Is being too old a problem in a relationship?

Question

I am currently 34yrs old and am in a relationship with a 23yrs old, do you think he is too young or me too old? do you all see problems along the road due to the age thing?

Answer 1

You can really care for one another and even love each other but the age difference can still be a problem. Love does NOT conquer all. i think that a person in their early twenties is MUCH too young for someone in their midthirties. As you get older, that kind of age difference isn't as HUGE (i.e a 33 year old with a 44 year old). But early twenties??? when i was 26, dating a 20 year old was even difficult. Let's face it...somewhere down the line you will realize that you dont have that much in common with this young person, and that they want things that you have already searched for and found. and because of that, the depth of the differences between you will become painfully obvious and it just wont be comfortable anymore.

I forsee trouble down the road, and i think you do too, otherwise you would not ask this question. You might just want to consider what you are looking for. if you are just looking for some fun, then who cares if this isn't meant to last. but if you are looking to settle down i would nip this in the bud.

Answer 2

Hmm, No I dont. I think its Great. However, there may be a problem. Due to the fact that he is 23 and about as mature as you were at 18. :P Relating to someone with that huge a gap can be hard. But, with hard work and patience, you can over come most things. Nothing is out of reach if you want it enough. Good Luck. Live each day to its fullest, and dont let love go because some people think there is to far a gap in ages.. after all. Age is a Number.

Answer 3

Yeah you are a bit too old you being 34 dating a 23 year old i personally think you should dump her think about when she was 10 you were 21 the age gap seems huge since there is 11 years difference between you do even if it was the other around it would still seem huge you should date someone older at least 43 or even 53 older women are more experienced than younger women since they know how too deal with men better than younger women they are more mature they don't mess around and play the field like younger women do i like women older than me like up too early 40's early even up to early 50's and early 60's in other words they are like mother figure i am not too into little sister figures and daughter figures sorry women in their 30's 20's and teens don't do it for men anymore.

Answer 4

I think it depends on your attitudes, what you have in common and what level your maturity is at.
If you are compatible in these areas, then there should be no problem.
If you are not in sync with one another and it is about the toy boy then it won't work.
Some guys are more mature at an earlier age, the parents have alot to do with it, bringing them up responsibly and preparing them for the world.
I think if you two are happy for now then you should continue. If you waste time wondering what you are doing then maybe it isn't right for you.
Put your energies into now and stop speculating in the future, you don't know how long it will last either way and I am sure you can find something better to do with your time.
Relax and enjoy .....

Answer 5

I'm 30 and my GF is 19. Age is so not an issue. What is there to talk about? What could we have in common? EVERTYTHING!
We're both artists. I'm in the fashion/graphic design feild and she's going into fashion..i already know the ropes and help her out giving her a step above everyone else. our minds are alike and we have 3-4 hour long convos...we've been togetehr for almost a year and everyday seems like it was the first. I go out with her on weekends I love going out..so dont go generalizing thats 30 yr olds are like 90 yr olds...30 is the new 20

Answer 6

I am married to a man who is 21 years younger than me! It works, and everyone accepts us for who we are, even though in age-gap relationships it is usually the man who is the older partner. I am not stupid enough not to recognise that we may encounter problems as I age, but so far so good, and we will cross bridges when we come to them. Age is a number, not an encumberance. If it feels right then go for it. It helps if you have similar outlooks on life, and tastes etc. You are only on this planet once (I am told!) so don't pass up what might just be the best relationship of your life because of your comparitively small age difference.

Answer 7

Sometimes age is an issue, I think it depends on the couple and their maturity level.
I had a friend who was dating a woman 10 years younger than him, and he said that it seemed like age played a part because they had little in common. But you never know.
The only issue I can really see is if things continue to become serious between the two of you, there could be problems about settlling down and having children.

Answer 8

The age difference should not be a problem as long as the two of you are at the same life stage. If he is a college student and you have been working full time for the last 10 years. That might be a problem. If you are a home owner and he still lives at home with his mom and dad. That might be a problem. If you are ready to start a family and he just wants to have sex. That might be a problem. As the two of you age...there will be more of a tendancy for both of you to be at the same life stage.

Answer 9

Well, I have seen the older guy and younger woman work out much better. It depends if he is a mature 23 yo and you are a mature 34 yo. It is an indivudal thing. There is the potential for a lot of problems, but again that depends on the maturity of both of you to deal with them.

Answer 10

Depends on how well you get along...your individual levels of maturity, etc. Eleven years is a lot...he's a young adult and you've been one for a while now...make sure you both have the same motives (or compatible ones) for being together, and don't later find out one of you really digs the other, but the other was just using you...