Mistakes that both women and men tend to do on the First Date ...?

Question

I need some ideas for my first article...I 've got some but there are not enough.!Help..

Answer 1

Well, there's a ton of them out there, but I'll give you the mistakes that guys usually make- since I'm a guy, and I've made plenty of them over the years!

- Lying- about anything. Definitely not worth it, and most women are pretty in tune with knowing when a guy is lying to them.
- Conducting the date like it's an interview- a non-stop barrage of questions like- what's your favorite movie / book / color / food, where did you go to school, what do you do for fun. . boring.
- Talking about former girlfriends, especially in a mean, bitter or spiteful way.
- Talking too much about 'guy' stuff- cars, sports, action movies. Instant sleeping pill for many women.
- Bragging, or trying too hard to be impressive.

That should be enough to get you started, at least from a guy's perspective!

Answer 2

They tend to talk too much because of how nervous they get. Usually they're fake on the first date (gotta be truthful haha) and sometimes they don't take enough risks. Or they take too many. lol.

Answer 3

Go to the movies or a restaurant. Talk about the past including past relationships. Try to impress the other person which amounts to glorified lying. Talk about the details of finances. Spend more than 15 minutes together on a date. Spend more than $5 on the total date. Have sex or even kiss.

At the movies or in a restaurant you can hardly expect to actually get to know the person you're with. Too many distractions from having a real conversation. Talking about past relationships, when you don't know if the person you're with is worth sharing that information with, is utterly pointless. I always say just be yourself instead of trying to impress others. If they don't like me it's better to find out as soon as possible. Talking about money, in the very beginning, should be a clue as to what kind of woman you're with. Why invest more of your time with someone you aren't absolutely clear on as to whether she deserves a second date with you. Why spend money on someone when you aren't absolutely clear? Why get physical at all?

The purpose of a first date is to find out whether there is reasonable cause for a second date. In order to discover this there must be an uninterrupted open conversation about each others values and goals. Anything less than this is wasted time.

Afterall, the best purpose for dating is to find your soulmate. Do you know what your non-negotiables are in a relationship? I'll give you mine as an example but they are mine nonetheless.

1. She must be a real Christian.
2. She must be healthy and enjoy physical exercise.
3. Includes being tobacco and drug free.
4. She must be somewhat street smart, emotionally intelligent and optimistic/realistic overall.
5. She must want a big family.

If you are unclear, in your own mind, what you want out of a relationship then you are going into it blindly. That's simply a waste of time for both parties involved.

The good news is that this can be accomplished in about 15 minutes. Over the course of 15 minutes or so, while doing something fun together, two people can cover a lot of ground together to determine whether there is any reason at all to move forward. If no reason exists to do so, then very little time or money has been invested.

I once spent a Sunday afternoon doing nothing but 15 minute first dates. 15 of them to be exact with some time in between in case "we went into overtime" and to have time to "arrive" for the next date.. Only 4 of them were interesting enough to hold a decent mature conversation and only one deserved a second date and went on to Round Two. 15 dates = a total of 8:45 including my driving time and $0 spent = to move on to a second date with someone really special rather than invest more time and money with people not worth spending that time and money on.

That week I approached and asked out 16 women to go out on a date. Many of these were quite physically attractive and all seemed like they had their act together at first glance. Only one never called to set up a date.

As you can see from the previous numbers, first assumption or conclusions can be very misleading when it comes to potential relationships. Now some people will say I'm a cheap first date. I guess, if that makes them feel better about themselves, then they can repeat it until their lips turn blue. To say I earn a good living is an understatement but since I always avoid talking about my personal/business finances, and I make a concerted effort at avoiding the appearance of wealth, it's safe to say that most women never chase me for money. Why make yourself a target for gold diggers?

There's much more to cover on this topic but then I hardly want to give all my secrets away.

Answer 4

do not have anything to talk about , judge a book by it's cover, talk about past relationships, try to get a good night kiss or more on the 1st date

Answer 5

1) Talk too much about themselves
2) Failing to be a good listener
2) Taking themselves MUCH too seriously
3) Giving out too much info about ex bf/gf
4) Complaining about work,ex's, kids,anything...
5) Giving out too much info about themselves
6) Lying (about anything)
7) Being drunk, stoned, high whatever...
8) Playing games

Answer 6

on one my worst first dates the guy came to pick me up he asked if he could use my bathroom he was in there for like 30 min. when he came out he said that he needed to take a **** bad and he was rubbing his stomach i was sooo grossed out!!! couldn't he have waited to like never to take a **** in my house:)

Answer 7

1) Talk about ex-es
2) have sex
3) Lie - about anything
4) Meet their friends or family
5) Only go to a movie (they can't talk)
6) Only go where one of the two of them would like to go
7) Talk about only themselves

Answer 8

Give up too much information about thier life.

Answer 9

Guys- They think the girl won't change.

Girls- they think the guy will change


They're usually both wrong.

Answer 10

talk about them selves to much