What do you do if you click with a man - other than your spouse??? I have known this man for about 4 years and we have always clicked - had that certain connection/spark that you can't explain.....I know I should end all contact with him but yet I can't as I don't want to not have him in my life..... Am I setting myself up to an affair - we have a deep emotional bond and love to tease/banter with each other and the only thing we haven't done is anything sexual... help please..... Thanks :)
2007-01-15 03:46:41 · 7 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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To give you a truly honest answer, always remember the ‘grass is greener on the other side’. You may think you click with this guy equally or better than your husband, but the truth is that you don’t have the stresses of family and daily life with this guy. If you left your husband and married this guy you would many flaws in that perfect ‘click’.
I promise you that given the chance I could make you feel a ‘perfect click’ with me (I’ll pat myself on the back as being quite the charmer), but if you ever married me I would probably drive you up a wall. It’s nature and it’s fact, so don’t let yourself do anything you’ll regret.
2007-01-15 04:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are setting yourself up for an affair. You seem to have feeling that will keep you in suspense if you don't end the face to face contact. The deep emotional bond will definitely led to more and more of a physical relationship in time. Don't put yourself in the situation when you can help it. Unless you are willing to leave your spouse. It will eventually come out sooner or later if anything should happen between you two. Don't jeopardize your marriage for this situation because it's just that you are curious I don't feel it's really more then that. Some people just have a lot in common with someone other then there spouse but it's not to be taken beyond a friendship. Let's say you be with this friend and then to find out it was only a physical attraction, ask yourself would it have been worth losing your spouse. I'm sure your answer is no. So don't enter in to a moment of pleasure for a life time of sorrow. I don't feel you will be able to truly deal with the fact that you would be the cause of your marriage ending. These feelings are not real. keep your marriage and keep the friendship at a distance. Good luck.
2007-01-15 12:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Well if u like both than just do pros and cons. If not then just see what happens with the connection guy.
2007-01-15 11:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it sounds like you are setting yourself up for an affair. It's not fair to your husband to keep in contact with this other man. You need to either stop seeing him, or if you are in love with him and unhappy with your husband, get a divorce. Think about how you would feel if your husband had a friend he felt that way about.
2007-01-15 11:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by leah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if u like both than just do pros and cons. If not then just see what happens with the connection guy.
2007-01-15 11:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
End all contact with him. Don't be like others and give in to your hormones.
You could destroy your life as well as your marriage.
After the sex goes bad with him-then what?
Be a true stand up person.
2007-01-15 11:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by L&C 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
choose ur spouse or the guy that knew u were married and still has this realationship with u
2007-01-15 11:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by tessa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋