What to do about a puppy that you dont want here?

Question

Ok heres what is going on!! The person im married to son (hes 18 by the way and still in school) around christmas got his g/f a chocolate lab as a present..However the pup stays here never goes to his gfs house and he is hardley ever here and so we are left taking care of it...We are up all night every night taking care of this dog becasue he is trying to crate train it and it wakes up ever 30 min wanting out so we never get any sleep..However they wont make him get rid of the dog even tho they know how I feel about the situation. I made it clear that it was not right that this pup was brought in and didnt even ask if it was ok..Then we end up taking care of it more than he does..Also if it was a christmas present why doesnt his gf have it at her house.. I know the answer to last question and thats because her parents wont let it stay there..I dont want it here either but its not my kid so how do I get it out of this house?

Answer 1

Well, first of all, I would have a good, long conversation that involves both your significant other as well as the son in question. The problem is that you are stuck taking care of a creature that is not yours, and that it does the animal no good to be without a clear set of owners, besides you. Generally, the primary care giver is seen as the owner, and to put that on you is to unfairly put you in charge of the welfare of another person's responsibility.
If I were you, I would challenge the son to be more responsible, or to make it very clear that if it was a mistake on his part (because it wasn't very well thought out) that you are not going to take care of the animal because 1.) you weren't involved in the decision making process, and 2.) you were not asked or consulted about your role.
Now, the problem is that you have to be willing to stand up for yourself, to your significant other if need be, and make the ultimatum that if the son wants to have this dog stay at the house, he needs to be responsible for it, and if that means taking it out 20 times a night, then so be it. This dog is not your problem, and really only is if you make it- whether by not saying "no" or not enforcing the rules.
But a word to the wise, pick your battles wisely. You may or may not be walking into a fight that is worth it.
Basically, this comes down to how willing are you to stand behind what you believe, and telling the truth?

Answer 2

Most folks can not inform among a breeder and a dog farm puppy. Sometimes you'll if you happen to become aware of the pets preliminary interplay with people (does it appear comfy with people). Them now not figuring out approximately the pets historical past is annoying. If that the town is greater than say one hundred miles away, it's obviously a dog farm. About the only in a small field, had been the others in a small restricted subject or was once it simply this one? They could also be tugging at their shoppers middle to shop for it whilst the animal would have a challenge with it, like noisy or has an angle that's or else turning folks off of it. Just approximately they all are dog generators however now not all generators are dangerous. It would be a household owned industry in a rural subject that's well however the ones are by and large a breeder A larger method is to deal immediately with a breeder. Since you recounted rescuing a puppy, could you take into account particularly rescuing one out of your regional pound or kennel? If you do, you'll now not get any purebred registration and you'll have got to evaluate it cautiously for disorder and the puppies angle.

Answer 3

The poor puppy! Why would you crate a puppy? Sit down and have a long heart to heart with the son and you're other half. I would tell them that he either needs to grow up and take care of the puppy, or it has to go because it's not yours to be taking care of it. I'd take it, but I don't know where you're at! I would talk to your other half about it. If you just come out and say get rid of it, the son might lash out at you and it will end up being a huge argument. If he got it as a gift for his gf, he should have consulted her parents first to make sure it was ok that she have it. That boy needs to grow up and start acting like an 18 year old. If it's your house, then you have the right to say if it can stay or not.

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is think. Think what is best for the dog, and get your family to think of it too. The dog is not wanted or cannot be taken care of properly by the person who owns it.

You cannot look after it properly simply because you do not want it which is fair enough, i respect that. The dog would b better off at a rescue where it can be rehomed where it will fit in, be wanted all round and also get the time spent with it that it needs. If you have to, while you are out, make an anonymous phone call to a rescue or better still tell them the exact situation and just tell them that they cannot tell your family that it was you that phoned.

Please post back, the whereabouts of where you live so that if i know of any around your area i can recommend some rescues to you.

Answer 5

Sounds like he needs to take some responsibility. I would just talk with your husband and have him lay down the law. ( i say this because I am a step-daughter, and you don;t want to be the wicked step-mother, he needs to know your husband is in agreement)

I would suggest that your husband tell him the dog needs to go to the girlfriends house, or you will be locating a new family for the dog. A family that wants to love and care for him apparently more than him & his girfriend want to. If the dog can;t go to her house, I would suggest putting some ads in your local paper or on craigs list, and interview the families that are interested. Charge a small fee as one other small way of knowing you are giving him to a good home. Another good idea would be to contact the breeder where the dog originally came from and ask if they can take it back, then they can do the leg work on finding him an appropriate home.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Your best off asking friends, family, and co-workers if they are interested in a puppy. You should also post fliers of the dog around your workplace, in petshops, etc. An ad in the local newspaper is also a good idea. Make sure you ask for some type of adoption fee, no less than $50. Never ever list a pet for free, or else it could get into the hands of people that will harm it. If non of this works, go ahead and take the puppy to a shelter, preferably a no kill shelter. Just remember that half of all dogs that enter shelters will be euthanized, so do your best to find him a home before you send him to what could be his death.

Answer 7

I feel for the pup, although I definitely feel for your situation. I would hold a family meeting laying down the law. Tell them the rules and tell them that if it's not taken care of, you'll find a good home for the pup, period. Give them a week to decide how they're going to handle it, then take over. This way you gave them the chance to be responsible. By law, this dog is yours since it's in your house, and you are responsible for anything this pup does. However, please find it a good home, such as a rescue group or the Humane Society. Don't let your anger be taken out on the pup.

Answer 8

This IS your kid. When you married, you agreed to take everything that came with your spouse, including their children. It is your responsibility for letting the "kid" bring an animal home. If your rule is no animals, then no animals it is. ENFORCE your rules! Take the puppy back whereever it came from. This is exactly why you NEVER give animals as surprise presents, esp. when you're a teenager. You have to responsibility to talk to this person you're supposed to be teaching. Make him take the puppy back whereever he got it from (probably some backyard breeder). If the breeder won't take it back, take it to a shelter while it's still young enough to be adopted. Every day you keep this puppy out of the shelter, it's cuteness goes down and the more likely it is to be put to sleep. Make sure the teenager knows that also, This is a life you're talking about, not a stuffed animal!

Answer 9

you need to have a serious talk with your step son. Explain to him that this isn't fair on the dog, try not to make it about you because then he'll just resent you for wanting to get rid of it. Remind him how a dog is for life and not just for Christmas, if his gf can't have the dog, then they need to consider re homing the dog to a place where it can be properly looked after and cared for. It sound like you're getting the hard work while your step son is getting all the pleasure time, therefore he thinks its great and want to keep it, but let him know about how the dog is when he's not there. It sounds so patronizing but just try talking to him like you're trying to convince a child to return a lost dog it found to it's owner.

Answer 10

wow. I wouldn't not look after the dog if I were you... because that would mean you'd just be ruining the dog. your stepson is obviously irresponsible, so he isn't going to step up and do the work. I would tell him that you are no longer going to take care of the dog, and to ask his girlfriend if she will be willing to take it to her house.. since it is hers, and a puppy is a huge expense for you (both money and time wise). Then, I would immediately start looking for a home before the puppy gets to old... and then I would give it to someone who I felt would love and look after this puppy, and just give it away. Your stepson will be pissed off, but will get over it --seems he has no real attachment to the dog anyway.... Yup. that's what I'd do, find it a home myself and give it away while he's out (at school or whatever he does). Irresponsible & Terrible. Shame on him.