Laides how many men have you had sex with?

Question

My girlfriend has been with 7 men, including me. I try to see past it, but I just can't. I seem to think it's a high number. She also claims to have had sex with them, even though she wasn't in love with them. I've been with three women (including her) and every girl I've had sex with, I've been in love. She says she loves me and that I'm different, but this is bothering me almost to the point to where I'm almost ready to end the relationship. Ladies, How many men have you been with and are my expectations too high? Should I just let this go?

Answer 1

Do not judge her on that. Thats not an high number. Its just your ego bothering you really, even though you may not even realize it. Men want to see their significant other as pure and untouched. So when you heard seven i know that messed your heaad up. But any mature adult know s that the past is the past and there is gonna be people before you unless your with a virgin which is pretty hard to find this day in age unless your scoping out junior high schools. Trust me seven isnt bad. I ve been living with my boyfriend of2 years for a year now. Im 21 and he only thinks ive been with 3 people. Hes been with so many girls he cant remember the number but i dont complain. Ive been with way more than 3 people but id never tell him. Id love to but i know hed look at me differently and maybe even want to leave me so thats the only thing ive ever kept from him. Be glad she told you and dont judge her shes only human. The only thing that matters is that she wants you and only you now and not number 8!

Answer 2

I doubt you're going to get too many honest responses to that question, but if this is a big issue for you then it's important enough to cause you to re-examine the relationship with your girlfirend. You sound like you may have different value systems. Seven guys may or may not be a high number, depending on the age of your girlfriend and her attitude. You need to talk through this matter with your girlfriend, let her know that it bothers you, and find out her attitude toward her past relationships. She may regret having sex with her prior boyfriends and you need to realize that she can't change what has happened in the past. You will need to make a decision as to your own level of tolerance and what you can accept from a partner. You want her to continue to be honest with you and that involves you accepting her without judgment. Decide what's impt. to you and go from there. Good Luck

Answer 3

Well I'm not going to tell you the number of men I've been with but i can tell you it's a larger number than your girlfriend. Some of them i was in a long term relationship with (one was my ex husband) and some were not serious at all. I'm proud to say i know the first and last name of each of them and where to find them if necessary so it's not like any were drinking flings. It all depends on the circumstances. Why does it bother you that much? Are you afraid she's going to cheat? Are you afraid you can't satisfy her? What exactly is your issue with her number?

Honestly, be glad she was honest you. And as long as she was being safe, there should be no issue. She loves you and isn't sleeping with anyone other than you right now.

Answer 4

I totally understand where you are coming from. The last to girls i started dating had 8 and 9 partners each. Both of them were 23. I've had 2. It totally creeps me the hell out. I have sex with women that i truely care about and think i could have a long term relationship with. Apparently this is an antiquated and quaint idea.

Answer 5

It depends on her age first off, I mean, a 25 yr old will have slept with more guys than a 15 year old. But I've slept with 10 guys, and that's actually a low number for a lot of the girls I know. And if she's ith ou, and loves you, does anything that happened before really matter? I mean, if you date someone who used to smoke and doesn't anymore, do you care that they USED to, or just that they don't anymore?

Answer 6

Do you really love this woman? If so the number of men she has been with before you is irrelevant, or at least should be. I think 7 is actually a fairly low number of men to have slept with. I think you should get over it.

Answer 7

Yup, let it go...how many she's been with shouldn't be an issue and this is exactly why couples shouldn't have this discussion. Anyone (like you) who is going to hold a person's number of partners against them, isn't worth being with anyway. It doesn't matter if it was 1 or 100 (as long as she's disease free).

Get past it...if you care about her it won't matter how many she was with...if you're ego is so easily bruised then find your self a virgin. *rolls eyes*

Answer 8

6 or 7.

Answer 9

I have been with 2. An ex, and my fiance.

Dont look badly on her. Some women don't have a good relationship with parents, fathers, could have emotional trauma (raped, molested) and some tend to look to men for comfort. I know plenty of women who have done this. You think WOW! someone was raped and go to the source for comfort. Yes, they do. It's strange. I thought I loved my ex, and now I look at it and think, wow i was younger and stupid. Now I wish I would have waited on my fiance.

My fiance has been with so many he can't keep count, but i love him and except it.

Good luck!

Answer 10

If you love her you should let it go. If she feels that you are different than clearly there is something more about you and your relationship that matters to her. It's not fair to judge her on her past because those things happened before she knew you. She may not have known what love was then.