Hey, I know my question is weird but you dont know me, You dont know what I go through every day. The only thing that is stopping me is that I know i will go to hell.. When i was 17 i started cutting myself about 6 minths later I stopped because I became a little bit happy. I met God and gave my life to him but I was also letting people down because they didnt think i was a good enough christian. I messed up big time and had to move home and a few weeks ago I started cutting myself again. I also started driving hoping something would happen that way I wasnt killing myself it was an accident. I just feel so empty inside and I know the first thing everyone is going to say is see a pschiatrist but its not as easy as you say. I always pretended to be happy but now I dont see a point in pretending I just dont see a point in anyrthing. Another thing you will say is talk to my family etc about it but honestly I dont have any real friends and I was kicked out of home so I know they dont care.
2007-01-15 01:49:46 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
What is stopping you from being happy? Instead of cutting yourself go out and find what is making you sad and make it happy. You might kill yourself too .
2007-01-15 01:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by lemonz 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your problems. I know life can be very hard sometimes. It is big wonderful horrid beautiful and ugly all at the same time. Still, as far as I know, it's the only one we are going to get here on this earth. I don't intend to let go of it even one second before I absolutely have to. And believe it or not, there was a time in my life when I was asking the same questions you are. But I hung in there.
If you really want to take control of your situation, I believe you can do it. It will take some strength and determination. First of all, you need to realize that you MUST take good care of YOU. You are the responsibility of you. You are the boss of you. As an adult, you get to decide for yourself what you are going to allow into your life, your mind, your heart, eyes, ears, mouth, home, etc. It is hard to pretend to be happy when you are not, so you might as well for the time being not waste energy on that. That will come down the road. For now, my suggestion is that you start with your environment. Make your space a comforting place for you to be. Surround yourself with the colors, textures and sounds that you enjoy and stay away from those that bring you down. Paint your walls a warm comforting color, hang pictures you drew yourself or that you like. Listen to music that soothes you and stay away from that which aggravates your emptiness and sorrow. That is my first suggestion.
The second one is for you to exercise. Really ... just 20 - 30 minutes a day of steady activity whether it is with a fitness video, just marching in place or dancing. Whatever you like. Decide to get your body in the best condition it can be in. Fitness is a great antidote to depression. And your mind and emotions will work better for you if they body they live in is healthy and strong.
As far as your spiritual life, it is no one else's call whether or not you are a "good Christian". That is strictly between you and God. Other people do not have any business commenting on that.
And mistakes?? Oh my lord, have I made them. We ALL do. Forgive yourself, dear. Move on from them. You can't change the past, but you can do something about the present and the future.
Best wishes to you!
2007-01-15 02:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you really have to do is start believing in yourself and respecting yourself. You also need to get away from the polarized thinking of good or bad and just realize that you are human and we all make mistakes. Try not to compare yourself to others or think about whether you're good enough or not.
I understand that pulling out of this horrible abyss is not easy. It takes work, it takes focus, it takes little steps forward and sometimes steps backward.
It also takes support and even if you don't have friends and you can't talk to your family you should really find a therapist whom you can trust and learn to open up to. Only when you start to find out why you're leading a self-destructive life will you be able to work on positive ways to deal with this pain and anger. Only then will you be able to start healing.
You are here for a reason and you're not a bad person. You're just hurting something awful and when a person feels that way they can react in ways that end up causing them more pain. Start with where you are right now and don't focus so much on the past. I only say this because focusing too much on the past can sometimes get a person stuck and right now you need to move forward.
See a therapist and get evaluated. Work on ways to start getting to know yourself and find the things within you that are special. We all have gifts to give in this life and you have much to offer, you just haven't found those gifts yet. Please get help right away, because you deserve it.
2007-01-16 10:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep cutting yourself, you probably will die. Whats crazy is that people say that if you do a certain thing you will go to hell, but no one knows for sure where you'll go. People say that if you kill yourself thats where you'll go, no one knows for sure. Go somewhere and do something that will make you happy. Forget about the past, no matter how hard it is. Make new friends. Do what ever you have to do to be happy. Whenever you feel like crap and that no one cares, go to church and prey. Dont give in just b/c life sucks. Never give up, never give in, and once you get down, get back up again. Dont let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.
2007-01-15 05:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it, things changes, people change.
When I was at a different place in my life I had felt the same in ways like you. Everyone has made mistakes and will probably make more. What counts is that you learn to love yourself. Do things or read things that would make you happy. Maybe a job? Or taking a class or two. Maybe learn a trade like photography or some kind of art form? Maybe writing or poetry?
My life is totally different now. And I would have missed out on so much! You have alot of love and light to give. I sincerely hope this helps you in some way.
Good Luck and Best Wishes!
2007-01-15 02:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Red Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've over come the first hurdle as you know you have a problem AND you've stopped pretending also. If doing a one-on-one therapy session isn't your thing or seems too much, then I'm sure you could find out about groups that run in your local area, through your GP. Not only will you be helping yourself but you'll be around people who understand how you're feeling and why you are feeling that way. Your cutting is a cry for help but if no one is noticing then it could go un-noticed until it's too late. Do something about it and you will feel much better about yourself.
2007-01-15 01:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may sound rude-but I had to tell myself this before-stop wallowing in your own pain.It sounds stupid and easy-but if you start actively trying to get the life you want-where your happy-whatever....but spend as much time actually planning and working towards feeling better as you do feeling sorry for yourself-it will be much more productive.As for the christian thing-how do you know your going to hell...hard to believe but the judgements put on you by yourself seem harsher than what God would judge you...never did God say you must be a perfect christian soldier-he loves the sinners too and whatever you've done you can be forgiven,but it sounds like you need to forgive yourself.Your mindset is in a really dark and gloomy place right now-and you need to shake it off.Tell yourself you cant fix whats happened in the past-but you can take steps to make a brighter future for yourself.dont kill yourself-10 years from now you'll be a different person and look back at this as a rough patch that made you grow stronger.
2007-01-15 02:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly mate, suicide isnt the answer. I myself contemplated it not so long back but realised its the cowards way out. you need to address your situation and take it head on. dont let things get you down, theres always another way. what exactly is it thats making u feel this way? I always felt embarrased to discuss how I felt and wouldnt share my burdens with anyone either, let alone wanting to discuss it with a doctor. Everything seemed to come out when I got wasted on drink and it made me look even more of a fool. Try to find somethin that makes u happy, a hobby or interest. Im sure ur family does care regardless if u were kicked out. Try ringin the samaritans, at least that way you dont have to talk to people face to face. hope ive been some help and take care
2007-01-15 02:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by SCULLY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they care - they just watch you destroy yourself. You are suffering from low self-esteem, which causes you to do the cutting - it's the only way you feel in control. Please - drive yourself to a support group and make some new friends. You sound like a wonderful person who is just lonely and depressed. The doctors can help with the depression if you are willing to talk openly with them, even if you need medication temporarily. THERE'S NO SHAME IN ASKING FOR HELP! Take care of yourself physically, as well. Make sure you're eating properly and your body is healthy and the mind will get healthier, too. Good luck to you - I care....let me know you're okay. And, anyone who attacks the way you practice Christianity is NOT being a good Christian themselves...ours is not to criticize, but to carry the word (and I'm not even Christian, but all religions believe that!)
2007-01-15 01:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by SUZI S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to worry. Like you say, I don't know what your life is like, but it sounds like you feel you're failing in some way. Sit down and think things through. Write down anything that's on your mind - things that worry you, what you want out of life, what makes you a good / bad person. Try to find out what's making your life difficult and then think about what you might be able to do to make things better. Even very small things. You could try talking things through with somone like the Samaritans (in the UK) or a similar service where you live.
I really hope things get better for you. Best of luck,
Adam
2007-01-15 01:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Ad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on friday i told my self :on monday at 4 pm ( french time coz thats where i am , france) i will kill myself ;. its 15:53 and ive decided to get it down one notch and just hurt myself so bad that i will end up with long and painfull stitches ..
there is nothing i can say .. but for example .. set urself small projects to look forward to.. like oh next weekend i will do this , buy this, eat this, listen to this .... u know tiny little things that make u look ahead ... also i dont know if there is anyone who loves u A LOT .. but i tend to think about them (being my mother) and just imagine them after my death , their tears , their cries and words ... that just makes me step away from a suicide.
think about the good times in ur life and that U CAN let urself try to be as happy as back then .. in a different way .. but as happy .. or if u have never been happy then think about how happy ud want to be and again U CAN let urself to be as happy as that ..
look inded i dont know what u go thru each day ..
if u want to talk to another very depressed soul who can actually cheer u up or understand and most of all listen/read ..
here is my mail :
bloody_snowman@hotmail.com
2007-01-15 01:59:11 · answer #11 · answered by jaures m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋