When my boyfriend/father of three of my children and I were seperated he father another child. Well he wants me to become friends with her. I personally hate her. I also think that there is still something going on between them. He has also told me that he isn't sure that he still wants this between us. Should I try to be her friend?
2007-01-15 05:34:25 · 30 answers · asked by jessica c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One thing that I forgot to add is that she emailed and apologized for what happened. Now to me it sounded like present tense instead past tense. He said it was past tense. She said that she wanted him to tell me about them gently instead of the way that I found out. I saw her my space page and it said married, and his said in a relationship. It also seemed like she was in Washington with him because her family was asking if they were going to make it down for the holidays. He claims she wasn't there. This hurts really bad.
2007-01-15 06:08:23 · update #1
No, it will just be that much worst when you find out they've been going behind your back. I understand he fathered 3 of you children but why would you want to go back to him? Trust is everything, I dont see how you could ever trust this guy.
2007-01-15 05:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Hotcakes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, well, well, you have found yourself in sort of a pickle haven't you? This is exactly what happens when people go around trying to play family without a true commitment. Now you have 3 children whose future hinges on your decision to take this man back or not. He sounds to me like someone unable to make a commitment and I would cut my losses. Ecspecially if you feel as though something is still going on. Why would he want you to be friends with her? Did you know her before? The best thing for you to do is show him the curb and than become friends with the other girl because you two share something that may not mean anything to you guys but mean the world to your children. The same father. Think about it.
2007-01-15 05:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by jeezmeneti66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, it really is a not uncomplicated problem to be in. I too have a boyfriend of about 3 years, and he has a son. It changed into very demanding on the starting up of the relationship to comprehend that i changed into not #a million in his existence. He insisted i changed into, yet boyfriend/female friend relationship is way distinct than father/son. He nonetheless talks to his ex-spouse, and that i changed into uncomfortable with it to boot. they have dinner mutually (mom, him and his son) each and every Monday evening, for the sake of their son, and a semblance of a classic existence. that's an odd problem to be, expecially when you consider that we do not have childrens, yet all you would possibly want to do is trust him. They obviously broke up for a reason. some human beings basically get alongside better at the same time as they don't look mutually. some day we are able to comprehend one among those bonding between dad and mom even if we are with them or not! dangle in there! :)
2016-12-02 07:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
u are askin if u should be a frnd of his other gal or not..ryt?well...as long as she has no grudges against you n there is no clear reason as to why you SHOULD NOT be her frnd...u shouldnt refrain yourself from befriending her.Just think and ask yourself, what are you achieving by standing an enemy to her?Are you getting back what you lost(if any)?
All that you are doing by keeping yourself at bay from her is that you are yourself pushing yourself towards a feeling of jealosy and hatred...and believe me...this jealosy is gonna eat you up day by day second by second....Well..I am not suggesting you that you put her in your best friend's circle..but if not very friendly, stay at least neutral to her and focus on your present...but plz plz refrain yourself from being her enemy because believe me its worst than one can imagine, once the consequences start to surface.Take care hun.
Your frnd 4 always,
hell
2007-01-15 05:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by D Bohemian d'ler 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your focus should be on what is best for your children....if you are going to stay w/ your "boyfriend" you will need to be civil toward the other woman and her child - your children's 1/2-sibling. Ugh! Why bring babies into an uncommitted relationship and an unstable (re: potential "infidelity") home. Yikes...what were you thinking?
2007-01-15 05:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. What a jerk. Trust your instinct, where there is smoke there is usually fire. Make sure he is supporting the three children you have with him. Don't babysit his other child or get involved with the mother. You aren't married and that is just unreasonable, if not crazy.
2007-01-15 05:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest being civil to her, try and be her friend then maybe you will get info on whats going on between them. problem is he has children with both of you so the two of you will always see eachother and it is miuch better for all parties if you can get along, plus it is a good exapmple for the kids.
2007-01-15 05:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always good to be civil for the kids. You don't have to like her. And you don't have to be her friend. I wouldn't. I wouldn't even stay with the father anymore because of her, but that's just me.
2007-01-15 05:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be friends with her but at least be civil, especially when the kids are around. I am not friends with my ex-husband's new wife...but I'm civil, more so than her, and that makes me a better person and others see that as well.
2007-01-15 06:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by slp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should because if you guys are thinking about getting married than you need to get colse to her because if both your boyfriend and his ex are mature adults then you and your boyfriend are going to have contact with her.
2007-01-15 05:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋