Girls only!!!! Why does my girlfriend never want to have sex anymore????

Question

When we first got together she could not stop doing things to me and telling me how much she wanted me... but here we are moved in together and now she does not even want to think about it... She says her sex drive is just not there anymore... I dont know what happend but all the sudden she stoped.. The other night she said the past couple times we made love she has not been there..... Please help me on what i should do or if there is anything i can do.

we have gone to the sex stores and i did buy her toys and she has lingire ... it is not the kinkyness... I have done everything for her.. i clean the house cook... work. take care of her when she is sick. cuddle with her and such. I just dont know what else there is to do.. we just went out on a date and that still did not really help but .. on thing i have not done is give her flowers in a while... so i will give that a try.. thank you all for you wonderful answers.

Answer 1

You should not have asked for just girls.

Guys are more likely to have been in the same situation than the women here.

You moved in and there is serious commitment from you. This is usually a dampner on the sex drive. She has caught you and now (even though she doesn't realize it) she is not trying as hard.

The second part of this is that you are probably not being all that you can be. Try being more experimental, change it up some. Also when was the last time you two went on a "date". Call her on the phone and ask her out. On the night of the date leave the house, get some flowers, and come back to pick her up. Knock on the door, give her the flowers. Wait till she asks you in. Then leave for your date. Drop her off and only come in if she asks. If nnot get in the car and drive around the block, come back and let yerself in.

Some times it is the romance of dating that is the severe turn on for the girl. Guys try harder and once that stops it hurts the relationship.

Answer 2

If it's a change in hormones, there are medications and other treatments her doctor can recommend. If she's having a hard time relaxing or getting started, ask her if there is something you can do that would help her get in the mood (men tend to rush things a bit when they get in the mood) that isn't necessarily going to end in sex (i.e. foot rub or get a nice bubble bath going for her).

Allot of times when women are having a difficult time with their job,friends, family, kids, whatever: it may just be she's too tired at the end of the day, and it's not likely she's going to just come out and tell you. Women make the mistake of thinking we can juggle everything tossed at us and never say a word about the fact we just need someones shoulder to lean on.

Something may have given her some feelings of not being attractive and it has made her self conscious about being intimate. If she refuses to discuss it all together, you might find she just doesn't want to be with you anymore and want to end the relationship.

Whatever the case may be, it's imperative you both are patient, honest and compassionate to each other in finding the solution. If there is a way, you will both find it. If not, know you did your part in the relationship and walk away gracefully, don't be spiteful. I hope all the best for you two!

Answer 3

Talk to her instead of us. Ask her why her drive is gone. A lot of times when people move intogether they take each other for granted. (I don't mean just you, I mean both parties) Girls are just as insecure as guys. Maybe she doesn't feel wanted by you like you once made her feel. Maybe she feels that it isn't fun anymore, but "expected". I don't know the real reason, I'm just throwing out some common things.

Another one, and I say this lightly because I don't want to offend you, what are your hygiene habits? Not just your body, but the home as well. I'm not saying this is the case, but many girls are turned off by a slob, or someone who doesn't pick up after themselves. Do you do your share of cleaning around the home? A girl will shut down pretty quickly when she feels she is carrying the load around the house.

Without knowig other details, no one can speculate. You need to talk to her. The two of you need to be honest with each other, even if someone may have their feelings hurt. Try to be open (both of you) and not take too much personally. Look at it as the means to an end - the "end" being a resolution to a problem in your relationship.

Answer 4

Well, first when you two got together love was new and so was the sex. After you moved in together the sex part became old fast. Little by little living with another person your feelings of lust subside and you start thinking more rationally about life itself. I don't necessarily say you fall out of love, for if it was lust that made your decision to move in together than the lust was satisfied and you have little to nothing in common to keep the relationship going that may very well be why she no longer enjoys the sex. Try a different approach to get her interested, do things together as a couple. Having a child is not one of them, children will drive a lagging sex life further down. My BF and I like old movies, we take one night a week, barricade ourselves inside the house, take the phone off the hook, and enjoy the show, it not only relaxes us, but brings us closer together and we talk. The kisses and hugs and love all come together naturally.

Answer 5

What else is different from back in the beginning. Do you still do little things for her? Does the sex last as long, with as much lead up and satisfaction for both? This happened in my marriage but that's because there were underlying problems. The sex was fine but we were falling apart which made it much less appealing to be intimate. Ask her what you can do. If she says nothing then tell her you are concerned. It's normal for the lovemaking to back off a bit but not stop all together. Also, make sure she's not cheating. Sorry to say but sudden changes like that can be a sign she's going elsewhere.

Answer 6

great question.

I had the same thing happen to me when I moved in with my fiance. Horrible decision by the way.

Anyway, she sees you all the time and knows that you aren't leaving to go home at the end of the night. Put it this way, when you can have it anytime you want it, you don't want it as much. Like if you had an assload of Ice cream, hell you love ice cream and might have a ton of it for a while, but after a bit you want a steak man.

Here's how you play this one. Go somewhere. Go a few hours away to a hotel and go do something then I promise you she will be primed by the new experience and the hotel surroundings to have sex. If you're short on cash, you can go camping and hiking even. You won't even have to bug her for sex....which is the worst thing you could be doing now. Make her come to you for it.

Answer 7

First it could be possible that she is having a medical problem, she may need to see a doctor about her hormone levels.



If you are doing everything for her that you used to do.
Sit down and have a long listen to her, notice I did not say talk, woman need someone to listen to them more then they need conversation. Men often want to solve a womans problems, when often woman don't want a solution they want a sympathetic ear. When you do talk ask her questions about how she feels.

Did she have a strong religious upbringing? It is possible she is has been feeling guilty for moving in with someone she is not married too. If that is the case the only solution would be marriage, which is something you are not ready to do or you would have given her a ring instead of a house key. If you are not ready don't hurry into it for her sake, because if you break up while married the heart break involved would be allot worse.

Answer 8

Sometimes my boyfriend asks me that same question. In truth men think about sex alot more than women. I know he is horny all the time. But think to your sex in the past few months, have you been making shure that you please her? I know that I shy away from it sometimes because its the same ol thing... he is not intrested in if I am enjoying it. Make a special night, dont mention sex at all , go out to eat, have a nice evening, come back, suprise her with candles, give her a bubble bath, massage her, then she should be ready to jump your bones. Also foreplay is a big part of a womans orgasam, touch her down there, find that spot that makes her jump, rub ir caress it , if you are adventurous, give her some head, let her know sex isnt just about you its about both of you and you want to make her feel good too.
or do something spontaneous, diffrent.

Answer 9

i dont think its you at all. sometimes you may need to spice up the sex life a little. when you're with someone for a while and move in together, things become a routine and routines tend to get boring. maybe sprinkle some rose petals on the floor of the bedroom and play some music to set the mood. try some sexual positions that you normally dont do and see if that helps any. and lastly ask her what may help her get "in the mood". good luck

Answer 10

Just saw the additional details;

I retract my original answer (like many others, the difference between dating and life, lack of effort, and hormones)

Given all you've done, I'm afraid I must agree with those who say she's pregnant, her BC pills are messing her up, or she's playing you.

I say that because most women, after all that will at least try to work up an interest. (Unless you're just flat *** mean to her the rest of the time.)