You're visiting your in-laws with your spouse and kids.
Your mother-in-law is on the talking to her uncle on the phone.
He asks her what they are doing and she says your spouses name and the kids are visiting and completely leaves you out of the conversation about who's visiting.
2007-01-15 01:45:51 · 19 answers · asked by Sarah S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm afraid to say anything now a day's. Every time i say something i get violation. But I'll try anyhow. Seems to me that she was deliberately leaving your name out. All you can do is know in your heart, you have him and she no longer does. I think you should try to show her some Ernest love. She might change. If that does not work. Just ignore her.
2007-01-15 01:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Been there done that. I would go and spend some time there with her alone and feel out this situation. Some mothers-in-law can be real rude, but not realize that they are doing it. Go visit her a couple of times...you could take the kids too. If you feel like she is not being rude to you there alone ask her about it. Just be honest and tell her that you were offended by it.
I would try not to involve my husband because if he is like my ex he will think you are asking him to pick sides and be choked at you and tell you that you are over reacting and stop whining...
Just be honest with her...she will either tell you off or have more respect for you for standing up for yourself. Do remember your manners though, don't be a ***** to her or it will all backfire on you and she will tell your husband that you were rude.
2007-01-15 10:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this particular incident alone would offend me. When she says your spouse's name and then just adds that the kids are there as well, she is including you. She is including everybody who comes along with your spouse because the truth of the matter is that it is your spouse who grew up with his mother and she thinks of him first (force of habit). If she always excludes you then you can be offended, but this story in isolation is perfectly understandable.
2007-01-15 09:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by KB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it sounds like she doesn't really like you. I would not go visit her again if I were you and talk to your spouse about how rude she is and maybe he can talk to her and find out why she is being this way towards you.
2007-01-15 09:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by K-E-G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for problems it was probably understood you were there too. She was just getting the info to him in the shortest way possible. If she had only said sons name she would have to explain were you and kids were.By saying it the way she did she knew he would understand. Don't get bogged down by things that don't matter save your energy for the big issues.
2007-01-15 09:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it would offend me. Altho I doubt it was intentional or meant to hurt your feelings... Did this "uncle" know you? Perhaps she was just saying their names because he knew who they were. Or she thought that it was just assumed that if they were there, you were there also. A lot of people say and do things without thinking how it looks or sounds to other people. I would let it slide, but if it keeps happening or she continues to disclude you from further things, then maybe you or your husband should mention it to her. Otherwise just chalk it up to miscommunication.
2007-01-15 09:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you read into it. Most of the time the person they are talking to know the son and they may have met you once or twice but it doesn't mean they know who you are. If you notice they didn't identif the kids by name either. let it go.
2007-01-15 09:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Who cares!! It was probably just an oversight on her part, and if she did it intentionally, then she is a bitc* who doesn't deserve a second thought!
What you should have done is waited for her to hang up the phone and then walk up to her, with your hand extended and introduce yourself as if you had never met her before. When she looked at you funny, you could explain your motive. I bet she wouldn't forget you again!!!
2007-01-15 10:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. You're not their blood relative so it's not natural and normal to include you in that conversation. You shouldn't feel bad about it. If you want to be recognized by his family, do something "outstanding" to gain that recognition. It's all up to you.
2007-01-15 09:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother-in-laws are just like that. They feel that know one could love there son more then them.
2007-01-15 09:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋