im 17 and still in college but my bf is almost 27 and is a teacher, we have only been together about six weeks. im pretty sure im pregnant and i know (as hes mentioned it alot) that he doesent want kids. How can i tell him?
2007-01-15 04:21:42 · 5 answers · asked by pixiexxpixiexpixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being sexually active even once can result in an unplanned pregnancy.That aside I would think that at 17 you should be dating someone closer to your age and life experience. The fact your "boyfriend" is 27 years old should make you ask why isn't he dating anyone his own age? If your boyfriend does not want children,does he wear a condom? You haven't finished your education, haven't travelled,haven't dated a lot of people , haven't made very many life altering decisions,etc.I can not tell you what to do with your life but if your concerns about an unwanted pregnancy prove unfounded take this time to think what is in this relationship for you. It's not too late to make smart decisions for your life. I'm not certain of the laws where you live but it may be illegal for your boyfriend to be dating a 17 year old.You are both walking on thin ice.Your 27 year old boyfriend could lose his job and possibly his freedom. You could risk losing a lot more, starting with your own self respect.Get your exducation and experience life in a positive way. Good luck to you and I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-15 04:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you are definitely pregnant. Get a test and if it's positive decide what YOU want to do about it. Do you think you could bring up the child on your own? Wld you be comfortable with getting an abortion? How would you feel about adoption? I suggest you think long and hard about what you want to do before you even mention it to yr boyfriend.
Talk to your freinds and your family if you can. Find out what kind of support you have. Then, when you are ready, tell your boyfriend. Pick your moment. Make sure you have time to talk and not be distracted. I doubt he'll be happy about it. He may even be quite nasty about it. That's scary for you, but lying isn't an option here as it's another life you're talking about. But if you already know what you want and you are prepared to do you will be in a stronger position to discuss it with him.
You might be lucky, maybe yr not pregnant after all!! If so, tell him about the scare and INSIST that you must use protection in future!! Better yet, find a boyfriend your own age who won't boss you around so much.
2007-01-16 23:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out for sure before you say anything..."pretty sure" isn't good enough...if it turns out that you are, then just tell him straight...it doesn't matter that he doesn't want kids (I don't imagine you really wanted any at 17 either) but you are both responsible for the situation and need to decide together where to go from here.
2007-01-15 04:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to say it, there is no easy way to do that
2007-01-15 04:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks....
2007-01-15 04:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by asdf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋