okay so me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago because he was scared of getting hurt. thats why he couldn't be in love. but we promised to wait for each other. now i've sort of gotten over the fact that we were broken up and i started to really like another guy. my ex found out and was pretty pissed about it. but the night before he found out, he was going to come to see me and "patch things up" between us.i didn't know he was going to though. but then he called to ask his parents if he could come to my house and they said no. now i've told him about the other guy and told him that i liked the other guy but was still in love with him and told him that i was also scared to be in love and couldn't put my heart through us breaking up again, . i don't know whether i should get back together with my ex or if i should move on? i also told him i wasn't going to jump into anything soon, so if i changed my mind, i wanted him to still be there. i'm so scared i made the wrong choice???
2007-01-15 03:29:57 · 13 answers · asked by youmakemesmile :] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask his parenst for permission? lol
what r u 2 like 12?
go play with a barbie and be a kid...dont grow up so fast...you'll regret it
2007-01-15 03:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by V P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life's full of hard choices girl and sometimes you have to face making the wrong ones.That's how we learn how to not do them again.
I think you and your ex have comfort issues with each other.You cant go through life being afraid of being hurt but at the same time make it work.You have to want it to work without focusing on what could happen.That only puts your fears on top and not the right feelings to make it happen.
I think your ex is skittish and wants you but has to get over that fear he has in his mind first before he will be a good candidate for a relationship.
Ask your self the right questions.Like, "when I think of my future, what kind of person do I see myself with"Ask yourself which person fits that idea and then take the ball and run with it, but don't be afraid to fail cause if you do fear this all the time it will be inevitable that you will.Anything positive in life is 20% thought and 80% action.Most things that end up negative are that way because you reversed those percentages.Relax and live life.We all fail at times and most times for a very good reason.If you want your ex back go get him and sit down with him and tell him its all or nothing and then go for it.If he don't seem capable of that, tell him to go find himself and than maybe he will find the right girl but you are not going to wait around for all that.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 03:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already the cast the dye so to speak. The milk is spilt on the floor. No use crying over it. Get it mopped up before it sets and starts to sour!
I think you know the answer to the question... Move on....
Take this to heart. Don't be in fear of being hurt by a relationship to keep you from experiencing things with that person. Simply live your life. If John comes along and he isn't serious. You'll learn to figure out who is real and who is fake by EXPERIENCE.
A wise man learns from his mistakes. A wiser man learns from the mistakes of others.
2007-01-15 03:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! I can imagine how you feel...If you did make a mistake, you have plenty of chances to make up 4 it. There are a lot of great guys out there, so you don't have to set your heart out on one, like I am doing right now. Right now I feel like just having friends, then other times I want my bf I have now. It confuses me all the time. But also remember that everything happens 4 a reason. Good Luck!
2007-01-15 03:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by S4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, hold up, if u love each other u should be together, period... u just have to ask yourself, do u really love him if u started goin out w/ another guy 1 week after u broke up?? if yes, does your ex love u??? maybe he was just a little scared of commitment, like ALL guys...
if he's willing to have a serious relationship w/ u and u really love him then go for it... u may end up getting hurt but it's worth it... true love is worth anything!
2007-01-15 04:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you is ready for a serious relationship or "being in love" in the serious sense. Maybe this is why both of you instinctively feel reluctant. You should be good friends if you can. If you can't, that's okay too. But you should stop trying to make commitments you are not ready for, because it only causes more stress.
2007-01-15 03:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no right or wrong choice ur just listen to ur heart. It doesnt want to get hurt again there for it waits till it knows thats it ready to give it its all in a relationship
2007-01-15 03:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by ooobabybunnyooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some time for yourself,do things that you like to do and forget about the boys for awhile you will be better able to sort out your feelings
if the relationship with your ex boyfreind is meant to be it will still be there for you,if not you will find someone else,theres no rush
take care!
2007-01-15 03:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to the ex b/c you know him already and he still cares for you if he was willing to patch things up w/ you he was probably trying to go a step futher and by doing what you did he took three steps back so make a good choice and good luck
2007-01-15 03:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by yukonSLT3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and mingle. You will find another boyfriend.
2007-01-15 03:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋