I am a mom of seven kids but ,y husband stays at home as he can do some work from home. Instead of having to collect the kids from school and lugging the little ones around in the car,he is involved in a school run with two of the mothers in the school,meaning he brings,my 14yr old&12yr old daughter home with two other boys every third day.
I would say that in comparison to other parents my husband and i are quite strict, its not nice but we know it is best for the kids that we take a firm hand with them.One thing in particular that I am quite strict on is bedtime.Partly because my kids are up@6.30&they are kids that can't function without a good nights sleep.As I'm working,I really can't cope with grumpy kids.They go to bed at 8.30 and 9.00&although they complain its too early we have experimented with later times&they ended up fallin asleep in the car in the morning.
The other night they were both in bed at the usual time but they were hyper and messing,running around play fighting
2007-01-15 02:29:06 · 14 answers · asked by strictmom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
and generally acting quite immature.My husband&i go to bed early too,w/seven kids it is the only time we get to be really alone.Even at 10.30 when we were going to bed they were still messing¬ asleep.As a result my husband took both of their ipods away&is keeping them 3days.The following morning as we expected we had2very cranky kids on our hands and they were being very cheeky and disrespectful.My husband warned them that if they kept that behaviour up they would be punished.Later that day my husband was doing the school run with the 2friends in the back.My son was being cheeky again&my daughter was chiming in&my husband noticed he had borrowed an ipod frim someone at school.He lost it and said to them, the two of you are like babies,one latenight&you are cranky boots.He turned to the2boys and said did you know they were up AS LATE as 10o clock(probably normal bedtime for most 14yo)last night?Well its bed straight after dinner for both of you tonight straight into your jammies when
2007-01-15 02:38:13 · update #1
we get home. My sons two friends were laughing away and my son was dying. It wasn't my husband's intention to embarrass them but they both really got on his nerves and he felt they had no problems being disrespectful in front of their firends.My son is barely speaking to my husband now.Why is it okay for kids to act up in public and embarrass us as parents but if we mention anything even slightly shameful in front of even the post man,it is as if the world has ended.Sorry for the lengthy text I got a little carried away.
2007-01-15 02:42:19 · update #2
Brian B I appreciate your comments but i will say this, a little control as a parent for the good of your kids doesn't go astray. My 18&17yr old daughters are away at school, independent and managing just fine and they were raised with the exact same restrictions.
2007-01-15 03:13:07 · update #3
When I was 14 my bedtime was 9. As for embarrassing your kids in front of other kids their age. I don't know. I don't have kids I'm 17. All I know is that I hated it when my parents did that to me. I also know it gets the point across. I'm not sure which way to go.
2007-01-15 02:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
8:30 is too early and you are treating them like small children. They don't need 10 hours of sleep, you are forcing too much sleep, and that's why they are up making noise after your nazi-style bedtime regime. I am all for being firm, but you have to understand balance as well and flexibility. What your husband did was wrong, as you should not talk about personal lives of children in front of others and especially in front of their friends. You guys better wake up and let your kids grow up a little bit and start to make some minor decisions on their own. How do expect them to be 16 year olds or 18 and get up for work or school without you if they don't learn the consequences of not managing their time well?
2007-01-15 03:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I am not sure what your question has to do with embarrassing your children. However I do want to add a few things... First embarrassment is a part of life. Parents will forever be embarrassing their children whether they intend to do it or not. And other people will too. They have to learn how to deal with that embarrassment and it is best they learn how to do it before they are adults.
Now as far as being strict. You are right there are some things you do need to be strict about and you do know best. That is why you are the parent and they are the children
2007-01-15 02:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 14 and I embarrass her by my very existence apparently. I would think that embarrassing our children on purpose would be way out of line but everything embarrasses a teenager- even the mere mention of their bedtime in front of a friend.
My daughter has to have her lights out by 10:00 but she has been known to go to sleep before that all on her own.
Good luck to you and yours
2007-01-15 03:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
canipup4...it takes more than just embarrassing your kids for them to hate you.
Though I guess the question was a little too long as something must have been left out to see where they were embarrassed.
None the less embarrass your children, its good for them...builds character! As adults they'll look back and laugh...maybe have some good stories to walk down memory lane with. For you and them to share w/ their kids/your grandchildren. And everyone can get a good laugh at those family gatherings.
2007-01-15 02:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best not to embarrass your kids intentionally, but it's impossible to never do it. The job of being a parent comes first of course. Sometimes that job involves being "embarrassing" to your kids, especially if they're teens.
2007-01-15 02:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by freebird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out it don't matter what u do. Kid's will grow up and be too busy to care about u till the needs some money.
2007-01-15 02:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does this have to do with whether or not you should embarrass them? And I missing something?
AH---Additional details! Thanks!!! I think your husband was right to get onto them in front of their friends--he may should not have called them any names, but why should he wait to get onto then when they are being disrespectful tight then? Is it right for your hubby to be treated that way in front of their friends? No! So, you should explain to your children that if they can't treat you with respect, you won't treat them with respect. If he had waited to get onto them after everyone was gone, the impact would be lost.
I know we don't ever want to intentionally embarrass our kids, but hey--what goes around comes around and your kids are old enough to learn that now. Good luck!
2007-01-15 02:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i took my little brother to the shop for a deal with while he was once approximately four or five years ancient, and after we had been within the core of the sweet aisle (with tons of persons surrounding us) he yelled out the f-bomb.
2016-09-08 00:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids are right. 8:30 is too early. Ask other parents what bedtimes their children have, and use that bedtime for your kids too.
2007-01-15 02:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by G 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋