i was engaged to the most amazing guy that was so perfect for me,but his mom always introdue into our realtionship well he tried moveing out a week ago and she threathe dhim if he moves out she doenst want nothing to do with him etc..so he broke up with me.. i really miss him and i dont want or feel other guys are it for me,i feel he is the one for me ..what do i do?
2007-01-15 03:45:45 · 17 answers · asked by Andrea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you should talk to him. Ask him if he is willing to let his mum control his life forever. Then have no contact with him for a while to let him see what he is missing. After that five him another chance. Its up to him if he accepts it, if he doesn't then I'm sorry but you have done all you can do. If he wants to ruin his life its up to him, you need to move on. My advice is to be single for a while til you can get your head round this. Remember its his problem not yours.
2007-01-15 03:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Starkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue being friends with him and give up yet. Make sure you don't start seeing other guys but maybe go out with your girlfriends to take your mind off of it a little bit. If he truley loves you then he'll see that he's old enough to make his own decisions. Even if it take a couple of years for you to get married or engaged again, what matters is that you two remain faithful to each other and have an understanding of exactly where the relationship stands all along the way.
2007-01-15 11:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mary Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mum obviously cant let go and wont accept that her 'little boy' has gown up. Equally you bf isnt exacly being supportinve of his new partner (you).
Sadly its for your bf to make the stand here, not you. The choice is his mum or you. Having said that, his mum does have a big advantage.
Giving people ultimatums like that tend to backfire. If he has any feeling for you then home is going to feel pretty cold for him in the next few weeks.
Stick around, keep contact but dont add to his comfort. His mum might make batter apple pies but Im sure you can do more than compensate for that. Good luck
2007-01-15 11:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already talked to him about this, make sure you do that.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Sadly, if he really felt the same way about you, he wouldn't let anything stand in his way. There's a good chance that he will come around, so give him time to figure that out on his own.
In the meantime, you need to do things that you enjoy, so that you aren't sitting around the house moping (not that you are, but still). There's nothing worse than sitting around waiting for someone to get the point, especially if you don't know if he ever will.
Plus, and I know this is not what you want to hear, maybe he wasn't the one for you. I was with someone for three and a half years, and I was convinced he was the one for me. He said we were going to get married. Come to find out, he never had any intention of marrying me.
I'm in a much happier relationship now, and I know deeper in my soul than I have ever felt that I'm right this time. :)
So, give yourself and him time. If it was meant to be, he'll come back.
2007-01-15 11:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going thru this right now. It sounds incredibly painful. I can only imagine how much you miss him and how things used to be. and right now you can only think of the great times you had and how perfect everyhting was, and that no one will every understand you the way he did, and things will never be as comfortable with anyone the way it was with him. I know this because i have had these feelings too. it's horrible. you just want to die.
But, if he was that unable to stand up for himself and for his relationship that he would break up with you because his mother told him to, he is NOT the perfect guy for you. He threw something away to please his mother, who should have absolutely no control over what he does as an adult. That is NOT what you want to be involved in. This person needs to sever his apron strings and stand up for himself AND for the person he loves.
you won't realize it now, but you are better off. He should be ashamed of himself.
Stay Strong and take care of YOU. there are MANY guys out there that will treat you the way you should be treated. You may not want to look for them or find them now. but you will. and you will be happy.
2007-01-15 11:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by queenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know you love him but you have to ask yourself a question, "Do you really want to be married to someone like that?'' He seems like a mamas boy to me. When you love someone you shouldn't let your parents get in the way of your relationship. He should be man enough to respectfully stand up to his parents. You never told us your ages...maybe you guys are too young to get married.
2007-01-15 11:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please do remember, married is something that not juz him alone, married is something that u hv to be married with the family. Married is sharing life together. Meaning you have to share everything together my dear,!!.
If the mother doesnt like u, then shoot off... let him go, find someone that love u more. You wont be happy for end of yr life, if the mother not happy with u, please do try to forget about him. Look for someone else,
2007-01-15 11:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i feal ur pain sry to hear that but if u feal he is the 1 and u still love him dont let any thing get in the way push to the extreams 2 be with him ..dont let any body stop u
2007-01-15 11:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by booker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. A man who can't leave his mommy's house is no where near ready to become a husband. He's not a man - he's still a big baby.
2007-01-15 11:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has some growing up to do and hes a mommas boy.his mother has to much control and continuing a relationship with him believe me probably wont be worth the headache his mother is going to give u
2007-01-15 11:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by lilsis2576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋