I’ve recently found out that my little sister & brother found pot in my mom’s bathroom that belongs to her boyfriend, who stays with them on weekends. He confessed to them that he does pot occasionally, and my mom denied she knew about it (after dating him a year), but is still seeing him even though it has made her children uncomfortable. Aside from my mom’s heavy drinking and her lack to support these kids as well as she should, what I am now worried about is her boyfriend getting high and doing something that would put them at risk. I assume someone who occasionally does pot can last a weekend without it? So, I do not consider him an “occasional” pot head.
She shares joint custody with their dad, but he only gets every other weekend, every Wednesday and some holidays.
How difficult would it be to for their dad to get primary custody of them and only give my mom monitored visitations?? Would child services need to be involved??
2007-01-15 06:06:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your making a mountain out of a mole hill , stay out of it and keep quiet no big crime here jeez . If you get children's services involved over something this flimsy you may never see your sister and brother again . All you have to act on would be here-say anyway so unless the kids are starving and mistreated stay out of it !
2007-01-15 06:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't really answer your question. But certainly sounds as though dad needs to take some action. May need to contact an attorney. Maybe child protective services would be the way to go...they would take the children from the home and give them to their dad...pending court action. If nothing else, this may force their mom to straighten up and get rid of the pot head boyfriend. Good luck! Your a great sibling to care about them so much!!
2007-01-15 06:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much YOU would be able to do about custody..You can tell the dad about what is going on and have him report to the authorities that there are drugs in the house and then call family services..be careful though, they could end up in foster care. Make sure the dad wants the kids (even if no, you still need to report. with heavy drinking and drug use/abuse, they will be better off anywhere besides there!!)..the dad can also petition the court for custody..hope this helped..good luck..Just went through this, email me if you'd like.
2007-01-15 06:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by heandI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This matter would greatly depend on what state you live in and the laws pertaining to family issues that is has. In a lot of states primary custody could be switched at the request of the other parent and the children, no need for child protection services to be involved.
Tell your dad to contact the Attorney General's Office....
2007-01-15 06:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is def a situation where I would contact the father to let him know what's going on, and get him to talk to the mother (if it was an amicable separation). If she doesn't want to give up the kids, then there may need to be legal action taken (through Child Services or the court-system if the dad sues for custody).
2007-01-15 06:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, guess you'd have to talk to the dad first and see if he'd even want full custody.
IF your mom's a drinker, I doubt she'd take the chance of loseing the boyfriend by asking him to keep his stash at home.
Your mom's drinking is alot more dangerous for the kids to being subjected to, but then that is a personal opinion.
IF the father shows interest in keeping the kids all the time, I think you'd have to get child services involved and proof about the pot, in order to get them in at their fathers.
2007-01-15 06:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very easy actually for their dad to get custody. It costs a pretty penny for the court fees. But, if they are old enough and can speak in court, and that is the best thing for them, then you have your evidence. Besides you are not supposed to have your children around anything illegal, or immoral. Just make sure that you know what you are getting into. It could tear your children's heart into pieces. They could end up with self esteem problems.
2007-01-15 06:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can avoid getting child services involved, you should! Once they are in it, they stay in it for a very LONG TIME! If you speak with their dad and he speaks with your mom about it and an agreement can be made amicably than no one needs to be notified. If she refuses to change living arrangements than the only way for him to gain custody would be to either take her to court or to contact DCFS to notify them that there is a dangerous environment being fostered around these youngsters. I would speak to their dad first and get his opinion on the matter.
2007-01-15 07:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Rianna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋