She doesn't want to hurt her stepdads or her dads feelings, so she 's chosen not to be given away.
2007-01-15 02:49:54 · 17 answers · asked by resa_sue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I understand where you are coming from. It used to be a symbolic gesture--the dad who had been in charge of her, taking care of her, delivering her straight from his house to the groom's house--placing the groom in charge of her care and keeping.
In today's world, the chances are your daughter went away to college, and has lived on her own for a couple years, independent. She probably has a job and supports herself. The symbolic meaning is gone--as they are merging bank accounts and lives, rather than she being given in possession to the groom.
And practically, few churches have an aisle big enough to be escorted by 2 men. I know my church barely had room for my dad and I--as my dress was huge. I don't blame her for not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. Especially if they hold an equal part in her lives.
She has decided to do this in respect to your current husband, to not make him feel slighted in the least. I'm proud of her decision and think as an independent woman she should walk down the aisle on her own.
Congrats to her and to you for your wonderful, caring daughter.
2007-01-15 03:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-28 22:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding police are not going to come and arrest her, if this is what you are asking. There is no legal requirement that for the wedding to be valid and legal, the bride must be given away. It's a tradition and a custom, that's it. If she doesn't want to do it, then she doesn't have to.
But, I do have to recommend that she considers other options before dumping this tradition. One man can walk her down the aisle and the other one gives her away.
2007-01-15 05:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter does not have to be given away. There are alternatives though. She could have both of them walk her down the aisle, and when the officiant asks who is giving her away her natural father could answer, "her parents and I".
When I got married I had my stepfather give me away because he had raised me. However, at the reception I danced a Father-Daughter dance with my biological father because he is my father. I discussed my plans with both of them well in advance of the wedding. They were both very agreeable. Each was happy to have a part in my special day.
It is entirely up to your daughter. She could also have her mother (you?) give her away. She isn't required to have anyone give her away though.
2007-01-15 02:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a requirement, and is not even as commonly accepted as used to be. Young women are very independent today. Your daughter can proudly walk down the aisle on her own and later on, give her dad and her step dad each a hug and pose for photos with each of of them.
2007-01-15 02:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's fine. People read too much into tradition. I'm glad I've chosen a destination wedding, and that I've thrown out all the rules!
I think this is a mature decision on her part.
2007-01-15 07:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the other posts, it is fine, and up to your daughter what she wants to do. I've been to weddings where both the father and the stepfather walked down the aisle with the bride. I've been to weddings where the mother and the father walked down the aisle, and at my wedding my son and my mother gave stood and acknowledged they were giving me away. If he had been able to attend, my brother would have walked with me. it is entirely up to your daughter.
Congratulations!
2007-01-15 04:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am getting married this fall and i have decided to have both my dad and step dad give me away because each of them have been a huge part of my life. At first neither of them liked the idea but they have respected my decision. So whatever your daughter has decided is what should be respected since it is her big day
2007-01-15 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not both? Her father one one side and step father on the other. My stepdad is going to be the one walking me down the isle when I get married.
2007-01-15 03:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's fine...being "given away" isn't a requirement, more of a tradition...many women skip it for various reasons...of course, she could always choose to have both men give her away together, that's been done as well...
2007-01-15 02:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋