At what age should my Daughter be allowed to go out on a date?

Question

She is twelve right now. What is your reasoning?

For those that think I am considering letting her date at twelve. That is not the case. I am just asking for an opinion for future reference.

Answer 1

Depends on your daughter's maturity and the young man.

My husband and I have already had this discussion (she's six months old, btw. LOL)

Fourteen (with restrictions) IF she is mature enough, and IF we know and approve of the young man. Restrictions: they will be in my presence (or easily accessed presence) at all times. As in, a study date at our house is fine (doors open). A movie...sure, just know I'll want to know the movie and time, and I just might be a few rows behind you. No going anywhere in his car, no hanging out at his house (unless I know the parents and they are like-minded), etc.

Fifteen IF we don't really know the young man. We WILL meet him before they "date". Same restrictions as above.

If the young man isn't after anything lewd, and truly just wants to get to know our daughter, then he shouldn't mind these restrictions too much, right?

Sixteen for dating without a "chaperone"-type situation. And only if we've met the young man. I still want to know where they're going, what they'll be doing, etc.

Seventeen...pretty much all's fair at that point, barring ridiculousness like sleep overs, dating a drug user, etc. She's got to grow up and make her own choices sometime, right?

Answer 2

Ok, No twelve year old is ready have a relationship. I'm a 21 year old college student who just took a relationships and sex class and it blew my mind. I started dating at 15 and i look back know and think "my god my parents were idoits". I admit i begged them to let me and finally they gave in and all it has done is ruin my view on relationships.

Because girls brains are wired so that feelings are based on emotion and touch. A person first very serious dating/relationship/talking/sleeping together is very instrumental in how the veiw relationships and how they will see there future relationships . (so if the first guy was abusive then any one non abusive is better)

I highly doubt when you daught is in her 20's or 30's looking to be hitched that you would want her to settle for 2nd best. So would you allow her to make poor choices because of lake of maturity. It doesn't matter if she is 12 and looks 16, the fact of the matter is she is still a little girl and really not ready to handle difficult decision making.

I plan on being a Middle school teacher and Middle/Junior high aged kids have a lot to deal with. Drinking and sex is already happening at this age, so dont kid yourself. If your daughter started dating at an early age, then that would mean she might become involved with an unhealthy lifestyle.

When i was in high school i was part of the popular group. The senior guy would date freshman girl just to get ther V-cards. Its sick and perverse. But that is the reality. Then those girls were left broken heart because they really thought they were "inlove".

Save your daughter from some heartache.

Answer 3

When she turns 25 and is married. Ha!Ha! Probably around 15. She is way too young right now. However, when she does start I would recommend the group date thing. Let her try going out with a group of friends to the movies and when she gets the hang of that she can move on to the real thing. I would always meet the guy and anyone else who may be involved in driving her, etc. I guess more important than age, it will depend on her maturity. There is no reason to date too early. I think the earlier you start, the earlier you are going to do other things that she isn't ready to do. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and a lot of my friends were able to date much younger. Unfortunately, they ended up being way too old for their age and ended up going out with older guys. Make sure she's ready and keep the lines of communication open. These are going to be unnerving times. Good luck!

Answer 4

15

Answer 5

15

Answer 6

I was not allowed to date until I was sixteen. I have followed this same rule for my daughter. Your daughter has plenty of time to date, don't rush.

Now that my daughter is sixteen and dating, I know I did the right thing. She would not have been ready for all the decisions and emotional stress dating can be and is.

The ONLY exception would be group dates, like skating parties, birthday parties that are adult supervised.

Let your daughter be a little girl as long as possible!! They grow-up so fast and are gone in the blink of an eye!

Answer 7

At 15 let her go out with a group. At 16 she can start dating. Do you realize that most 14 yr olds are having sex? So she is 12 now and WILL do things behind your back. Wait as long as you can before you turn her loose out there! Let her scream, let her cry, but do not let her free! Unless of course you want to become a Grandfather in the next two years!

Answer 8

well if you want her to kind of figure out guys while she is young i would say around 13. you dont want her to give up on having a boyfriend. and if she is comfortable asking you if she can go on a date id say she is ready. id let her now while she still actually wants to go on a date. because it wont be long before she will want to have a guy over to the house or go to his house. id rather have the 2 of them be around other people than be alone. she is 12 a 12 year old dating now days is nothing. like she isnt too young. let her get out in the dating world so by the time she is ready to get married she should have no problem finding mr right and shell know what to look for in a guy!

Answer 9

make her demonstrate some common sense and make sure she can put a condom on a banana.

Warn her about boys. See if she seems to understand the risks and dangers.

Then check out the boy. He should not be any older than 14.

Maybe invite him to dinner a few times to check him out if you are worried.

Then maybe allow a daytime date for handholding or kissing maybe. A movie or something.

The reasoning is that she should practice a bit and have some fun with boys her age so eventually she can relate to them and will know how to pick a good one.

Answer 10

I would say probably group dates at 13 and one on one dates at 15. You should also have the guy come to the house to pick her up and you have to meet him first. She will hate that, but it's the only way to tell if she is being honest. Trust me, I was a terrible teenager (25 yrs. old now) and I used to meet up with much older guys when I was 15. After my mom found out, she made all boys come to the house first and we weren't allowed to go out until we had hung out at my house for our first few dates (watching movies in the living room, etc.)