01-15 14:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does it really matter that your from different backgrounds?
im sure if she really loved you shed be open to learn as would you. ITS YOUR LIFE dont let your parents tell you who to marry
remember its YOU whos going to be with her for the rest of your life NOT THEM. dont let this slip away for youll be thinking "what if i stayed with her?" be strong it wont be easy, nothing in life comes easy
"there is no fear in love but perfect love casteth out fear"
i gave my bf this phrase when he was afraid to be with me.
(hes indian im hispanic)
2007-01-15 14:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
so if u r man enough to want to marry her b a man and stand up 4 yourself your family will have to deal with it in their own time its your future so u decide how u want to live your life
2007-01-15 14:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋