whats going on? Did i spoil my son or is it just the age?

Question

My son is just going to be 8 months ld on the 24 of January,when he was a little younger he would never cry nothing......now he cries and wines everytime that i leave the room.....is he spoiled or is it the just the age.....please help me!!!

Answer 1

I think he may be spoiled. Try to get him around other people more often so that he's not focusing so much on where you are. He should be comfortable with other people and also by himself for a minute or two. My sister's son was like that when he was younger. She'd never leave him with anyone else, so anytime she left the room, he'd scream bloody murder until she came back. Good Luck, sweetie.

Answer 2

It's the age. He's reaching a new level of awareness. This is the age when babies learn the concept of object permanency - that you still exist even when you are not in the room. Up to now, you vanished into the ether. Now he knows you're still there and he wants you come back.

He is not spoiled, but you will have to begin to conduct yourself so that you don't spoil him. Make very clear rules for yourself when you will go back in and when you won't, and follow them.

Many children also begin to have a harder time settling down to sleep at this age. My son did. What we did was expand his bedtime routine to include some reading and snuggling in addition to his bath and songs. It helped immediately and he stopped crying at bedtime.

I advise you to take a bit more time with him when you're putting him down, reassure him you'll be right there, and don't give in to his temper.

Answer 3

I lived at my inlaws house which wasn't baby proofed. And i was a stay at home mom for seven months. I was around my son every second....he cried every day for a month at daycare when i finally put him in it and it took forever for him to seperate a little. I was still loving and kissed and hugged but i made him play alone a little. A lot of times he would cry. Then we moved and i was at home again for 4 months and he got REALLY clingy again. I couldnt even go to the bathroom. So now hes almost 2 and LOVES daycare. He tells me "cmon mama byebye time" when i drop him off but gets upset if im 5 minutes late to pick him up because he is waiting for me. You have to find the right balance of love and snuggling when together but also give him time and oppotunity to grow and become independent without you. even if that means that he cries and whines at first. It's better than having a 5 or 6 year old that still follows you around all day and it does happen. THe truth is that it is hard to see your children be uncomfortable. THats all it is when they cry at night and you tell them that you love them but they have to go back to sleep, and thats all it is when they are in the other room from you for 5 minutes. If you dont let them get the chance to realize that when you leave you will be back then they will not understand. Also, when you go to the other room for a minute let him know that you will be right back and that you love him and wont leave. then when you come back say see i am right back i didnt leave.and never say ill be back in a minute when youre going to be gone for a good while. hes a little young but he will get the connection in a little time and start to trust you. start little like putting him in a walker while you go to the bathroom. Independence is wonderful and healthy for children you just have to get them to understand and trust that it will be okay. Oh, and one more thing i learned. DO NOT SNEAK OUT ON THEM! Theyre going to notice that youve left either way. sneaking out is really all about you not having to hear them cry but to them they dont know where mommy has gone or when she left or when shell be back. If i sneak out on my son he will cry by the door for an hour or more. If i tell him mommy needs to go to the store im going to get us some things to eat and then im going to come home. youre going to be here with daddy and then give him a kiss and let him help shut the door he is fine. it's all about trust! good luck

Answer 4

You have not spoiled your son, in fact, I believe there is no such thing as spoiling your son at such a young age. It is just separation anxiety and it is totally normal at this age. You have been such a wonderful Mommy that your son doesnt want to be left alone without you. This is just a stage and he will grow out of it. I have a boy and a girl and the boy was worse with this stage than my daughter was.

Answer 5

his age. he's in the 'clingy' stage. you can still hold him, but if you want to gradually get him to be alone that might be fine as well. he'll grow out this naturally.
try and get him used to other people, he may cry because he is only comfortable with you. if he is comfortable with others (dad, aunt, grandfather,ect) you still have to not let him watch you leave the room, but he won't be sad if you do.
- when my little cousin went through this phase, I'd start playing with her and then her mom would quietly leave. she'd be having too much fun to notice.-

Answer 6

it's the age. This is right around the time they beging to realize that you are not an extension of them or their wishes. There isn't much more you can do than let him know you love him, then go do what you have to do, and then when you are able, go play with him some more. It will work out, but it will take some time for him to figure it out.

Answer 7

It could just be that he is teething and wants to comforted. My daughter will do the same thing occasionally, one day she is fine when I leave the room the next she screams as if I was abandoning her. Good Luck!

Answer 8

could be that he has realized that when he crys mommy comes back and picks him up, a lot of baby's get spoiled by being held a lot. I would put him in a place that he can always see you.

Answer 9

Could be a little bit of both. Could be that he's not getting enough sleep and is cranky and over tired. Could be a lot of things.

Answer 10

Sounds like a little bit of seperation anxiety...perfectly normal. He'll grow out of it.