Relationship worries!?

Question

I have been seeing my gf for about 2 years now and was feeling very in love. Then something happened. I went away for a weekend with some friends about 5 months and met a lovely girl, I couldnt stop thinking about her, we met a couple of times though nothing ever happened, I told her I had a gf and we stopped chattin. I was surprised at how hurt we were even though we did nothing more than talk chat.

I am not sure if I am still in love with my gf? She is perfect and I always wanted to marry a girl like her, however, I still think about what may have been.

We crossed paths again the other day and we got chattin, she now has a boyf (who I was envious of). I told her I missed her (mistake) and I got the impression she did to.

I cant bare to hurt my gf, she means so much to me, on one hand I am safe with her, I maybe still love her but got complacent, I dont know, but I still think so much about what happened and how I am feeling.

My head and heart say 2 different things. Help

Answer 1

If you think you may still love your girlfriend and you've been together for a long time, then you need to just focus on her and stay away from this other girl. The more you talk to her the harder it's going to be to decide how you really feel. Plus, you know alot more about your girlfriend and how you are compatable with her than this new girl. Chatting and being friends with someone can be totally differant when you begin dating them so just relax and let time show you the course you two will take.

Answer 2

You need to think about a few things, firstly, what is it about this other girl that makes you like her so much, you need to rule out infatuation, and the feeling of, "i want what i can't have".
Horrid to say, but you need to compare her to your girlfriend
Does yoyur gf give you all you want, does she make you happy?
This new girl, can you really say how it would be if you were together. That it'd be better?
If you go with this other girl, whats to say you wont end up in the same situation a few months down the line?
Your gf, i bet she's noticed something. Like you've changed, become more distant, in a sense i think you need to be with neither for a bit, so you can work out what you truelly want. Having them both there makes your emotions raw! On the other hand, you only got the impression that she wants something to happen, she may not. ...you have to discuss this with her, because if she doesn't want anything to happen, there is no use in worrying about it.
Most people say, your biggest regrets are what you didnt do, what you didnt try. I think the biggest regret is if you do something that you knew would hurt someone. Or even if someone inadvertantly got hurt.

You need to mull it over and decide for yourself. Say your overloaded with work and get away for a while, who would you miss more? You haven't questioned what loosing your gf would do to you! And when you know, you do the right thing, if its your gf, don't see this other girl, it'll just be more painful for you both, if its this other girl, you can't be with your gf, you owe it to her to be honest, and if you're unsure, you need to honour your gf, get the courage and let her go, because you obviously can't do this. Or at least mention your feelings have subsided, but you don't know why, and if you two can do anything about it together, as a couple.

You need to do what's right, if you follow the wrong way you'll only get a short term happiness that'll be insignificant in the future.
Also it might just be better to have regrets then heartache in you're history.
If you do the right thing, even if you're hurting (and you will be either way, either path has what ifs!) you won't be hurting people as much as you could've.

Answer 3

Listen stick 2 ur g/f because temptation is a real bad part of life. All u were is tempted and i don't think that is a reason 2 lose the one u really love. So u met someone u could not stop thinking about but all this just came from the excitement of meeting someone else. U do not want 2 do something stupid and end up losing so wake up and 4 get about that girl all she is, is trouble.

Answer 4

1)Men like to have variation and it doesn't mean that the new one is better than the old.

2)If u want to marry, so marry as soon as possible
the girl "always wanted to marry a girl like her"

3)"I cant bare to hurt my gf" : Never continue or begin a relationship because of that.She will not be happy with u.

4) U can break up with your gf for a test to see what happens to u after some time.

5)If u have been with a couple of girls before the new one may become something like them sooner or later.

Answer 5

listen to your heart,... dont ever think too much about what "might"have been cause if we always did that everyone would be in constant depression!!!
u have been w/ your girl for 2 years, and as fzar as i'm concerned she's willing to spend 4 eva w/ u!!! it's very dangerous what u did,... because in a way u had an affair, even though nothing happened u had an "emotional affair" and i really dont think u should risk what u have with your girl../.
that other chick has a bf too so move on and stay w/ your gf!!! if u get married that'll take your relationship to a whole new level!!!

Answer 6

Your girlfriend is all you need buddy. You dont want to lose something so precious over something that has boyfriend already and may not even be steady and wify material. Look at this like that who you with now is where you at right now. If it was meant for you to be with that girl you met over a weekend then trust me **** will happen and you will end up meeting again and this time both single and available for each other. Other then that I dont believe that it is any love towards her. I think you was just very curious of her because maybe she just look so daymn good at the moment. Shame on you...lol

Answer 7

What I see.
You have a lovely person in your life your comfortable with but the comfort zone borders on the same as a siblings. You have had and still desire the attraction of a woman that has made you feel something completely different. The fact that you were envious of her relationship with another tells me you are not mentally happy in your relationship with your girlfriend.
You need to be honest with the girlfriend to start with, tell her what took place and how you feel today, even after the relationship was ended with the other female. After talking to your girlfriend, talk to the other female, tell her how you felt when you first met her and how after all this time you still feel for her.
So many try to start a new relationship while another is lingering in the old, I find it so unfair. Before you embark on your new life you have to let your girlfriend free to find her new one too. To keep them both in your life is unfair.

Answer 8

You loved this girl once and may still love her. You need to take a weekend with her and spend that time with her and see if the love is still there. I am sure for that long your girlfriend loves you very much and you would destroy her if you broke it off. This is coming from a woman and from experience. The other girl has moved on and so should you. They both may be wonderful people but you need to do the right thing and personally I think that is to stay with the girl you have been with.

Answer 9

you might be thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence..since the other girl has a bf and you are in a relationship..it doesn't sound like its a good time for her or you..it isn't fair to your current girlfriend for you to be thinking of someone else..if you don't think you are in love with her any more then maybe you and your gf should take a break..sometimes that's all a relationship needs to see where it stands..and if you don't miss your gf...well then you did the right thing. and leaves you open to a new relationship..maybe with the girl you want.

Answer 10

Difficult, you are always going to wonder. If you are unlikely to see the other girl again I think things will be fine, but If you are likely to run into her this Crush could be harder to deal with. If it is really bad I think you need some space from your gf to sort yourself out, but there is a risk of losing her. But you do need to get things straight in your head before you commit to marrying her, otherwise this is going to happen again and it could be far worse further on down the line.

goodluck.