Ok, so I finaly (after a year of fancying this girl) got her phone number and started texting her. I think she fancies me too because she's always looking at me and smiling at me, but when I ask her to come out with me and some friends to she never gives me a straight answer. She would just say maybe or possibly.
On the weekend I asked her to go to a club, which her friends were going to aswell, and she said maybe. I then texted her the next day, asking what she was doing later on, but there was no reply. She then ended up going to the place I asked her to go to, but i didnt go due to a personal problem... are these good or bad signals? am i being messed around? please help.
2007-01-15 04:14:56 · 15 answers · asked by jon t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's even shyer and slower than you. A year. Get in there mate!
2007-01-15 04:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by SilverSurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you're trying to get to know someone, you need to ask her on a date (one on one), Maybe dinner and a play or movie. Not a club. That's where you go to meet new people, not try to get to know people. Secondly, she may just think of you as a friend because you suggested to go out in a group. I think the best way to pursue this is to be straight up. Tell her that you're interested, and you'll like to know if she is too. And don't take any answer like maybe, because you can't do anything with that. And if she gives you that answer, ask her what does it mean. Don't come off too strong though. Don't use words like serious relationship, marriage, or kids. Those words will scare most women especially since she doesn't know you well. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 04:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 reasons that look legit in your situation:
1)She cares what her friends wills ay or think of her if she do show feelings towards you infront of them. There is a posibitity someone from her girl squad once said something funny about you (the rest most likely disagreed ut whatever she said was enough for that unconfident and undecisiful girl to act so uncertain with you) and since then she is embarrised to talk toy you or give you straight answer IN FRONT OF THEM.
2) She is playing hard to get and point blank.
3) She is or was interested but you may be slightly turning her off by being a puppet type running after her, texting her, responding to her smiles, etc.
Try to one day out of curiosity to pass by her and not say anything at all to see if she call you. If she does call you because she noticed you DIDNT SEE HER (???OMG!!! SUCH A BIG DEAL TO HER...wink wink) then she loves you chasing her and she is sick for your attention and yes i said SICK FOR IT!
2007-01-15 04:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this..its harsh but maybe she doesn't like you that much..could the smiling be a way of her being polite or coy?
Its possibly too she is just playing hard to get...but right now the no text response is a real bad sign...good luck and if you need to move on you probably should
2007-01-15 04:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she didn't return your call is she doesn't want to be with you she wanted to be with her girlfriends. She at least would've called you to say "Thank you for asking but I'm going out with my girlfriends." Then you could make plans to do something else besides waiting for her butt. You're better than this. Quit allowing yourself to keep getting used and have a talk with her about this. Don't spend too much time on this girl. I have a feeling you're better off with out her. Gob Bless
2007-01-15 04:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by rspheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, you have a lot to learn. She is just playing hard to get. The fact that she turned up in the place where you were gonna take her shows she is interested. She was probably disappointed that you weren't there.
Stop chasing her. Stop phoning her. Stop trying so hard. She will come round.
(And good luck!)
2007-01-15 04:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bunts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's playing hard to get, or she'd like to go out with just you on your own, keeping you a secret for the time being?
2007-01-15 04:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signals tell me that she will keep messing you about so it's time to cut and run and find somebody else......here's another tip.....don't be too keen with the next one......give her a bit of space !
2007-01-19 00:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She' stringing you along. If she were really interested she'd give you a straight up 'yes' when you ask her out.
2007-01-15 04:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is still a "pack animal" who feels safer in a group of girls. She is immature and not ready for any type of relationship yet.
plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-01-15 04:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋