2007-01-15 04:57:49 · 48 answers · asked by beesugar24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-15 05:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by creme8888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably didn't know each other well enough when they got married, or thought they were in love but actually weren't. Sometimes people fall out of love or fall in love with someone else. But think about it this way, how do you feel about the people who broke up with you? You probably don't like them very much (and if you are still friends, great for you), well consider living with that person, getting married, thinking you are going to spend the rest of your life with them, maybe even having kids....theres a lot of emotional factors with a marriage. With hate there always has to be love. At least a little bit!
2007-01-15 05:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question.... because that's exactly how I feel about my hubby sometimes. People know in the beginning that the person that they are about to marry aren't really the "ones" for them. They just settled for some reason or the other to be with that person at the time. Some people don't look long-term in relationships, just short-term and think they can handle it! WRONG! That's how we get to the point that we HATE each other. All those things negative about that person adds up and irritates you until you feel as if you can't stand them or the annoying habit anymore.
2007-01-15 05:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's an inherent assumption in this question that people who get married must inevitably come to hate one another, which obviously isn't true. Though happy marriages seem to be few and far between, they do exist--my parents have been married for over thirty years, and my grandparents' marriages both lasted more than fifty years.
That being said, I think a lot of people come into marriage with false expectations--they idealize their partners, or, on the other end of the spectrum, see their partner's flaws and believe that they can change them. A lot of people get married to have a wedding or because they're in love with love.
Perhaps most importantly of all, people aren't honest with themselves; they think they will be able to overcome their own propensities to cheat, nag, insult their partners and/or be selfish all around. By the time the marriage ends, regardless of any problems the spouse may have (such as being abusive), these people hate themselves, and project this feeling onto their exes in order to avoid the crushing desperation of self-loathing. Time (to get to know someone, to think, to heal, etc.) and honesty (with oneself and one's partner) are the only real solutions.
2007-01-20 09:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, I hope that is not why people get married. My husband and I love each other - but we've only been marriage 21 years - 22 in April... maybe we are doing something wrong :0)
no really - people hurry into marriage sometimes and sometimes they marry for the wrong reasons... find your soul mate - or I say stay single until you do... you'll no them when you meet them - my husband and I knew the minute we saw each other - I am not sure why - we hadn't even spoken yet.
sorry someone has given you a bad view of marriage
2007-01-20 09:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get married too soon. They think they are in love and think it will last forever and get married. Unfortunately, it many times does not work out When it doesn't work out--they feel pain. The pain causes them to be angry. They usually don't really hate each other, but they think they do and act like they do. But there are many people who get married and continue to love each other forever. Best wishes!
2007-01-20 07:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by xraytls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think people get married to hate each other. I just think a lot of people grow apart and become so different that they have trouble living together. Some people have happy marriages till the end because they learn how to love each other for who they are and who they become. MARRIAGE IS THE TRUE TEST OF LOVE!!!!
2007-01-15 05:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by TeresaW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not aware of one person who has married for the expressed purpose of hating another. Where have you seen this?
Of course, many short-sighted people get married and fail at the marriage because they are not willing to put the required effort into the relationship.
Getting married is like owning a car. It takes proper maintenance and investment to keep it running well. It neither solves problems nor causes them, but can be a wonderfully rewarding experience if treated well.
2007-01-15 05:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't start off that way, unfortunately it happens all too often. After time spent getting to know each other, you get married and then you really get to know the other. You may feel that living together helps, let me tell you it is only a trial situation. Nothing prepares you for the real thing, unless you have a solid foundation the marriage erodes very quickly.
2007-01-15 05:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kathleen B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason is they see each other as they actually are during married life, and it is nothing even close to the fuzzy feel good emotions, like when courting. This is a perfect case of why people should know all the quirks and annoying things about their partners, before considering marriage.
2007-01-15 05:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These people are in a bad marriage, not all married couples hate each other, my mother and father are married for 40 years and are still sweet to each other.
2007-01-15 05:01:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋