I find it really important that the girl in my life has a decent personality etc but it is important that i fancy her. In other words to find her attractive. Some guys say that looks dont matter but how can that be? there must have been the initial spark????
2007-01-15 03:08:42 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People do say "looks arent important" all the time! I dont believe them....
2007-01-15 03:13:28 · update #1
The looks arent necessarily important, but what IS imporant is attraction. Physical attraction, otherwise a relationship is doomed to fail. And physical attraction goes further beyond looks.
Of course, by this, I dont mean that physical attraction is the only imporant factor. There is much more to make a relationship work.
2007-01-15 03:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course looks matter, but they're not the ONLY thing that matters. There should definitely be a spark or chemistry with someone because you're attracted to them, but if you have nothing in common beyond being attracted to each other, the relationship won't last.
It's a lot tougher to find someone who has a GREAT personality and is also attractive, but it's not impossible. Remember that sometimes someone who is average looking becomes more attractive to us as we get to know them....
2007-01-15 03:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you can love someone without them being attractive because their character is attractive and that is what draws you to them. If everyone judged a book by its cover life would be so boring. Looks do play a very important part to some people but if people see someone from the inside out they become beautiful and that is what matters.
2007-01-15 03:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree there must be that initial spark, but attraction can grow from someone's personality. They end up looking more attractive to you than they did before because you like them as a person. Happened to me with a bloke at work, we've been married over 3 years now! He's still the short, balding welshman I met but I fancy him like mad now!
2007-01-15 03:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats crap - you HAVE to have a pyhsical attraction to a person to be totally fulfilled in a relationship.
Looks are the first thing that attract you to a person - personality comes after that on initial contact.
The guys that say looks dont matter are usually quite ugly themselves - or just desperate for a girlfriend - so much so they're willing to even have the biggest dog at the end of their arm.
Personally speaking - I couldnt be with a guy that didnt give me butterflies in my tummy when I looked at him!
xx
2007-01-15 03:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats true. There has to be a connection there. But a lot of times we will meet people, who would not normally be our type and get to know them. All of a sudden the person who you thought was not that attractive at first will look totally different to you. People see beauty in other people when they really get to know them. What might not be love at first sight, could change into a long lasting good relationship.
2007-01-15 03:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially looks attract but sometimes one works with someone for a while then becomes attracted whether or not the person is attractive. It's human nature to go for the best looker so that offspring are given the best chance. It's an inbuilt thing.
2007-01-15 03:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Angelfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all find different things attractive - I'm not fussed if anyone else fancies my partner, as long as I do. There does have to be that spark, I agree, people say looks don't matter are lying - you cannot make a relationship work with someone you don't fancy.
2007-01-15 03:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe them if looks don't matter, they're just a hypocrite.
On the other hand, each and every person had their own definition of the word "attractive".
For Example: Girl A wasn't beautiful according to you, but for me she was smokin' hot. Hope you're not confused.
2007-01-15 03:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Opas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe them. of course relationships aren't just based on looks. a decent personality, etc are great. but looks do matter and it's not being shallow. we all need to be truthful - could you go out with someone who's challenged in the looks department? anyway, like they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder so i guess that's what counts.
2007-01-15 03:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pyro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋