some people get stuck to computer games and aren't able to resist the temptation to play them and in the process start disobeying parents...what can be done ?
2007-01-15 01:51:04 · 12 answers · asked by Zeux 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Take away their access to computer unless supervised by you until such time as they show responsible use.
2007-01-15 01:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is the parent here? Hello???? If the child is disobeying the parent because of the computer ,then the computer goes away. Period. Put a new password on it so that he or she cannot use it, and stand firm. Tell the child- age 4 or 20- that when he or she can follow the rules of the house, then he may have an hour on the weekend. If this goes well and it is turned of promply at the hour mark, with NO arguing, then the next weekend maybe it would be an hour both Sat and Sun. Go from there. Keep the password on there, and don't feel bad about switching it off mid game. The rules are the rules. This sounds like a bigger problem than just computers - be sure that you are firm and following through in all areas so that he or she does not get the idea that they are in charge!
2007-01-17 17:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the computer. Call it what you want. There will always be temptation in life. It's not about control, either. Kids get older and wiser and figure out how to get around that. You have to communicate with your kids. Start when they are young and try to set realistic boundaries. We don't always watch tv in our house and we don't always play on the computer. We set limits. It's also not seen as the villian in our house. You cannot point fingers and say - this is bad/evil. Computers are a necessary part of our lives. Like it or not. Kids don't like being controlled. That's when the power struggle comes into play. Love them, try to keep communication open and trust that we raised our kids right. That's the best we can do as parents.
2007-01-17 00:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, both parents must agree to what is needed here. If the computer is treated like any other temptation in life, (TV, sweets, shopping), a child will learn discipline, and respect the boundaries involved. Playing this game should be if, and when the child has kept up their part of the bargain. The computer would be removed altogether if your child can't deal with the arrangement you set up.
Limit the amount of time or set specific times when it is allowed, and set amounts of time that the child will loose computer access for infractions. Be upfront, and if you stick to the agreement most kids will fuss, and carry on, but respect you for the consistent application of rules.
2007-01-15 10:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything can become an obsession if allowed to be.
You as an individual or you as a parent are the one in control - for afterall, the computer does not cut itself on.
If you are the one with the problem of overindulging in activity, begin by limiting yourself to only a certain time to play......lessen it as you go while filling that former timeframe with other activies of varying kinds; little by little lessen the time of gameplaying and before you know it - you can take it or leave it - no big deal.
If you are the parent - can use this same theory ...... as with any other activity, you have the say as to when they can be online and for how long - cannot obey your rule - adapt or do away with the computer as a whole....be the parent.
2007-01-15 09:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is okkkkkkkkkk. many people start feeling the same way but i can tell u a good remedy stay without uer comp 4 a while thts lock it up in a room or go on a holiday where there is no comp then u will start realising tat ther r more interesting tings 2 do
2007-01-15 12:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by sin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a parent, tell this to your child. If you're a child, follow it!
If you care about your parents and have feelings and understand then things could be done:
1. Tell yourself: Why, when i play coputer and annoy them!
2. Ask yourself: Why, should i stop?
3. Obbey: Why, dad! mom! i have stopped playing.
Here are some fav pastimes:
Sing
Sports
Physical games
Read
Learn
Study
Follow your heart, it'll lead you to success!
2007-01-15 09:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think as a parent we need to limit their access, theirs a certain time for the games, house choires and school works.
2007-01-19 03:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by believeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uninstall the games and tell them that you will reinstall them when they start behaving correctly
2007-01-15 14:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by rives 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.
2007-01-15 09:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sean C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋