Oh goodness, I need to break up with my possessive, jealous, explosive, spiteful, and controlling boyfriend, who also happens to be my boss and roommate...How do I do it without being fired and ending up homeless? I work under the table for cash, so I have no legal rights as a worker, and he pays half of my $1200 rent. Thankfully the lease is in my name, so he can't claim the apartment, but my cash job brings in $2K a month part time, which I need to survive. WHAT DO I DO? I'm freaking out!
2007-01-15 05:46:23 · 13 answers · asked by Mickey B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have a full time job in addition to this (which pays a measly $900 a month post-tax & 401K contributions)
2007-01-15 06:01:30 · update #1
This is good stuff, thanks guys...hind sight IS always 20/20 huh?
2007-01-15 06:02:40 · update #2
Get your ducks in a row, Go out and find another job, one that will make ends meet and then let him know that the relationship is over and when he says well your out of a job, then say that is fine and your out of a place to live! Good luck.
2007-01-15 05:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is super scary.
Here's what I think you should do.
1. Get a new job, or at least start looking for a new job right away. You should have time to do this because you are a part-time worker. Use the other part of your time to find a job.
2. Sell your lease and find another place to live that you can afford on your new salary. If necessary, move in for a while with your mom, a friend, or something. Do this soon!
3. Break up with your boyfriend as you are moving out, and quit your job with him. You don't have to give any kind of notice because of the nature of your business arrangement. If you continue to work for him you'll never be able to get out of the relationship completely. That's why you need a new job.
Don't work "under the table". Don't live with a man you're not married to, and, in general, don't mix business with personal relationships.
2007-01-15 05:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Protect yourself first!!! Might seem a little selfish, but there are a few things ya gotta do, I would talk to whoever you got the lease thru and bail on that! I would find a job that would pay my bills(and there is a lot of work) Just dont freak out!!!! Get the fk out of there, but if you have to lie and sht, just do it and if you are doing it for the right reason it's O.K!!!! Or you could just come live with me???haha
Good Luck!!!!!!
2007-01-15 05:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by dwntwnbadboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well do u really want to break up with him. if u do then get another job on the side and make sure he doesn't know about it. it may take some time but save up some money and find a apartment that's not to much money and is good for you. so when you finally tell him its over, you'll have a job and your own apartment so things wont be awkward between you two. and youll be single again. good luck!
2007-01-15 05:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're screwed. Nobody ever told you don't eliminate where you eat? How DO people get into these situations? Well, hindsight is always 20/20. Look, you need a new job and a roommate if you can't handle the rent. Simple as that.
2007-01-15 05:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start looking for another job now, because chances are you're not going to want to keep that job once you break up with him. You can't end up homeless if the lease is in your name, so I'd worry mostly about the job right now and possibly looking for another roommate.
2007-01-15 05:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look for a new job soon before you break up or get him fired some how. When you solve the problem with the job kick him out if your afraid to tell him yourself a note is the best choice. OR if you love him at all you should tell him that hes not treating you right and warn him that if he doesn't start treating you right your kicking him out.
-----Good Luck
2007-01-15 06:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlyn D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To quote an old gal I know that teaches workplace etiquette, "You never dip your pen in the company inkwell"
You will probably face numerous repercussions. He doesnt sound like a very nice person. Start looking for a new job and apartment. Be prepared to document his actions and reactions as you may need a restraining order before it is all said and done.
Good luck and chalk it up as a lesson learned
2007-01-15 05:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-24 19:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo **** girl yeah what are you going to do and why would you put yourself in this situation but since you have maybe you start looking for another job first before breaking up with him that way you will still have some income coming in and also have a roof over your head still .......start updating your resume god bless
2007-01-15 05:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jo3-Jo3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋