2007-01-15 03:07:33 · 16 answers · asked by Drama Queen class of 2009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your friend is comfortable in the relationship then there is really nothing that you can do.
2007-01-15 03:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by John Rambo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your best friend that her date is a lemon, first off how did she get stuck with him? If she does not know he is controlling by now she will, he could become very violent and physically,emotionally, mentally abusive, could stalker her every night. Tell her where she can and can't go, tell her what she can and can't do, only allow her to go somewhere when he is around. Damand that the house be sparkling clean when he gets home everyday if they live together. You friend could be in danger and not even know it , it would be best if you did tell her what she is getting into. If she is living with him then she needs to move out as soon as possible. If you have be there with her when she tells him she is leaving him and why then it might be a the best thing so she can have a witness to whatever should happen and if you have to call the police.
2007-01-15 03:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any thing you say or do is going to turn her against you. Generally these controlling people show their hand, the bad part is the damage is almost always done by that time. Her families interference is your best bet. Her Mom talking to her or a sibling could be of some help, but from experience I'll tell you that she will not break away from this guy until she has had enough of him herself. She is the only one that can put an end to it. I lived with a controlling man for 20 years, I lost all my self-esteem, my family and friends tried to tell me what was happening to me but I took up for him, I knew what they were saying about him was true but until I said enough was enough I more or less told them all I could handle him.
2007-01-15 03:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat him and rescue her. No speak to her about it if you ever have some alone time together and tell her your innermost thoughts, if she really is your best friend she will respect the fact that you came to her and that you are worried about her. Nine times out of ten controlling relationships lead to abusive relationships and that's never good for any of the people involved, rather you are a part of the couple or not, and if she wants to get out of the relationship then take the next step and help her seek out someone who can help her to overcome this however if he does speak of killing her go to your local Police Department and they will help you to file complaints and restraining orders. Hope this helps, good luck!
2007-01-15 03:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by ~(*) Loving Life (*)~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's definitions are different. "Too controlling" for YOU may be what your friend needs to feel loved, cared-about and protected.
The worst thing you could possibly do is assert yourself in the situation when it is not invited. Continue to be a friend and be ready to comfort her and advise her IF SHE ASKS YOUR OPINION.
If "controlling" escalates to "abuse," other options would and should be indicated. Until then, try to keep your opinions to yourself. You'll only bruise YOUR friendship if you do anything else.
2007-01-15 03:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by mrvid2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do except let them run the course. Are you sure it's not you that's to controlling? To many people think others should be just like them as far as being independent.
2007-01-15 03:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Wisco Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to your friend but i doubt there is anything you can do to help her i've gone through the same with a bunch of my friends they'll get into abusive relationships with guys who stalk them to make sure they have no guy friends and the whole time my friend wouldnt just dump him even though she had the bruises to show for it all so the only way to change that situation is probably to talk to her so talk to her about your concerns make sure you odnt come off sounding too harsh and good luck
2007-01-15 03:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of their life - your friend can make up her own mind about what she wants. Just keep on top of your own life and let everyone else take care of theirs. Nobody likes people sticking their noses in where it does NOT belong.
2007-01-15 03:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about keeping out from your best friend's relationships ?
Things could turn sour
2007-01-15 03:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Opas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a lot you can do, if she does not realizeor does not care then what can you do ? She will eventually see how he is and break up with him, For now just be her friend
2007-01-15 03:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋