Hi I am so inlove with my girlfriend and she hasnt recently lost the urge for sex, and she doesnt know why. She says use to be horny all the time and now she doesnt think about it. Could it be that she is into her career for modeling so much now or could it be me. She says that its not me and that she loves me so much and doesnt want to lose me. We havent had sex but maybe 8 time in the 8-9 months how can I reawaken these feelings, Its hard not to have sex after being in Iraq away from her so long and I cant cheat on her because I love her to much and cant see my self being with anyone but her how can I get her back again as long as I see that I can make her happy and hot then I am happy. I just want her to get her thoughts back. Could it be me,her past,what she wants,or what she doesnt want. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-15 03:24:02 · 12 answers · asked by Army soldier. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to communicate. The only real way to do it.
2007-01-15 03:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and change the environment that you normally have sex in. You have to set the right mood get the spark back. Start by giving her a full body massage with some nice sensual music playing. Have a trail of rose petals and sented candles (of course be careful) to the bedroom with a bottle of her favorite drink or to the bathroom where the tub is drawn with bubbles and rose pedels. Let her know how much you are in love with her.
2007-01-15 11:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by laquise1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she on birth control pills? That drives away most of the urge for sex, believe me.
Her career about modeling has nothing to do with it, unless she is too tired to have sex.
The best thing you can do is, keep asking her what the problem is until she tells you the truth. She sure knows the answer!
Best of luck!
2007-01-15 11:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by belindaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont feel alone on this subject, as a women myself we have our moments, months or years, but it purely takes honesty it awaken these sexual feelings. I personally think that u need to spice things up a little for yourself, start dressing like a stud all the time, make sure u smell nice in aftershave, this way she will question why u are always presenting yourself lovely? because she knows how u feel she is in a comfort zone with not having it, women can not be sexual with things on their mind, take her out , give her a massage , do things u wouldnt normally do and never think it is your self, but u need to even if it kills u say u dont feel like it when she wants it, she will prob carry on, but this way she will see how it feels without making it obvious and then more sex will come of this because u are showing that u are not interested like that .....trust me been through it myself
2007-01-15 11:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being honest and is not cheating, then it sounds to me like she could have some type of hormonal problem. I would ask her to see a doctor as soon as she can. Sometimes woman get a chemical imbalance and the only way to fix it is to get medicine for it. I have know people who have been in this situation, the woman did not get help and there relationship ended. I would talk to her and go together to get this fixed.
2007-01-15 11:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one possible reason for her losing the urge for sex could be hormones. is she on birth control? with the last birth control i was on, i had NO sex drive whatsoever, then when i switched perscriptions last month it came back. it could also be possible that she is under a lot of stress, that can easily affect a woman's sex drive. encourage her to discuss this with a doctor, and in the meantime, just try to be there for her, and let her know that you would like to bond with her more now that you're back from iraq. best of luck, hon.
2007-01-15 11:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try using toys or role playing or sex games if that dont work just take her out, get her to relax and not worry boutz anything that whole day then when nite time comes around run her a bubble bath,get sum choclate and strawberrie and make love to her see if that works
2007-01-15 11:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by ooobabybunnyooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her have sex, so you have to ask yourself, "is she worth dating even w/out the sex?" if you have to have sex, you should move on. and if she doesnt want sex much now it'll only get worse once and if you get married. you really need to think about this, if you want to deal w/ no sex for the rest of your life.
2007-01-15 11:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by bluestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be her career so just try harder with some romance and some special time.
2007-01-15 11:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try couples counseling. Good luck!
2007-01-15 11:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋