I had 2 affairs in my life. One for 2 months and other one for 2 yrs.. But never got physical with anyone as i dont believe in sex before marriage. I don't have any contacts now at this point of time with any of these persons. Now should i tell about these affairs to my would be husband? or is there no need? as there was nothing physical. I was thinking this as it might cause a problem afterwards if my husband gets to know this from my friends.
2007-01-15 03:40:15 · 9 answers · asked by me... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't really consider it an "affair" if you weren't married at the time and if you didn't get phsical. Sounds like you were dating these others.
Has he asked? Has he volunteered such information about his past? Talk to him and see if he wants to know your in-depth history. If he does then he'd better be prepared to come clean with his.
You don't need to be volunteering such information if it has no bearing on your relationship with him (i.e. STD or kid)
If it comes out in conversation later in an innocent manner, who cares, would you go ballistic if you saw his former girlfriend walking down the street or if her name was brought up in casual conversation?
2007-01-15 03:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. Were you dating your future husband when you had these affairs? Also, how were they affairs if they did not get physical? Are you saying you were dating more than one man at the time?
There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person, as long as you are not giving any of them the impression that you are dating them exclusively.
If you were dating your future husband when you dated these other men then yes, it is only fair to him to tell him. Don't start off a marriage with dishonesty.
If you were not dating your future husband at the time, there is no reason to tell him as it did not concern him at that time in your life.
2007-01-15 03:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only dated these men, and none led into having sex so therefore they cannot be considered an affair (you werent married at the time). Casually seeing someone in social settings is not a bad thing.
I dont think you should volunteer that information to him unless you told him that you never once have spoken to another gentleman a day in your life. Otherwise it is irrelevant.
you cant get pregnant or catch STD's by talking to someone...
The physical things need to happen before those can occur.
2007-01-15 04:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you were single, not married, and nothing physical happened, then there is nothing to tell, so you got friendly with a couple of men, aren't you allowed to have friends at all? It is not an affair, all it was was a flirtation.
2007-01-15 03:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did this go on while you were with your fiance?
If so then yes you should absoluetly tell him, wouldnt you want to know if he did the same? This way he will know what he is getting into with you.
If no, then I dont think its necessary because he cant be that naive to think he has been the only man n your life. If he hasnt asked then he isnt interested.
2007-01-15 03:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight.......
You dated two other guys before you husband-to-be and you are wondering if you should tell him about it?
SO WHAT? Do you think he never dated anybody before you?
If your husband-to-be has issues that you dated a couple of times before him, cancel this marraige.
2007-01-15 03:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bill G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, and your friends shouldn't be discussing this information. The past is the past and he will only upset or irritate him. Any friend who would tell him information like that- is not a friend!!
Let sleeping dogs sleep!!
2007-01-15 03:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only tell him about them if he asks.
2007-01-15 04:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry` G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait- i didn't read this whole thing but noticed drunk, pill popping was mentioned. and over this, you are obsessed?
2016-05-24 06:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋