Met someone very intelligent & attractive two weeks ago. Have gone out for dinner & drinks twice. Third date was a last minute invite to dinner w/his friends at his house. I went and I ended up staying the night and getting pretty intimate when I had told him I had to be home by a set time. (No sex though). I feel unsure about my decision because I am not typically an impulsive person and am concerned about the impression I just made. I don't regret the evening ~ I really enjoyed it but did I just make a big dating mistake? I am into him & would like to get to know him much more. Any thoughts?
2007-01-15 06:20:33 · 13 answers · asked by Stupidity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I be worried if I don't hear from him right away? Not sure where to go from here or what to say or not to say when and if I speak to him again. What would be a good length of time to wait? I received a text from him the next day...but an actual phone call? I over analyze these kinds of things!
2007-01-15 11:28:14 · update #1
you just got caught up in the moment. You haven't done anything wrong. If you're still interested in him then continue to get to know him and everything should be fine.
2007-01-15 06:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe and maybe not. At this point though, you may want to slow down the tempo until you get to know him better. You can't change what has already occurred, but think carefully how you want to play things now. Don't freak out over this one time incident; wait and see what develops. Good Luck
2007-01-15 06:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot undo what was done, so go with the flow. This appears to be an adult relationship so if he's going to hold it against you, when he was there and participating also, then he's not someone worth wasting time on.
However, you apparently don't know how he feels about it yet, so try not to worry about it...it shouldn't be an issue (or he's a hypocrit).
2007-01-15 06:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop kicking yourself. We all make mistakes and break our own rules every now and then. You said you didn't regret the evening so forgive yourself. You didn't sleep with him and you like him so whats the big deal? Just maybe next time if you don't like what you did then learn from your mistake and never do it again...
2007-01-15 06:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question I think is how you both feel about each other; do you guys want to continue dating? Did it seem like things were "planned" and have you talked since? When you do talk; discuss it ex: "I had fun at dinner with you and your friends last night; I'm glad we had more time to share, thanks for letting me stay" or something like that.....what and how he responds will be your answer =)
2007-01-15 06:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worst mistake: relationship abusive human beings. different mistakes: accepting intense priced presents early on contained in the relationship, providing to pay for dinner on the eating position (somewhat than discussing the count number number with him earlier we went in), saying "i love you" too quickly, having sex too quickly, and not in any respect making use of excellent birth control (pregnant at 17). ideal relationship decision: being sexually abstinent till i'm particular that i'm with someone i'm attracted to a lengthy time period relationship with. different solid relationship judgements: engaged on putting and protecting healthful barriers, respecting others' own barriers, engaged on arising friendship first, healthful expression of thoughts and communique skills, and not in any respect relationship everybody who's abusive, actively addicted, or everybody who lacks a favor to strengthen spiritually.
2016-12-02 07:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. I wouldn't stress over it. If he holds it against you then he probably wasn't right for you to begin with. Just sit back and see what happens next.
2007-01-15 06:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are just human.
When you hear from him next, just talk about how you feel. If waiting is important, stress that.
2007-01-15 06:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did. Remind him what you did was not a wise thing for you to do, Plan your future activity very carefully.
2007-01-15 06:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The no sex part probably aggravated him a bit but I am sure he will give you another chance.
2007-01-15 06:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋