I really like this guy, we dont talk that much, but i just said screw it anyways im going to ask him if he wants to hang out. He said he practically has a girlfriend, but said i should call him sometime. He told me i seemed like a cool girl, and that i was sweet for doing that. During second hour, we sit right next to eachother, but lately ive just been embarassed around him and its hard to talk to him. Either he is really shy, or he never wanted to hang out becuase he has never started a convo. Guys, do u think that he just said yes because he felt bad for me, even tho he didnt want to hang out, or he really does want to hang (but that would be weird becuase we dont really talk)? All my friends are constantly with their guys at school and i feel like an idiot having to sit their and watch them kiss. How should i go about this guy? i want to be friends but he makes it so hard
2007-01-15 05:40:17 · 10 answers · asked by kat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, I was completely lost when it came to boys in high school. I guess I was were you are now with your friends. I was always the shy one and my friends always had guys all over them and harrasing them. Eventually, I did get a boyfriend, in 12th grade but it took him over a year to break through my shyness. Having a boyfriend in high school isnt all its cracked up to be. Sometimes, I am glad I didn't have all the attention my friends got because almost all of them got pregnant while in high school and although some were able to graduate, a lot weren't. And even now, I see them, and now it's even worst, now they have 5, 6 or even 7 kids. It's crazy! I guess my point to you is...don't rush. It will eventually happen for you. I know you get depressed when you see your friends with their boyfriends and your the 5th wheel, it sucks, I know. But it will eventually happen and it will happen in a way that you won't have to be the only one making all the effort. This guy, I wouldn't let yourself get too into him because he may just be a nice guy who doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But what you need to do is ask yourself, are you really into him? Or are you just into him cause that way you and your friends will ALL have boyfriends? I have done that too. I started going out with this guy (while in High School) because my friends kept pushing me to talk to him and the fact that their boyfirends were good friends with him didn't help. They pushed so hard that I started to like him and I gave in and started talking to him only to realize that it wasn't what I wanted at all. I ended up hurting him and almost getting jumped by his older sister, LOL. Not something I wanted at all. But you get my point, don't rush...take your time and you will eventualyl have a boy friend who truly cares about you and who your truly want to be with. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 05:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he said he "practically has a girlfriend" than he is more than likely being honest and still trying to be nice and be a friend. Be grateful that he is at the least ebing honest with you about his relationship status. About calling him I would probably say not to do it since you would only be letting your emotions get wrapped up in him even with the fact he is pretty much taken. I would though occasionally just stir up casual converstaion during your second hour and get to know this cat a little better. Maybe you two can develope a good friendship and if nothing pens out of this relationship he is in now then maybe in the future you might have a chance. As far as being worried that your friends have boyfriends and you don't...... let them. Don't settle for anythign less than what you deserve. plus another way to look at it good things come to those who wait! ;0)
2007-01-15 05:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big mistake to try to have a boyfriend just because all of your friends have one. Believe me, I know the feeling of wanting one because your friends have one. But the right reason to get to know a special guy is because you like him and the two of you have a lot in common. If it's not working out with this fellow, just wait for something else to come along eventually. It's not really that good of an idea to date anyone steadily until you're both ready for marriage.
2007-01-15 05:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all this guy told you he "practically has a girlfriend" so he is into someone else. I think you just want this to work so that you aren't the only left out of the dating scene. Ask yourself this, would you rather get in a relationship just so you aren't the only one with out a boyfriend, and then meet someone who you actually like and want to be with? Then you would be unavailable for him, because you would have this pretend relationship thing going on. What you need to deal with is your friendships with your girlfriends. They are spending all of their time with these guys and pushing their girls away, When they break up they are going to realize they have no one to talk to. So make sure you force your friends to stay in touch with you. Make shopping dates, and coffee breaks and such that guys wouldnt want to attend, and then you will have them all to yourself. Don't worry about that particular guy, when you meet the one, you will know.
2007-01-15 05:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by raegurl99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not into you. He said he practically has a girlfriend, so you should have taken that to mean NO. He's making it hard to be your friend because he doesn't want to or need to be your friend. He didn't "feel bad" for you, he was just trying to be a decent guy as he rejected your advances.
2007-01-15 05:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems as if hes not that interested or maybe he is shy or is expecting you to start the conversation sice you are the one who asked him to hang out. anyways dont worry you'll find your guy...there plenty more out there
2007-01-15 05:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did have the same problem, but really he's a jerk. maybe you should move on and find another guy.
2007-01-15 05:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont chase him, if he does like you he will come to you, if not it wasnt meant to be, theres tons of guys out there, dont focus on one.
2007-01-15 05:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by em9sredbeam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it and be his friend if he wants to. stop trying to make things into what they aren't
2007-01-15 05:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by identityquiet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is best
2007-01-15 05:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Yana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋