tattoos and being a mother?

Question

i no this may sound silly, but i just want other peoples opion on this. i am 24 years old and a mother of 2, and 3 step children. my ? is alot of people have said to me u r a mother, u r not suppose to look like that. i love tattoos and piercings, and yes i have alot, and some people critisize what i do and the way i look and dress. but i am happy with the way i look and i am a great mother. do u think it matters how u look and what u do to your own body when u r a parent?

Answer 1

I do think it matters when you're a parent, yes.

I don't think that it minimizes you being a good Mom however.

It really is a matter of what you and your family deem acceptable.
ie: if you're a doctor or an attorney and they're all visible/along with the piercings - it's probably not going to be the best idea to have the look you're describing.
If you're an entertainer or an artist - it's probably ideal.

Will you mind when your children want to look like you and ask for the same tats & piercings?

That may assist you in finding the answer you're seeking.

Answer 2

I think to an extent yes, it does matter. I have quite a few tattoos and piercings myself (4 tattoos and 15 ear piercings and I'll be a mom soon), but aside from my ears, my tats are not visible (I used to have a tongue ring, but I took it out b/c it was time). And I prefer it that way now that I'm going to be a mom. It was cute to show them off when I was 18-22, but after a certain point in your life it looks trashy. Granted you're still young, so it doesn't look trashy yet, but after 30 you might want to tone it down. There's nothing more pathetic than a trashy thirty-something person. You can still look nice and fashionable without losing your class. Besides, "older" people that try too hard to look young end up looking 10x older than they really are.

By no means, am I saying that you're not a good mother b/c you have tats and piercings...that means nothing. I'm just speaking from a completely superficial stand point. There's a woman in my office that wears all of the clothes that a high school kid would wear and gets her hair highlight the most horrible colors, and she's damn near 45, and it just makes her look so much older.

You can still be cool hip mom, w/ out looking like you tried too hard.

Answer 3

I am a mom, and both me and my fiance are heavily tattooed, and we would not have it any other way. Actually, my son thinks that people that are not tattooed and pierced are "weird". He comes to the shop I work in all of the time, and he wants to be a tattoo artist when he grows up. He even owns some tattoo stencil coloring books and a light box to practice. We feel that it promotes individuality, and it also helps him accept people that are different then him. And also, what a wonderful bunch of people for him to be associated with. He looks up to all of the tattoo artists that are like an extended family to us, and all of them are making a living doing something that they love. I have found that people that are modified are more accepting, caring, and willing to give a friend the shirt of their back if they need it. I feel uncomfortable around people that are not modified, as I feel that they are not comfortable enough in their own skin to be able to express their own individuality in such an open fashion, and I think my son benefits from this environment.

Answer 4

I'm tattooed and pierced to and I'm a great mother to my 4 month old baby. Don't listen to other people. Chances are they're the kind who believes that in order to be a good mother, you have to look like June Cleaver. Do your own thing. What you look like has nothing to do with the type of parent you are.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter how you look or what you do with your own body if your a parent. We have 2 children and I have 4 tattoos getting 5th soon, tongue pierced,belly button pierced, hubby has 5 tattoos getting 6th soon.Our kids think the tattoos are cool and want their own when they are old enough. It's your body it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
Hope this helps and happy tattooing!!

Answer 6

I am a 29 yr old mom to a 1.5 year old and I'm getting a tattoo in less than 2 weeks....excited but nervous...I think that it's fine to get one if you're a mom and it's no one else's business. But I do think that as a mom it's your responsibilty to set an example for your kiddies...regardless of what it is...ethics, tattoos, piercings, style of dress, etc. I feel the same way about body mods. If it's something you don't want your kiddies getting, then you shouldn't either...because they look to the parents as an example. If you would be ok with them getting body mods....then all tables are open. :)

Answer 7

Don't worry about what other people think - the tats and piercings are on YOU, not THEM. And having them does not have anything to do with how good of a mother you are. I'm 34, have 2 kids, and 3 tattoos. As long as you are happy with who you are, the people that don't like it, can kiss your a**! :)

Answer 8

who cares what others think, i have 6 tats and 21 piercings. i also have 1 child and 1 on the way and my son thinks my tattoos are so cool and wants one when he gets older. so i look at it like my child thinks no less of me for the way i look so no one else matters. my tats and peircings don't make me any less of a mother or a bad one. IF i was out slutting or partying every night then ppl would have the right to say i was a bad mother

Answer 9

ONLY if you do NOT dress Sl*tty or unappropriately then it should be fine, My sister will be 25 and she has 2 tattoos and pirecings, everyone loves her(dunno why-her attitude is Sh*t) lol...But she is a good mom but she needs to break up with her boyfriend they do NOT get along well(father of the child) My nephew doesn't even want to stay with his aprents for crying out loud. BUT as long as you ain't dumb about it like I said you should be fine, don't let others put you down just cuz you have some holes in you and permanet markings too.

Answer 10

I'm 37 with 3 kids and I'm a corporate accountant. I just got my 13th tat 2 days ago and getting #14 next month. I teach my children to have their own likes & dislikes in life, I will guide you through life teaching right from wrong but it's up to you to learn from your own misstakes, be kind to others because things can & will come back to ya. Just because it is something I love/like doesn't mean you have to also. My kids (20, 14, 12) think of me as their best friend and come to me on EVERYTHING. My tats do not show so I am not judged (as society does) within my work environment. Although everybody knows I have them & ask to see them or if I've gotten a new one. I'm a wonderful mom (so they tell me) and excellent in my work. So to me it doesn't matter what people think of me because I'm happy with who I am and I'm just me. As far as being an influence on my kids well they aren't aloud to have tat's or facial piercings (I don't have any) till 18 and they know my guidelines for my own. My oldest likes & has a tat but made the decision when she was 19, my other 2 kids like them but say they don't want any which is fine by me. So don't worry about others just be the best mom you can be for your kids, teach & guide them through life as they need, be happy with you because if your not happy then nobody else will be & it's up to you to make your self happy. Live life to the fullest cuz you never know when it will end. Don't have any regrets of not doing something you wanted to do because of society (of course within legal limits duh).