i want to divorse my mother to put it straight i went through hell she always has 2 hurt me in some way?

Question

most recent she nicked a piece of homework my brother did b4 he died i had it for years then she spoke to me like i was nothing for asking her if she took it when i was little she treated me like a servent i was only 5 when she left me home alone with a hard core porno on to look after my baby sister when she was just days old. she used to bash my head on the floor if i didnt clean it propper and meny other things to hurt me. i wasnt aloud to go to school alot because i was often covered in bruseis i was raped every night by her boyfriend and when i told her she tried to hit me and called me a lier i eventually got out at the age of 12 but her boy friend went on to rape my sister every night if she had of belived me my sister would have been spared even today being 25 married with my own 3 children which i would never dream hurting or makeing them feel as i did as a child my pain still gos on its very raw and she is still hurting me to day i want to divorse her how please

Answer 1

You need to first speak to the law enforcement agencies in your area about the past - and keep on talking to them until some legal action is taken against her and your other abusers. Then you need to find someone to help you deal with your past - a therapist, or MD, or pastor/priest. Once you can find ways to deal with your pain, then you'll be able to deal with your mother, which may include writing her out of your life; I wouldn't want her involved with my children.

I wish you the best. You should be proud of yourself for breaking the cycle of abuse before it harms your own children. You can't change the past, but you can make certain that the future is better, for both you and your children.

Answer 2

You are now a grown woman with kids of your own. What your mom did was very wrong. As for the boiyfriend you can still charge him with the rape(your sister too) and your mom can also be charged because she did NOTHING about it when you told her what was going on. Go to the local courthouse and speak to someone in the family division and they should be able to give you advice or help. Then ask to get a permanent restraining order against your mom-she will hane to stay away from you or she goes to jail------------you can also have the restraining order say she cannot call you on the phone .Your pain will be with you for a long time, but maybe by doing something like this it will give you some kind of comfort. (ex cop here)

Answer 3

I would contact a family law attorney. I don't know however that is it actually possible to divorce her. I just wouldn't have anything more to do with her. You can also still file charges against her and her boyfriend. They don't need to be out walking the streets. They belong in prision where hopefully BF would get *** ****** every night.
You also desperately need to get into theraphy. Make it a HIGH priority in your life! You need to emotionally heal from these horrors.
Why did you never report her to child protective services? They would have gotten you out. I am so sorry you had to go through this. I will pray for you.

God Bless!

Answer 4

sounds to me like you just did. I mean at your age you cannot divorce you parent, but you can move past them. I hope that she never know you again. Never has your address, phone number, see her grand kids and basically that is for you to do. I you want a divorce then move away and never leave a forwarding address with anyone she knows. You can also at you age consent to have yourself adopted to a new family. Not hard to do and that will be a legal name change for you maiden name. Just a thought. Sorry you had such a hard life.
Sincerely,
Been there, done That
Tracylyn S

Answer 5

Why do I think you are a TROLL? Probably because you are.

IF and that is a big IF you are real, you know that you can't divorce your mother. You can cut her out of your life, but you can't divorce anyone you were not married to. You could look into pressing charges for child abuse, but there is a statue of limitations.

Answer 6

There is such a thing called "emancaipation", though I think its only a legal step underage minors can take when they "divorce" a parent and gain legal rights to themselves... U are 25 I dont think u need that.... So just dont talk to her..... U can get a restraining order on her if u need 2, u can also just "disown her" and never talk to that cu*nt again! hope this helps tata

Answer 7

cut all ties. where is your little sister now? if I were you I would have her live with me. I am so sorry for all that you went through. its horrifying to read and I can only imagine how hard it must have been to live it. do all you can to cut her out of your life. someone who did all she did will not change and you don't deserve having someone like her in your life. you have your own children to care for now and I know you wouldn't want your mother to have the chance to treat your children the way she treated you. do yourself a favor and cut her out of your life. if you feel like you need some type of closure you can write her a letter. let her know how she hurt you...even though I am sure she knows. let her know that you will not be hurt by her anymore and that she has taken herself out of your life by treating you how she has and still does. good luck and I am sure you will be much happier once she is out of your life. live for your children now and take comfort in knowing your children will have a good life and a loving mother.

also, try finding a professional to speak with. I have no experience with that but it sounds like you have a lot of healing to do and they might be able to help. good luck and all of the best wishes.

Answer 8

this would possibly not be what you prefer to hearken to yet he has not forgiven you. Your tried suicide has guilted him into staying and supplying you with all those situations is a thank you to make him experience a sprint greater advantageous. even although, that's merely momentary. this could proceed to consume him alive. How do i be responsive to? properly, i exchange into cheated on by my ex besides and that i could not handle the certainty that she willingly gave herself to a various guy. It devastated me to the element of melancholy. enable me ask you a query. in case you felt so undesirable which you will attempt suicide, then why did you cheat interior the 1st place? think of roughly it. in case you had not been caught, you could nonetheless be doing it. that's egocentric which you will anticipate this guy to stay with you. whether he does, no quantity of counseling will ever erase the painful thoughts. this could continually be interior the returned of his strategies and could maximum possibly make him insecure which you will do it returned. BTW: cheating isn't any reason to be abused. Your marriage exchange into over the 2d you cheated and he hit you. the appropriate element to do could be to enable him bypass, bypass to counseling on your guilt and learn from this experience.

Answer 9

I agree completely with Vandy. Just wanted to add that sometimes it is necessary to "divorce" ourselves from TOXIC people. Your mother sounds like a very TOXIC person. I also understand that she is your mother and you will feel quilt for wanting to "divorce" yourself from her. Just remember that this is YOUR life and you must do what is right for you and your children. Good luck!

Answer 10

You can't divorce your mother... you aren't married to her. You can just never talk to her again and disown her, but there's no legal step to take. You can get a restraining order put on her so she can't come near you or call you... but that's it. No divorces.