How do you adjust to moving to a new city and taking a new job when its all very different?

Question

I moved from the small town I grew up in to a big city for a job. I live downtown now and have been here over 3 months. I hate driving here and I'm literally scared to go places because its that confusing and I get lost easily. My jobs a really good opportunity, but its my first professional job and its taking getting used to with wearing a suit every day and the pressure and formality of it. I'm lonely, and I'm trying to make friends, and have actually made some but I still just miss my hometown and the family and friends that were there. I don't want to quit and go back home until I can say I've stayed here at least a year. And if I get used to being here there's more opportunity here than back home. I did start going to a therapist and my doctor prescribed an anti-anxiety medication. I also found a church up here I like. So my question is what else can I do that would make this all easier (besides quitting and moving back home)?

Answer 1

It really takes about a year to adjust to a new environment. Everyone adjusts differently. having some small things from home will remind you that you're just a distance away, not in another strange world. Realizing that you could go home and visit anytime also helps create a healthy distance. Also, picking up the phone and calling old friends helps you realize there is only a physical distance separating you.

In about a year, you begin to see the cycle repeat itself, so the environment becomes familiar and you start to relax. It will feel like a second home. Be persistent because at some point you will make a big breakthrough and realize how much easier things are. Remind yourself that you'll be a bigger person having grown from this challenge if you stick with it.

Answer 2

Hi
i think initially it is difficult to adjust in a newcity but as u start making friends life becomes quite easy.
but even if u don't have much friend u can talk to ur old friend thru net or can call ur family members.
u can pursue ur hobbies if u have enough time.
for reducing pressure on the mind daily do some yoga or go for running n exercises---u will forget everything there n may get chance to make new friends, can go to some library if u have interest in reading .

Answer 3

You've taken a very important step in finding a psychologist to talk to...keep doing that. Also finding a church you enjoy is important. Finding other things that you know you enjoy are important. Whether it's reading, friends, anything. Also look for some new interests that are offered to you now that you are in this new place.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

well you just moved, continue making new friends , take things one day at a time, and relax, life is about changing every once in a while so eventually, you will get use to it

Answer 6

Take it one day at a time. And remember to breathe...