i am 19 and my mum treats me like im a kid im not allowed out unless it is planned weeks b4 and she grounds me for lil fings like my room a mess or not goin to wrk i have told her i wana move out wen i cn afford it and she went mad how cn i stop her she guna drive me insane!!
2007-01-15 06:12:28 · 10 answers · asked by luce1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
keep busy trying to move out. just save money, apply to college far away.. haha... that'll get you away!! and ummm yeah just stay busy doing things that will help you get out. so get working and applying to college FAR AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-15 06:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same exact thing! I'm 19 too. The best way to overcome this situation is through a little bit of compromise. I had quite an anger issue when I was going through this. As much as you wanna yell and tell her she's wrong, remember that actions speak louder than words. Sit her down and try your best to have a calm conversation. Tell her how it makes you feel and listen when she tells you how she feels. Chances are, what she says is going to make you angry, but bite your tongue. Honestly, if you put some music on and use like a Sunday night when you're not doing anything to just go on an all-out cleaning spree in your room, you'll end up having a good time. Especially when you find things that are old and bring back memories. And you'd be surprised at how easy it is to keep things clean if you just make it a habit. Taking those few extra minutes every day to just put things in their place is worth it. Show that you're mature by going to work; moving out is not going to happen anytime soon if you don't do that. Between talking it out with her, taking the time to keep things clean and going to work more frequently will most definitely show that you're trustworthy. It's going to take a bit of extra trust from the both of you, but over time your relationship with your mom will improve and you will be able to do the things you like. Good luck!
2007-01-15 06:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by fastcarceo25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the reason she treats you this way is because you act this way. If your room is always such a mess and you are missing work so much, then you are not yet a responsible adult. Believe it or not, your mom is trying to get you to grow up and take some responsibility, like going to work and keeping yourself and your surroundings clean. It's her job to teach this to you, she probably feels guilty that you're 19 and still can't clean your room.
My answer? Grow up a bit, don't give her reason to ground you, go to work, make sensible plans like a grown up should, and perhaps she'll ease up once she realizes you've become responsible for yourself.
2007-01-15 07:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 19, do you have a job? A job is a good way to demonstrate maturity & responsibility, as well as accumulating cash. Definitely apply to college or some form of higher education, that will also make you more mature, responsible & ready to be on your own. Your mom probly just needs time to get used to the grown-up you.
But if you do have a job, and neglect to show up, that's just proving to her that you're too immature to take care of yourself, so she'll continue to treat you like a child until you exhibit responsibility
2007-01-15 06:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. Your 19, you are an adult. Move out. If you can't do that then you must abide by her rules until you can. Find a local paper in the rent section for people looking for a roommate. Move and tell your mother you love her. Then wait for her to come back to her senses.
2007-01-15 06:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19, act like it. She has no right to ground you or "make" you do anything. This is why, when a person turns 18 they are supposed to MOVE OUT.
2007-01-15 06:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At nineteen you should be able to support yourself and live in your own place. HOWEVER, you haven't learned to spell, you like to skip work and like a child you don't keep your room clean so I guess you do have some growing up left to do. If you are not financially able to move out, you are obviously depending on your mother for a place to live and since it's her house, not yours, you need to at least grow up enough to do what she wants.
2007-01-15 07:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Upon your 18th Birthday you are classified as an Adult. You can be tried as an adult in the courtroom, you can vote, you can go off to the military. I suggest you explain to your mother even though you are her child, you are clearly an adult. You should be able to make your own choices and make your own mistakes. She had to learn her way... Its your turn to learn for yourself.
2007-01-15 06:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you show her you are responsible--like getting up and going to work when you are supposed to. At 19 you shouldnt be told to clean your romm it should automatically be clean. If you live at home then ------------hey if you were 25 you would do what is expected of you or you would not be in my house, period.
2007-01-15 06:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Also - learn to spell.
2007-01-15 06:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋