ok so my mom knows I'm good friends with this guy and earlier she thought we were dating. anyway..... she hardly ever lets me do stuff with him and when she does let him to come over and watch a movie shes always sitting in the same room with us so we never get any alone time. I think it's because I don't usually hang out with guys so she think's he's going to take advantage of me or something. I'm really close friends with him and we're practically dating now and I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me or make me feel uncomfortable. How do I get my mom to understand this and let me hang out with him alone? or what other things are there to do with him? besides movies and going to the mall?
2007-01-15 04:58:52 · 7 answers · asked by sportzchic09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're both sophomores in high school and 16. she won't let me go over to his house either. she has nothing against his parents. He would be my first boyfriend by the way so I'm no s lut and I'm not going to do things I shouldn't.
2007-01-15 05:00:30 · update #1
She's just trying to protect you, that's all. You should be happy - not many moms care enough about their daughters to do what yours is doing. :)
However, if you do want some freedom, discuss with her on a compromise.
For example, if he's over at your house and you guys are watching a movie, tell her you'll leave the door wide open if she promises to stay out of the room.
Don't expect miracles - If this is your first boyfriend, you mom is probably having a bit of trouble processing the fact that her little girl is all grown up. So be patient, talk to her and most of all LISTEN to her. Show her you're responsible enough to have a boyfriend and not let him go too far. Let her know that you trust him and that you'd love if she trusted the two of you. :)
Also, assuming that you're really close to your mom, also assure her that your boyfriend will not replace the time that you spend with her.
And any promises you make to her - keep them!
2007-01-15 05:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Basiate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. Explain to her (calmly...without freaking out) that this guy is just a friend.
Is there any reason why your mom wouldn't trust you?
Assure your mom that there is nothing going on between you and your friend. Promise to tell your mom if anything changes in your relationship (ie. if you kiss or want to date each other). Keep your promise.
Your mom is just trying to protect you. Even though 16 feels really grown up to you, your mom knows that you are still growing up and are going through a very confusing part of life.
As for activities, why not hang out in a group? You can always go bowling, or for coffee. Just anything that can be done in public.
Seriously, find out why your mom has a problem with you being alone with your friend.
If you act maturely about the situation, your mom will be more open to hearing your side.
2007-01-15 05:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jem! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ice skating or to a football game for your school with a group of friends, including him, and then break off from them to be alone together. Invite him over to dinner so your mom can get to know him! Good luck, mothers are just overprotective.
2007-01-15 05:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rosalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn how to have a better relationship with you mom. it seems like a lack of communicaton. your mother probably knows you like this boy but is waiting for you to tell her. don't try and hide the relationshop from your mother because sooner or later she's gonna find out and get mad and feel that you're probably hiding other things too. just tell your mother you really like and would it be okay if i date him. but whatever you do don't get frustrated you're still young and sometimes mothers get overprotective but once she realizes how much of a gentelman he is she wouldn't mind you guys going together alone. so just have faith and be patient.
2007-01-15 05:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by jdukenumber1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thoroughly understand. I even have greater guy acquaintances then females. while i exchange into sixteen i continually informed my mum and dad i exchange into someplace else then the place i'd desire to have been. Like identity tell them i exchange into going to the sea coast or bypass cling with a woman buddy that i in my opinion hadnt talked to in 5 months. females continually appeared to stab me interior the returned.
2016-10-20 05:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your situation;
"Mum I'm growing up, you can't stop me from having feelings so just show me you love me by taking my word that we'll have a serious relationship" It sounds like a decent one so I don't understand why your mum can't take it, maybe she still wants to protect you.
2007-01-15 05:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is right is you spend much time with him you will end up want to do ...... with him.
your mom she wants you to stay right & she is afriad that you will be emotionally attached to that boy she might be right still i can undersatand your feelings.
if you really care to stay right find a girl friends your mom will be happy & you might enjoy the group more
2007-01-15 05:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋