Okay, I have a boyfriend thats in 11th Grade and he's 16 turning 17 and I'm in 9th and i'm 14 turning 15 in May. I'm starting to get nervous around him, like i'm paranoid sometimes, and i think his expectations of me are high. And I'm also falling for my ex - boyfriend he's 15 and is in 9th grade. He's my best friend, and we get along great! But he ignored me for about a week. I even tried to talk to him in the classes we had together. But I really like him. I have more feelings for my ex - boyfriend than my current boyfriend. I'm just wondering if I should stay with the one who means less to me or go with the one who makes me happier to be around? I know this is also my decision, but i need a little help. I'm concerned about my ex - boyfriend, I love him alot but I don't want to be treated like crap again. Can you guys help me a little.
Thanks.
2007-01-15 04:06:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, Nothing in life holds a guarantee and you cant be afraid to face life and go for what you want because if you do you have already failed and will never let yourself forget it.Right? SO, Here's what you should do.GO back to your ex if he is the one you love.You already know hes the one you want and if the feeling is mutual than there shouldn't be anything to fear.But, what you need to do is be honest with your ex and let him know up front that you love him want to be with him but you don't want to be mistreated.You guys are both young and in most cases young guys don't recognize the things that they do as hurtful unless you let them know how you feel about it and ask them to not be that way with you.Bring it to his attention and more than likely he will be aware more of this with you and avoid reacting that way.By doing this not only will you have the guy you want but a lot better chance of getting what you really want from it all.
Good luck, and don't be afraid to ever look for and expect what you want from life.You only get one life so,its best to try and get through it without filling it with regrets and shouda,woulda, and couda's. :)
2007-01-15 04:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be treated like crap again, then don't continue give this guy the opportunity to treat you like crap. Why do you want to spend time with someone who makes you feel paranoid and inferior?
The feelings you have for him are more likely based on a need for approval than any sort of fondness, because you're flattered by the attention from an older guy. This guy is an emotional bully, and he makes you nervous because you're letting him tell you he's better than you. He evidently can't hold his own with a girl his age, and needs to make a younger girl feel inferior. Think about that - seriously! Who's the better person here, you or him?
As for the ex; this guy is supposed to be your friend, for God's sake, and that means less to you than an abusive jerk? Could the reason he ignored you have something to do with the other guy?
Get rid of the jerk, be friends with your ex, and give yourself room to breathe for a bit, time to get over the bad treatment from ex to be, and decide what you really want. In the meantime, there's no shame in not having a boyfreind.
2007-01-15 12:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I would definetly be with the one that makes me happy of course. And apparently there is a reason this current bf is making you nervous. Tell the ex how you feel about him,that you would like to try again but however,it cant be like last time.Maybe he ignored you because of this current bf you have and he is jealous or maybe you talk to him about other guys and he gets jealous..who knows with men. But all you can do is give it a try..you will never know till you do.Goodluck
2007-01-15 12:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by breeze279755 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be having a boyfriend who is a junior in high school. Maybe he is maturing and developing interests that do not include you. If there is a boy who is closer to your age that you are interested in, I say turn your attention to him. Dupe the older guy - who needs him and do not stay in a relationship where you are not be treated properly...
2007-01-15 12:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by derose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't seem like your ex has changed or that he has realised his behavior was hurting you, chances are he'll hurt you again, and you two won't have a successful, meaningful and loving relationship as lovers. It's great that you two get along as friends, but I see that you don't think of him as good boyfriend material. So just stick to being friends and having fun.
2007-01-15 12:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, common sense would tell you to dump the guy you don't care about. But since you are in 9th grade, I think the lack of common sense is getting in your way.
2007-01-15 12:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by nyckib 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone that you aren't happy with, deletes the whole purpose of going out with someone. Just see what happens, if you're older boyfriend expects too much then see.
2007-01-15 12:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should think this situation really good. maybe if you brake up him your boyfriend to go with you ex and maybe your ex treats you the same way way he did in the past.
2007-01-15 12:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by angelica v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... IMHO, you're very very young to be talking about not one but TWO boyfriends at the same time! My, have you been busy! I think you should concentrate on school and think less about boys!
2007-01-15 12:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by MicD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't want any problems with your current boyfriend dump the one you are with don't play with his feelings.
2007-01-15 12:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Peluche22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋