Okay i am in my first year of college and a commuter.I choose to go to a 2 yr college instead of a 4 yr (even though i got into 3 colleges that were 4 yrs)so i could figure out what i wanted to do and be with my bf.My parents feel like i made a mistake by doing this but are paying for my college tuition and most of my car insurance(i only pay 12.50 a week that goes toward it).They found out that i was lending money to my bf that was not being paid back.Now they say that they wont be giving me any more free spending money for clothing or help with nessary's?I have always loved modeling and acting wanting to do it for fun or a hobby.They said they have signed me up for barbrazion a school that gives classes for modeling/acting/personal development saying it will be my last gift.Parents seem to want to cut me off finanicially with the exception of college tuition over a bf?Is this fair?
2007-01-15 01:52:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
none of this was an issue till they started hating the bf?whom they feel is a looser .
2007-01-15 01:59:23 · update #1
I work for my moms company that does landscape design now they say if i want to keep that job they have too see where the money is being spent?
2007-01-15 02:12:11 · update #2
I also went to a 2-year college, but now i'm at a university. My parents also paid for my school, but i had to pay for my books and all of my car insurance. I think what they are doing is fair. If you have the extra money to give to your boyfriend without getting it back, you have enough money to pay for your own stuff. You're 18/19. Mom and Dad have to start teaching you how to be responsible with your own money. I think they are doing the right thing.
2007-01-15 02:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is totally fair. Your BF is sponging off you. Actually he is sponging off your parents which is even worse because they did not choose to help him. They do not trust you because you did this with money they were giving you in good faith. Your BF should pay them back. No young man who has an ounce of integrity would take money from his GF or his GF's parents. If you want to support him, get a job. Better yet, he should get a job.
Barbizon is not a good choice if you are seriously considering modeling. They will take anyone whether she has potential or not. It is a waste of money. Go to a legitimate modeling agency. They will train you if they think you have potential. Very few make the grade and it is better to know it up front.
2007-01-15 02:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get out of the barbizon school. There's no school that's going to teach you how to be a model, you either got it or you don't. No agency is going to ask you for $200-$300 for a portfolio first. If they're interested enough in you to want to sign you, then they should be interested enough to invest in you, including your portfolio.
Secondly, this about this from your parents point of view. With giving you extra money and you giving your boyfriend money, they are in effect supporting him too.
You parents don't owe you anything else, you're an adult now. That includes a college education.
You chose a 2 year college over a 4 year college to be with your boyfriend. You're not making very good life choices right now. Be content with what they're already paying for, tell them thank you, and get on with your adult life.
2007-01-15 02:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 04:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent myself, They were trying to help you save your money and that way you would have a savings account that would help in those tight situations. But instead you ahve been lending money to a boyfriend that you will not get paid back. As a parent I would be probably doing the same thing to my daughter. Good Luck and I hope you learn somthing out of this whole experience.
2007-01-15 02:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are damn straight its fair! Its their $$$. They could choose not to pay for any of your college or auto or anything else. You are an adult..but your parents are still taking some financial responsibility for you. Consider yourself lucky. Many of us have had to pay our own way from the beginning.
My brother put himself through college, got his Bachelors....took him 8 years of PT school and FT work, little to no help from my parents and now a $40,000 student loan to pay off.
Count your blessing and be Thankful to your parents, instead of being a selfish brat, who thinks that its their duty to provide. If you're at least 17 which I suspect you are, since you are in college then they owe you nothing else...legally they've done their job and raised you.
2007-01-15 02:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why spend money on your bf?he should be the one to treat you.your parents worked really hard to provide your needs and to give you the best because they want you to have a bright future.i thinkyou should focus on your studies first,you can do modelling after you graduate.or you can do modelling while you study,it's like a part-time thing so that you enjoy what you really want and at the same time you'll make your parents proud! remembergirl,havinga bfis okay as long asyou know how to balance it with your other priorities in life.
2007-01-15 02:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your parents, they are paying for your school and all and in return they are not getting money back or help from you paying for school, no you give your money to your boyfriend who says he will pay it back, but will he??? why does he need that money, why can't he get a job and get his own?? they are not being over protected, they are looking out for their daughter who is probebly so in love that she is blinded by it and is too trusty with her bf and lends him money cause he says he loves her and all, but in realaty, will he pay it back??, your parents are working their asses off for your education and to turn around and give yoru extra money to your boyfriend is some sort of insult to them and very disrespectfull. ofcourse don't get me wrong, i can understand how you feel about your bf, you love him and you think he will never do you wrong, and he might be a good guy and all but think of it, how long you know him? has he ever payed you back yet? has he made an effort to pay you back, has he got a job? ever had a job? always letting you pay cause he just ran out of money?? if most of them are answered with yes, he is a looser and you won't get your money back, i been there and still haven't gotten loads of money back, learned my lesson thinking "why didn't i listen to my parents" but hey, i might be totally wrong, good luck with it all girl
2007-01-15 02:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by dutchcutie68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at it from a parent's point of view, I agree with them. They are providing you money for your needs, not your boyfriend. He isn't paying it back so in essence they are giving your boyfriend money without their consent. I'd be pretty unhappy about it too.
Your boyfriend is pretty worthless if he keeps taking money from you and not returning it. That is not borrowing and if he is telling you he will pay it back then he is also lying to you. You should seriously reconsider your relationship with him. Is it more important than your relationship with your parents? At this point you are acting as if it is and you are treating your parents badly. They are trying to help you!
2007-01-15 02:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They totally have the right to cut you off. Your b/f is using you, and why should he be getting money from you that you are getting from your parents. He is an adult and he needs to stand on his own two feet...and so do you. He can go get a job.
2007-01-15 02:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋