Im 13 and im to shy and please help me to overcome shyness.
my friends and other people have always told me that im to shy and need to talk more and say how many girls i can get but im just to quiet. Please dont say dont worry about it because i really want to overcome shyness. I mean my 11 yr old brother has had 3 gf's and me not one. And i really am just sick of it. My dad is always saying how worried he is cuase im to quiet and he doesnt want me commiting suicide becasue i keep things bottled up, but i wouldnt kill myself or anything like that.
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME !?!?!?!?!?!?
2007-01-15 05:28:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. my parents really are not that worried its just that everyonce and a while my dad would say y dont u have a gf or when in the paper there is something bout a kid who committed suicide he will say nuthin is that bad to kill urself over
2007-01-15 05:36:32 · update #1
You really shouldn't care about what other people think about your shyness. If you want to overcome it just to get more girls, I'm afraid I can't help you. Just try and start talking more, to both girls and boys. Join some extra-curricular activities and get to know more people. Pretty soon they'll introduce you to their friends, and so on. Hope that helps.
2007-01-15 05:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Gina Chess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be helpful: http://www.pamf.org/teen/life/relationships/shy.html
And this: http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/shyness.html
The most important things to remember are:
1) Being shy is very common, especially at your age
2) Just because people are quiet and shy does NOT mean they're a walking time-bomb, maybe it just means they're deep thinkers.
3) 11 years old is too young to have already had one girlfriend, much less three! I don't think YOU are the one your dad needs to be worried about here....
4) The most significant thing here is that you want to overcome it. It's just a matter of acting like you're not shy... even if it's VERY hard at first because it's so new to you... and then after a while it will just happen more naturally. You won't think twice before speaking to someone in a new situation. Remember... lots of kids your age are having the same problem so if YOU can learn to make the first move socially, then you're already more than half the way there.
Best to you... and know that the girls worth having a relationship with will much prefer a guy who's a little quiet over a guy who runs around yammering about himself all day long. The only reason those guys get girls is because the really cool quiet guys aren't saying what they're really thinking and feeling. If they did... they'd have ALL the girls and the mouthy jocks would all be playing Star Wars Trivial Pursuit together on weekends :)
2007-01-15 05:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm. In grade school, I was SO EXTREMELY shy and introverted, it wasn't even funny. I couldn't look at strangers hardly, let alone talk to them! It was insane, lol.
I don't know what your interests are or anything, but when I started high school, I got into theatre, and that has opened me up like nobody's business. Try auditioning for a local or school play, and it will be extremely nerve-racking at first, you will be nervous, but it's so much fun! I can talk to anyone now.
If Drama isn't your thing, try joining some sports teams or something of the sort. Just get out there and meet new people, someone will talk to you eventually, you'll have to talk back, and that's where the magic happens. Lol.
Best of luck to you, hon. <3
2007-01-15 05:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by CrystalDreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, your 11yr old bro? 3 gfs? Please...You should never have more than one! And plus...he's eleven...thats not serious. Don't sweat that. But, i think you need to find out what makes you feel shy and nervous and work on that, thats what i did. I really thought about it and figured out that I was worried that no one liked me, or they were all judging me on everything i said. So, I kept telling myself that they don't even KNOW me yet, so how could enyone think i was a loser or anything. you also have to know that you're a good person and that there are tons of didfferent people out there. Thats why we're called "individuals", because everyones different. Figure out what you like about yourself. You're good traits. Work those.If everyone says you could be raking in the chicks, they must know what they're talking about. People looking from the outside in sometimes know more about you than you think. So listen up. Don't worry man...you'll do just fine.
2007-01-15 05:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIsten I am just like you around my friends i`m comfortable and can talk freely but in front of others I am shy,I am still like that and I`m 27, let your dad know that you would never do that but as for the shyness once and a while try to speak out but it`s our nature you`ll be fine
2007-01-15 05:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Erin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any one here can do sumthin for u....all resides in your willingness to overcome your shyness....
it is difficult,i admit...cuz i had been shy too...im still be far less than before..
the key is to stop thinking a lot like...'oh..should i talk to her...or must i say this or that' nah thinking about all this leads to nothing...just act..instead of thinking a lot..
im sure u hav always the fear of being humiliated...or u always matter about what others might think of each actions/move /step u make...
say for once stop to this shyness, which deprive u of so much things....i hav regrets u know...cuz mmy stupid shyness deprived me of so much pleasures...
u need to be very willing to undertake this long and hard fight against shyness...
another advice...never go back once u started this fight...
dont worry..each battle won, will give u courage to go further...
at start try to record some hard challenges u tried and succeed...but start my easier one first ok??
2007-01-15 05:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by rapstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont be afraid of speaking up ur mind.
tell people what u think, tell people what u like and what u dont
and for ur relief, some girls like guys who are shy
take ur time to get use to it, ur still too young and a long life comin ahead.
also, be more outgoing, hang out with friends more often
good luck
2007-01-15 05:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by katy7angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby or pick up something that interests you. This will give you something that you're confident to talk about.. which will help you gain confidence for talking about other things...Good luck.. and you have lots of time to find a girlfriend, you're young..
2007-01-15 05:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, slow down. You just have to get over your fears. Talk to a girl, we dont bite (or most of us). Dont be shy, its better if you make the first move and get over your fears!
2007-01-15 05:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by its_just_me_218 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not shy.
You're not shy.
You're not shy.
You kind of have to play reverse-psychology on yourself, or think of situations when you ARE not shy. What people are you comfortable around?
As for me, when my ONE best friend is around, I can open up to anybody if she is there.
2007-01-15 05:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋