I got married in the basement of the court house in Ely, Nevada and I lived in Las Vegas for a few years, so I have seen all the quick no frills weddings I ever wanted to. I believe that if I ever get married again it needs to be special and envolve all the family from both sides in order to mean more. I was told be a friend the other night that I was wrong and the she would perfer just a couple of close friends. I would be curious about your opinions not that I think you can change my mind on this subject.
2007-01-15 04:02:41 · 24 answers · asked by utahbugtussel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I couldn't imagine getting married without my loved ones sharing the day.
In fact, during the ceremony, the minister asked the guests, "Do you support the bride joining your family?" and his side all said YES WE DO! Then he asked my side, "Do you support him in joining your family?" and my side all said YES!!! We do!!! It was one of the most meaningful, beautiful, joyous moments. It made me realize how a marriage is bigger than "us"- it's joining 2 families, it's being supported by the families, it's like we undertook a big responsibility and don't want to let those people down. We not only promised each other, but we promised our families and friends, too.
PS Ours was a small wedding (under 50 people), and rather inexpensive- the cost and frills weren't the thing-- it was the people that made the day.
2007-01-15 04:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It only matters as much as it matters to you. No more, no less. If a person has been dreaming of having a big formal wedding with a fluffy dress, a cute-as-a-button flower girl, bridesmaids dressed in pink and lavender - then getting married at the courhouse will be a major let-down. Keep in mind that a "wedding" doesn't really have much to do with "marriage". In the long run, what matters most is the marriage, not the wedding. But it's important that the wedding goes well in the same way as it is important that your next vacation goes well, or your visit with the in-laws goes well: the specifics will differ from person to person (for me, a great vacation is vegging out on my couch; for someone else, it's a horseback treck through Mongolia), but it's important that there's a general sense of satisfaction. My main requirement for my wedding was that it had to be "fun". It was a $500 wedding, and it was so much fun, I would do it again in a heartbeat. I would NOT be happy if it wasn't fun, so yes, it did matter. You are not wrong to have your own idea of what's meaningful to you; your friend is narrow-minded for putting down your point of view.
2007-01-15 06:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it REALLY matter? No...you're just as married if you do it in a basement with no frills, as you are if you do it in a cathedral and spend tens of thousands of dollars.
Having said that, it's a personal experience and should be what the couple wants. My first wedding was lovely. I was 19, and there were beautiful flowers, lovely dresses, guys in tuxedos, candles, a nice reception, etc. My 2nd wedding was myself and my husband-to-be, a married couple who where friends of ours, and the justice of the peace all in his backyard. No frills, nothing extra...afterward the 4 of us (not the JoP) went to lunch at a local Italian restaurant.
I had the 'big wedding' so I don't care to do it again. It was lovely, but it wouldn't be worth the money to me (at over 40) when I could spend that on more important or more fun things.
Do what's right for you... ☺
2007-01-15 04:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen the opposite be true. Consider this- They have a big wedding and Honeymoon and then after 6 months start fighting and end up getting divorced after a couple of years. His next wedding is a cheap wedding ring and no frills. Its about the staying married, not the getting married. But I can see why you'd want a wedding to be proud of, a good memory in this life gets hard to come by.
2007-01-15 04:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only to the people involved. I was married by a Justice of the Peace in Covington, KY. It cost total about $100. Kid Rock was married 3 times to the same person within a month in 3 different places, cost over $50,000 and they're divorcing within 4 months. All that matters is that you love and are committed to each other.
Unless, you want a big wedding then go for it!!! I really wanted a bigger wedding, and we will have it as a vow renewal on our 5th anniversary. It is truly an individual decision.
2007-01-15 04:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are going through this right now.... I personally can honestly say I don't care how we get married or how many people are there as long as to us it's special...
I just can't see a quickie wedding in the justice of the peace's office as a good memorie
I find there are a lot of little wedding chapels everywhere that offer packages with pictures, which to me seems ideal. It's also important to me as a bride to not only have a wedding dress (no jeans) but that my groom be dressed up a bit as well....
I said all of that to say this: I don't think it needs to be very elaborate or expensive to be memorable. However, each bride and groom will have certain expectations of a wedding. Find what's truly important and the wedding will be special
2007-01-15 04:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by okeydokeyjal22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wanted a great wedding with all of my family there, and then no party.
Truly this is what I wanted.
My mom said "no way" she said if you were having people come you had to give them a party.
Well I wound up having 125 people instead of the 50 I wanted, & I cried the whole time b/c they made me walk into the room & everyone clapped. I would rather be dead then do that again.
The point is, it doesn't matter whose paying, the wedding couple should have what they want to have.
2007-01-15 04:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly you have to do what is in your heart. I am getting married in October and the only thing that truely matters is becoming my fiance's wife. I think whether you have a big wedding or small wedding you will love each other the same way. Good Luck!
2007-01-15 04:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...it doesn't matter. As long as you are legally married...that is what matters. We got married by the Justice of the Peace and that was 30 years ago. I regret that my family was not able to be there.....but there was a long distance between us. Of course I would have loved to have a big fancy wedding.....but we were so poor. But we concentrated on our marriage...rather than a 30 minute ceremony.
2007-01-15 04:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the setting of your wedding doesn't matter. Just as long as it's legal and you both love each other. Not everyone can afford the dreamy wedding with all the frills. And most don't want that.
Best Wishes,
Amanda
2007-01-15 04:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by mandaboate_2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋